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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by mablie(m): 9:48am On Aug 04, 2017 |
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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ashjay001(m): 9:48am On Aug 04, 2017 |
lawrykings: The truth is, d op talks abt our kids. U're already grown, with full formed values n character. Any advise I give u, are from my perspective. Some things cant be passed by word of mouth. I presently get to spend time with my kids n try to instill some of my values. As much as I can, I try to actively participate in their lives, despite d fact that we live apart, though I still wish they're directly under my care. Majority of what I do is, trying to make them individuals n independent irrespective of external pressures. They will follow their paths, hopefully, mine will be attractive enough to be emulated. As has been my mantra, u can drag a horse to d river, but getting d horse to take a drink, ........ 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by mablie(m): 9:48am On Aug 04, 2017 |
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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by lawrykings(m): 9:52am On Aug 04, 2017 |
ashjay001: OK sir, thank you! |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by mablie(m): 9:54am On Aug 04, 2017 |
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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by mablie(m): 9:56am On Aug 04, 2017 |
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Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Jman06(m): 9:56am On Aug 04, 2017 |
If you are a dominant lady, marry a submissive guy. If you are a dominant guy, marry a submissive lady. That way we will have peace! 3 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by thinkmoney(m): 10:04am On Aug 04, 2017 |
my children...marry somebody with deeeep pocket, it the surest guarantee of getting orgasm everyweek...security you know what I mean?!..a mind free of worries...what else do somebory wants my children...marry somebody with deeeep pocket, it the surest guarantee of getting orgasm everyweek...security you know what I mean?!..a mind free of worries...what else do somebory wants |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by desoul2004(m): 10:07am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Mcreloaded: Another Gospel truth. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nofuckgiven: 10:09am On Aug 04, 2017 |
FX:I am a woman oga. I don't know why you sound so frustrated but like I said before nobody forced you to get married. Stop the pity party and get a divorce instead of dying in the marriage. Last time I checked, marriage is not compulsory. It is even in the Bible. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by desoul2004(m): 10:18am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Nofuckgiven: I doubt if you're married. if you're, then you live in pretence. 2 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 10:21am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Omowumeee are you giving me a chance or not? |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 10:32am On Aug 04, 2017 |
seXytOhbAd: You didn't advise your son not to cheat on his wife, then you advise your daughter not to act emotional when cheated on_but she should pray. How can a simple babylike creature turn a woman into vindictive prayer warrior? Men are not babies, a man should be the head of the house. OP, my golden rule is marry for all the right reasons and treat your spouse as you want to be treated. Everyone deserves, love, respect and fidelity. No one should expect the other to have unnecessary headache on his/her matter. It's already difficult enough, don't complicate it. Jman06: This is hilarious!! |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ImaIma1(f): 10:38am On Aug 04, 2017 |
ststyreal: Guy i am married. And i don't seem to understand what you are saying and i am not a newly wed. I married a liberal man as the other poster mentioned. No protocols or plenty serenre. It has never been hard. We have our misunderstandings but that is normal. Even siblings fight. Both of you should not leave the marriage to work out itself. Work on it |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nofuckgiven: 10:42am On Aug 04, 2017 |
desoul2004:I am single but I only said the honest but bitter truth. What exactly do you mean by pretence? 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by desoul2004(m): 10:46am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Nofuckgiven: Then, wait till you get married. After 3yrs come back here and share your thoughts. Don't counter any married men again, because you're still far from the reality. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nofuckgiven: 10:51am On Aug 04, 2017 |
desoul2004:What are you blabbering? I only spoke the truth. I don't need to get married to know that divorce is an option or that the Bible didn't make marriage compulsory. You can do whatever you wish. Its a free world. I have said my own mind. Peace. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Jman06(m): 10:57am On Aug 04, 2017 |
PaperLace:Lol...That's the truth! You can't have two captains in a ship, and i am enlightened enough to know that no gender has the monopoly of wanting to be in control. I also know that there are guys who desire dominant ladies. Life is full of varieties and everybody has a match. Problem arises because people go for those who don't match them. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Nobody: 11:04am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Jman06: Nothing to add, you've said it all. The idea should be to complement each other, you are partners _ not competitors. 2 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by slimtoney(m): 11:05am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Imam Ahmed ibn Hanbal’s advice to his son on his wedding day: Dear son, you will not attain good fortune in your home except by 10 characteristics which you show to your wife, so remember them and be enthusiastic in acting upon them. As for the first two; women like attention and they like to be told clearly that they are loved. So don’t be stingy in expressing your love for your wife. If you become limited in expressing your love, you will create a barrier of harshness between you and her, and there will be a decrease in affection. 3, Ladies hate a strict, overcautious man, yet they seek to use the soft vulnerable one. So use each quality appropriately. This will be more appealing for love and it will bring you peace of mind. 4. Ladies like from their husbands what their husbands like from them, i.e. kind words, good looks, clean clothes and a pleasant odour. Therefore, always remain in that state. 5, Indeed, the house is under the sovereignty of the woman. While she remains therein, she feels that she is sitting upon her throne, and that she is the chief of the house . Stay clear of destroying this kingdom of hers and do not ever attempt to dethrone her, otherwise you will be trying to snatch her sovereignty. A king gets most angry at he who tries to strip him of his authority, even if he portrays to show something else. 6. A woman wants to love her husband, but at the same time she does not want to lose her family. So do not put yourself and her family in the same scale, because then her choice will be down to either you or her family. And even if she does choose you over her family, she will remain in anxiety, which will then turn into hatred towards you in your daily life. 7. Surely woman has been created from a curved rib, and this is the secret of her beauty, and the secret of the attraction towards her. And this is no defect in her, because ‘the eyebrows look beautiful due to them being curved’. So if she errs, do not rebuke her in a manner in which there is no gentleness, attempting to straighten her; otherwise you will simply break her and her breaking, is her divorce. At the same time do not let her off upon that mistake, otherwise her crookedness will increase and she will become arrogant with her ego. Thereafter, she will never soften for you and she won’t listen to you, so stay in between the two. 8. It is in the women’s nature to be ungrateful towards their husbands and to deny favours. If you were to be nice to her for her whole life but you grieved her once, she will say, “I have never seen any good from you”. So don’t let this attitude of her make you dislike her or to run away from her. If you dislike this feature of hers, you will be pleased with some other good habits within her, so create a balance. 9. Surely there are times when a woman goes through some conditions of bodily weakness and fatigue of the mind. Such that Allah has relieved her of some of her compulsory worships during that period; Allah has totally pardoned her from praying, and has postponed the days of fasting for her within this break to a later date until she regains her health and becomes normal in her temperament once more. Thus, during these days, treat her in a godly manner. Just as Allah has relieved her of the duties, you should also lessen your demands and instructions from her during those days. 10. Last but not least, know that a woman is like a captive with you. Therefore, have mercy upon her. Translated by Abdul Rahim Edited by Mawlana Abdus Subhan |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Jman06(m): 11:06am On Aug 04, 2017 |
PaperLace:Exactly! |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Daeylar(f): 11:16am On Aug 04, 2017 |
Jman06: @ the bolded THIS IS JUST THE TRUTH, Some guys like dominant ladies and some ladies like dominant men, I guess there maybe some who are in between don't need dominant partners and do not want to be dominated, Exactly everyone has a match and instead of them searching for people that match and complement them they go after people or settle with people who don't, then start complaining, I don't get it 3 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by segunojo866: 11:25am On Aug 04, 2017 |
I don't think marriage is necessary. I hate to be caged with one bitch until death separate us. It's good to have a baby mama but getting married to a woman is hell of trouble. 3 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by segunojo866: 11:30am On Aug 04, 2017 |
segunojo866:nigeria women are so lazy. They are ready to sleep in your apartment,have constant sex and even eat you dry until you are broke before looking for another man to prey on again. The most annoying thing ever is that they love going to church. 3 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by dumodust(m): 11:34am On Aug 04, 2017 |
lastburn:Bad guy |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by holluphemydavid(m): 11:42am On Aug 04, 2017 |
i tink dis thread is very relevant for me |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by VickyRotex(f): 11:59am On Aug 04, 2017 |
OLUJOSHINS: Oh wow! I'm honoured. Wondering how you knew this. As I'm not sure we've ever communicated on this forum before unless it's an alternate moniker. |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Jman06(m): 12:00pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Daeylar:Yeah, there are those in between{I belong here} who don't want partners who are doormats and are easily pushed around, who take whatever is thrown at them. It disgusts me when a lady is like that. That doesn't mean she should be unreasonably troublesome or heartless, but should know when to stand her ground and correct me when i am going astray. There are also guys who would be submissive if they were born in liberal societies, but because ours is one where men are EXPECTED to be lords, they had to pretend to be dominant in order to gain acceptance. 1 Like |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ImaIma1(f): 12:11pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
desoul2004: It seems some married people mess up their marriages and then make others and single people feel like all marriages are challenged and bad like theirs. Just the way men that cheat and cant control themselves say "all men cheat". Your marriage is not the standard. Each couple to their own. The outcome of each marriage is based on your decisions, choices, habits, traditions, commitment, mentality, level of wisdom or knowlege,exposure, liberality, love, consideration, responsibility... There are couples that are enjoying their marriages without pretence. Not all marriages are doomed 4 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by ststyreal(f): 12:51pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
TinaAnita:Yes ooooo my friend, its a personal decision though. May God help us all amen!!!! |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Daeylar(f): 1:01pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Jman06: True, also at your first paragraph few men may think the woman is going out of bounds trying to correct them, they feel what it means to be the head is to have the final say, sad. Then when the woman tries to speak, they say she is not submissive enough @the bolded, Exactly, I agree, you see a situation where people are always saying be submissive, be submissive to be a good wife, a good wife is always submissive, and all that and when they have or when they see a woman who isn't what their idea of submissive is, instead if trying to find their types or minding their own business they try and break the woman down and keep harping on a woman needs to be submissive to be a good wife. It's tiring because the fact that you feel that a woman isn't good enough to be your wife because she isn't submissive doesn't mean someone else won't like her the way she is this can also go for people who mock men who are not as authoritative as they feel men should be and they call them weak instead of leaving them alone and moving on It's doesn't seem like we are tolerant people in this country at all. It's really sad because if someone is not what you want in a life partner you need to let them go and move on. Trying to force people to become what you want is wrong and doesn't work, 2 Likes |
Re: If You Were To Advise Your Son/daughter On Marriage, What W'd Be Your Greatest? by Jman06(m): 1:15pm On Aug 04, 2017 |
Yeah! Marriage will be alot easier if people marry those that complement them. Nigerians shoul learn to mind their business and allow two adults to do what works for them[quote author=Daeylar post=59142926] True, also at your first paragraph few men may think the woman is going out of bounds trying to correct them, they feel what it means to be the head is to have the final say, sad. Then when the woman tries to speak, they say she is not submissive enough @the bolded, Exactly, I agree, you see a situation where people are always saying be submissive, be submissive to be a good wife, a good wife is always submissive, and all that and when they have or when they see a woman who isn't what their idea of submissive is, instead if trying to find their types or minding their own business they try and break the woman down and keep submissive to be a good wife. It's tiring because the fact that you feel that a woman isn't good enough to be your. this can alsauthoritative as they feel men should be and they 1 Like |
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