kimbraa:
Are you quoting me cause you felt like or that you know what my insecurities are?.

Have you ever taken time to study stuffs on the human psychic and how it works?. You should read 'Why Men Love Bìtches' by Sherry Argov. Then come back and tell me of being scared that he'd get tired of me.

There's something called coming off as needy in a relationship and it's a turnoff. Don't seat there and be looking for who'll call you 24/7, don't you have another life aside the relationship to focus on?.

kimbraa:
I won't condone a guy who calls everyday 'cause too much of anything is bad. I would actually perceive him to be jobless 'cause we all need our space so he shouldn't act like his life revolve around the relationship. However, I don't expect him calling in weeks 'cause communication is vital in the relationship.

Perhaps, twice or thrice a week is cool.

fumisko:
@kimbraa
So this is the First Lady I am hearing say this.
But do u truly feel emotionally fulfilled from this type of a relationship?
Forget about acting up and all for him so he can chase u @why men marry bitches o....to me that's acting up...I have read the book.

If u guys chat once weekly what then Differentiates him from a normal friend?
Another question is are u sure he truly loves u with such an attitude
Nothing is worse than being in a relationship with someone who doesn't love u or think about u oooo...and show it with actions....
I may just end up cheating emotionally with another guy in such case if I try managing it.

ibkayee:
Can't imagine my partner not communicating with me everyday, texting would be daily, I'm not really a call person so 3-5 days a week would suffice.

One week ke, that's not your boyfriend lol

Odunharry:

Lmao.. Some are not just into calls of a thing na.
Some prefer just chats

kimbraa:
Don't confuse caring for one's partner with calling on a daily basis. That isn't caring but making yourself too available which is wrong.

When you call in that manner the euphoria dies off quickly. Space makes your spouse miss and desire you and if you don't make it happen by rationalising the calls then everything in the relationship will be monotonous which kills surprises.

I am not lecturing some teenagers who just fell in love, right?. I stick with once or twice a week and perhaps thrice but not everyday. It's all shade of inviting boredom into your affair.

ibkayee:

Lol I'm not really a call person, as long as we're communicating. OP said communicating at all, not just calls

imustsaymymindo:


The book "why men love bitches" is a classic literature. One that would get you a man who would be infatuated with you for just a short-term i.e when he finally realises what he is in love with. There is the male (player) version of books like these too, they all have the same toxic effect. No wonder "why men love bitches" was my unfaithful ex's favourite literature.

In a country where we were taught la cram la pour whenever reading books, how would people know that the information in a book is to be dissected and only the meaningful one (if any) should be applicable?

@Fumisko Purposely ignoring people or giving space to your partner for some time to get attention is the order of contemporary relationships. Men, boys, girls, women... they all do it. Even while they miss you so much, they punish themselves by restraining.

fumisko:
But is it right? If he can't be himself with me or me be myself around him what are we doing together??
Why can't I tell u I miss u when I do?
N hv him do same?
I just need real people
Tell me what u don't like when u don't
Tell me wat u like
Tell me what angered u n why it angered u
Let us reason together n find a way out together
Sure we Wld fight sometimes...but it would help us understand ourselves better.
Tell me if my hair is smelling in love n force me to change it if need be
Where is the real ness of relationships?

imustsaymymindo:


Aww.. Fumisko. Come here, let me hug you.

I can feel the frustration. All I can say is you would someday find that person. Dont settle for less.

And you can't actually blame some people for lack of communication, some people have lived a life of not having someone to talk to right from childhood, others- victim of rape, abuse and were threatened never not to reveal to anyone which in future can affect the way they communicate.

Also, communication involves emotions. The society frown at people showing emotions especially men. Soft, moist are what they call people in that category.

Juat stay positive, you would get the right one, dear.

fumisko:
Submit yourself for a hug

imustsaymymindo:


Here I am!

Angy55:
The call should be from both parties, not one sided. And even if you and your spouse chat a whole day, before saying good night let there be at least 3-5 minutes of talk on phone.

In the morning while both of you are preparing for work from your different location, you can just drop a quick voice note on what's app or do the normal phone call for one minute.

It is only those who are not busy that would have time to chat all the time.
Come to think of it, the feeling one gets when you drop a message and it takes so many hours to get a reply because he/she is so busy.



Thanks dear
I grab
Lol@ that feeling ...crazy one it is