Without solid reasons for saying no to premarital sex, our young ones are vulnerable in times of temptation, doubt and questioning from their friends and peers.
Love is not primarily a feeling. If love were a feeling, God could not command it because you can’t make someone feel something. For example, you can tell your child to eat rice and he is going to like it. You may be able to get your child to eat rice, but that doesn’t mean you can get him or her to eat it. You can command someone to love another person which is an act of will but you can’t make him or her to like that person because you cannot force an emotion. The biblical picture of love is one of giving without expecting anything in return. Accepting another person without condition.
In 1 corinthian13, Paul gave us what a good description what love is. Therefore, love makes the security, happiness and welfare of another as important to us as our own. But the pressure line is many teen reduced love to ‘’ if you love me, you will have sex with me’’ sex is never the test of love. The true nature of love is seen in how we treat people (see 1corinthians13:4-7) true love is giving and trusting, secure, safe and being loyal to one another. And because its priority is to protect and provide for the loved one.
Lets be honest: sex feels good whether participants are married or just of hormone – driven young adolescents. God designed sex to be enjoyed within the context of marriage. Sex is an expression of RESPECT and HONOUR from one person to another in the ‘’MARRIAGE COVENANT’’. It has been said that when a purpose of a thing is not known, ABUSE is inevitable.
Today, young people are looking for sex without love, love without marriage and marriage without responsibility. The world’s idea of sex is shallow. The world says “Make love” God says “Love” we have confused sex with love. It’s one thing to know how to make love to someone. Making love is merely technical experience. Whereas love is a spiritual act. If truly sex actually produced love, no one will feel love more than “Prostitutes”. As a general rule, many teenagers have reduced love to
(1) A warm feelings or emotional reaction
(2) A positive response to a relationship that makes them feel good which are self-directed and against God standard.
from: www.kingdomyouthinternational.com