Lyssa069:
I am new to this forum. I came across this page on Facebook and decided this would be a good place to share what I am going through and get advice. I am a 47 year old American woman who meant a 29 year old Igbo man online. At first I did not know what to think. I never dated anyone so young before. But I found we had alot in common and talked for hours on video chat and what's up. We meant in April and now talking about marriage in December. When I meant him, he was just getting out of a 6 year relationship that was very hurtful to him. I was in a 15 year relationship that was ending in divorce long before I meant him.

When we first started talking, he had a job and his own place. Soon after, he lost his apartment and needed help finding a new place. He asked me to help him with the cost of an apartment for the year. I thought about it for almost a month and decided to help him. I sent him the money for the apartment. Then about a month later his mother was very sick and in the hospital. He needed help with her medical bills so I helped him with that too. His mother is still in the hospital according to him. Because he missed so much time at work, he lost his job and he is looking for another one. In the course of doing that, he has now decided to start his own saloon and needs help getting started. No, I did not send him the money for that but he still ask me.

In the meantime, I agreed to marry him. I will be spending a month in Nigeria to spend time with and for our wedding. I wanted to get go to the court and do it but he said we have to do the court and traditional wedding. I'm okay with that I guess. He does tell me that he needs a job so he can get ready for the wedding and I dont have to spend alot of money.

Here is my issue, no one knows we are together. I mean on social media or anywhere else. I meant a few of his friends on video chat but that was some ago. One of his friends I looked at like a little brother but he told me he was in love with me and I had to stop talking to him. The fact that he does not want anyone to know until we are married bothers me. I asked him is it because I am American, older and fat. He said no that he is protecting me and himself. I don't understand and I am trying but I feel like he is ashamed of me. He said that his family members will be upset and ask alot of questions. I'm okay with that. He is still friends with his ex and she comments all the time but when I do, he removes them. Something is wrong here. He keeps telling me to wait until we are married and everyone will know. Just hold on. I love him very much and I try not to think of the age difference and look at him as a man. I'm so confused

Lyssa069:
I am new to this forum. I came across this page on Facebook and decided this would be a good place to share what I am going through and get advice. I am a 47 year old American woman who meant a 29 year old Igbo man online. At first I did not know what to think. I never dated anyone so young before. But I found we had alot in common and talked for hours on video chat and what's up. We meant in April and now talking about marriage in December. When I meant him, he was just getting out of a 6 year relationship that was very hurtful to him. I was in a 15 year relationship that was ending in divorce long before I meant him.

When we first started talking, he had a job and his own place. Soon after, he lost his apartment and needed help finding a new place. He asked me to help him with the cost of an apartment for the year. I thought about it for almost a month and decided to help him. I sent him the money for the apartment. Then about a month later his mother was very sick and in the hospital. He needed help with her medical bills so I helped him with that too. His mother is still in the hospital according to him. Because he missed so much time at work, he lost his job and he is looking for another one. In the course of doing that, he has now decided to start his own saloon and needs help getting started. No, I did not send him the money for that but he still ask me.

In the meantime, I agreed to marry him. I will be spending a month in Nigeria to spend time with and for our wedding. I wanted to get go to the court and do it but he said we have to do the court and traditional wedding. I'm okay with that I guess. He does tell me that he needs a job so he can get ready for the wedding and I dont have to spend alot of money.

Here is my issue, no one knows we are together. I mean on social media or anywhere else. I meant a few of his friends on video chat but that was some ago. One of his friends I looked at like a little brother but he told me he was in love with me and I had to stop talking to him. The fact that he does not want anyone to know until we are married bothers me. I asked him is it because I am American, older and fat. He said no that he is protecting me and himself. I don't understand and I am trying but I feel like he is ashamed of me. He said that his family members will be upset and ask alot of questions. I'm okay with that. He is still friends with his ex and she comments all the time but when I do, he removes them. Something is wrong here. He keeps telling me to wait until we are married and everyone will know. Just hold on. I love him very much and I try not to think of the age difference and look at him as a man. I'm so confused

Lyssa069:
@Fortuner Teller, I would never cry "poor me". If I made the decision to date or marry a Nigerian man and worst came to worst, it's my fault and no one else. I have never dated a Nigerian man before. I have been approached by some in my area. I have always been scared because of what we Americans hear. By the way, I do have 25, 26, 27 all the way to 60 year old men approaching. You are as young as you feel. It does not matter if he is Nigerian or American as long as he is respectful and honest.

I am not sure why you are so bitter in the way you come across. But you need a hug or something. Have a nice evening

Lyssa069:
I was asked what do I look like. This is me

A grandma and her money shall soon part.

Lyssa069:
@Fortune Teller, thank you for your honesty. That is all wanted from my post nothing more or nothing less. I know what I must do.

Lyssa069:
@Fortune Teller, thank you for your honesty. That is all wanted from my post nothing more or nothing less. I know what I must do.

ebukahandsome:
Madam you no be american... PERIOD! !!
I no wan chook mouth for your matter because you don already lie.
When you ready to talk true we go help you

beastofwestros:
what is your Facebook ID?
because from what I see these are lies... you na confirm Naija guy but I wonder what you stand to gainwhat is your Facebook ID?
because from what I see these are lies... you na confirm Naija guy but I wonder what you stand to gain

Lyssa069:
@Reddevils, I thought it was to goid to be true. I guess I was hoping for the best. Thank you for your input and being respectful.

Lyssa069:
Sorry but I don't give out my facebook info or any of my personal information. Last, I don't understand why some of you don't think I'm American. That's funny because I am all American. I don't have to prove myself to you or anyone else. I asked for advise and I got it

Beverly1:
Lyssa don't give out any ID here...if anybody doesn't believe u, that's not ur business....u have been warned.
If shes not American, that's are her headache...by don't u think giving her id out here might expose her to more scammers...pls leave her id out of this please

Lyssa069:
@Fortuner Teller, I would never cry "poor me". If I made the decision to date or marry a Nigerian man and worst came to worst , it's my fault and no one else. I have never dated a Nigerian man before. I have been approached by some in my area. I have always been scared because of what we Americans hear. By the way, I do have 25, 26, 27 all the way to 60 year old men approaching. You are as young as you feel.