megakom:
I'm going to try to summarise this as much as I can,because I'm in a dilemma and I don't know what to do or who to turn to for the best advice. I met this guy about four years ago and we started dating while I was still in school, the guy is a good guy and a husband material, we love each other so much, in fact there are somethings that the guy did and I concluded that he really loves me, we started having sex 2years into the relationship... Finally, he proposed last year and I was so happy and I said yes(its not like I wasn't expecting him to propose), so when I told my family about him, a good number of them refused because the young man is from a different tribe from mine and I guess because I am the last child.. Mind you the guy is ready for marriage but my family has been causing the delay so we have been meeting with pastors and neutral bodies to help us intervene in the issue.... Fast forward to this week I discovered that my guy has been cheating on me for less than a month now and when I confronted him about it he didn't deny, in fact he's feeling bad because it's actually the first time such thing is happening to him (I'm sure of that) and he feels so dirty,guilty and has lost his pride, he's even finding it difficult to face me and told me he will accept whatever punishment I choose to give him but guys I'm so confused cause I don't know what to do, should I break the engagement? Because it's really going to be difficult for me, should I forgive him? And if I forgive him what's the assurance that he won't do it again even in marriage?? Please you guys should advice me

Evaberry:
Ask yourself if you are ready to get married to a cheat.

once a cheat always a cheat

treatment of std's are very expensive.

Even the emotional trauma Is something else.

A man that can actively pursue a sexual relationship with another woman is not worth your time or space.

Nma27:
Is it that ur parents didn't know u were dating this guy and told u from start that u can't marry him? These families carry out investigation into families they want to b joined into by marriage, so some might refuse consent because of negative findings. As for d cheating, forgive him.

Nma27:
Is it that ur parents didn't know u were dating this guy and told u from start that u can't marry him? These families carry out investigation into families they want to b joined into by marriage, so some might refuse consent because of negative findings. As for d cheating, forgive him.

megakom:


I told them about him at a point in the relationship but they thought I was not serious or they thought the relationship was not serious, it's been over 2years I told them,i never knew they were so realistic especially my mum...
My dad is very open to the issue but and I have the support of just one of my siblings, the others are indifferent while the eldest is trying to be in control

Nma27:
Your family blessings matters. U could go ahead like dem westerners and elope

megakom:



I'll surely get their blessings, I'm trying to get my father to my side, because I know once my dad agrees the others will tag along but I'm just worried about him, though I know he totally regrets it but I don't want such thing to repeat itself again

Evaberry:
Ask yourself if you are ready to get married to a cheat.

once a cheat always a cheat

treatment of std's are very expensive.

Even the emotional trauma Is something else.

A man that can actively pursue a sexual relationship with another woman is not worth your time or space.

Nma27:
I don't see anything stopping him from cheating perhaps when u are heavily pregnant. Its best not to dwell on it. You are lucky he's sorely sorry for d act.

thepussyhunter:


na wa for all these girls o


why y'all bringing up the negative shiiii only

una want make she leave the guy con become single again like most ladies eh?

Na wah o

Nma27:
Realism has nofin to do with negative shii. She won't leave d guy. No one is perfect.

thepussyhunter:



and how the fvck did you come to that conclusion @bolded

and sorry for saying this but i sense strong hatred for guys from you (guys who are cheats especialy)........


You must have come across alot to feel this way...........................




And ermmm op you said its his first time and he feels extremely guilty abi plus he loves you very much and even confessed to you......

I wouldnt directly tell you to go back to him but i want you to consider the above things and if you ever decide to forgive him persuade him to promise to never cheat again

plus ermm how many times did he cheat with the other lady?

If its more than 2-3 times flee from him o

megakom:
I'm going to try to summarise this as much as I can,because I'm in a dilemma and I don't know what to do or who to turn to for the best advice. I met this guy about four years ago and we started dating while I was still in school, the guy is a good guy and a husband material, we love each other so much, in fact there are somethings that the guy did and I concluded that he really loves me, we started having sex 2years into the relationship... Finally, he proposed last year and I was so happy and I said yes(its not like I wasn't expecting him to propose), so when I told my family about him, a good number of them refused because the young man is from a different tribe from mine and I guess because I am the last child.. Mind you the guy is ready for marriage but my family has been causing the delay so we have been meeting with pastors and neutral bodies to help us intervene in the issue.... Fast forward to this week I discovered that my guy has been cheating on me for less than a month now and when I confronted him about it he didn't deny, in fact he's feeling bad because it's actually the first time such thing is happening to him (I'm sure of that) and he feels so dirty,guilty and has lost his pride, he's even finding it difficult to face me and told me he will accept whatever punishment I choose to give him but guys I'm so confused cause I don't know what to do, should I break the engagement? Because it's really going to be difficult for me, should I forgive him? And if I forgive him what's the assurance that he won't do it again even in marriage?? Please you guys should advice me

megakom:
L



This is the very first time he has ever cheated and he even confessed that the lady is not even half of what I am and she's a divorcee with two kids....