We've dated for about three years now one out of which we are engaged. I've noticed during our courtship that my lady has a certain attitude that when she makes up her mind nobody not even her mother can stop her from carrying out her desire.
Rewind to 2015, our relationship hit the rock and she met a new guy she left me for and I begged her to consider staying but she turned all my effort, her moms and her siblings down. Exactly a years after, the guy jilted her over marriage planned bw her and the new guy. Long story short she came begging and I decided to give her a chance( yea call me stupid) but by this time, Since i couldn't bear the pains of the break up I had relocated to calabar from abj.
She and her mom are usually on logger heads, I'm usually the one suing for peace bw her and her mom.... yes her mom too has her own issue of habitual quarrels which led to my fiancée elder sister quitting her job in abj and relocating to ph permanently.
The issue is that my ex claims she is not happy to stay under the same room with her mother anymore bcoz of the routine quarrels and other altercation from her mom as she has been diagnosed with high bp. She used this premise as reasons for quitting home to go stay with her friend in abj. As much as I understand her plight bcoz I've witnessed on several occasions her mom say some mean things to her, she leaving home to stay alone doesn't sit well with me. She told me about her planned moves but I thought she was joking coz she's said such years before without action, so I thought there was nothing to worry about, but I was shocked when she pinged me telling me she left home a day before. The mom has made several effort to persuade her ditch her position to a point of even crying but my lady wouldn't listen. I'm just scared and concerned coz I'm of the opinion that a lady that wouldn't listen to her mom wouldn't listen to me in marriage. Yea, she has fought hard with with over the years, we've hard our share of storms but it's the last thing I wanted for her now coz I feel she will be more accessible to men and as I speak I have admission in usa with a partial scholarship plus an Area Mgr job in calabar which I'm yet to decide which to chose. My plan is to reward her for buildning and standing by me but he recent turns of even stirs up concern in me.
I need your kind advise pls

Abeg go and chase your dreams biko...before person wey carry confusion take scatter your dream

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[quote author=koife post=60309368] I'm just scared and concerned coz I'm of the opinion that a lady that wouldn't listen to her mom wouldn't listen to me in marriage. now coz I feel she will be more accessible to men and as I speak I have admission in usa with a partial scholarship plus an Area Mgr job in calabar which I'm yet to decide which to chose. [/quote


you've already given yourself the answer you need.

She doesn't love you anymore, she's just killing time with you and doesn't want to be single. immediately a New guy comes into her life, you are out.

focus on yourself, build yourself and your dreams and the right girl will come.

Evaberry:
lol

I need an advise not 'lol'
Thank you

dingbang:
Abeg go and chase your dreams biko...before person wey carry confusion take scatter your dream

Can I assume you're suggesting a breakup?

koife:

Can I assume you're suggesting a breakup?

she is not settled In life and you know it.


And yes I suggest a break up at this point. You are just dating her because you haven't seen someone better.its only when you do, you would be happy

She won't make a good wife.
Any lady that is not in good relation with her family is not a good person and will cause problems in your marriage.
She jilted you for a year and came back, you still accepted her, that's stupidity.

Sabrina18:
She won't make a good wife.
Any lady that is not in good relation with her family is not a good person and will cause problems in your marriage.
She jilted you for a year and came back, you still accepted her, that's stupidity.

I've pondered on this too many times. Thank you for your kind opinion

koife:

I've pondered on this too many times. Thank you for your kind opinion

Its difficult but you have to breakup with her, for your peace of mind, this kind lady can kill, she has a very bad mind.

dingbang:
she is not settled In life and you know it.


And yes I suggest a break up at this point. You are just dating her because you haven't seen someone better.its only when you do, you would be happy

Bro the thing is I'm not in any side relationship, if I breakup who will I date? I've always wanted marry a friend and someone whom I know pretty well. I'm looking at first quarter next yr and I don't want a girl (new) accept me coz she can sense I'm made(which I'm yet not) or ready to settle

In this post you have called her Fiancee, Ex and My love... Just relocate to South Florida joor, Who she epp?

koife:

Bro the thing is I'm not in any side relationship, if I breakup who will I date? I've always wanted marry a friend and someone whom I know pretty well. I'm looking at first quarter next yr and I don't want a girl (new) accept me coz she can sense I'm made(which I'm yet not) or ready to settle

guy but you know marriage is a long time thing.

And a man needs a woman who will respect him. Clearly she lacks respect.. Even for her mum. Not to talk of you.

If you break up, trust me you will date someone better.

And please don't have that mentality ladies are only coming in for your money..else you won't even meet anyone..

I used to have that mentality but when I looked At my bank account, I asked myself, how much do I even have that I am thinking she will come for a paltry sum when there are big guys out there whose tithes can pay me for one year

If u want to marry, you have to weigh at least 10ladies before you can be sure one is the right person..

dingbang:
guy but you know marriage is a long time thing.

And a man needs a woman who will respect him. Clearly she lacks respect.. Even for her mum. Not to talk of you.

If you break up, trust me you will date someone better.

And please don't have that mentality ladies are only coming in for your money..else you won't even meet anyone..

I used to have that mentality but when I looked At my bank account, I asked myself, how much do I even have that I am thinking she will come for a paltry sum when there are big guys out there whose tithes can pay me for one year

If u want to marry, you have to weigh at least 10ladies before you can be sure one is the right person..

Thanks bro, I guess my problem has always been double dating. I don't know how to do hide and seek. Anyways, I'll look into it

koife:

Bro the thing is I'm not in any side relationship, if I breakup who will I date? I've always wanted marry a friend and someone whom I know pretty well. I'm looking at first quarter next yr and I don't want a girl (new) accept me coz she can sense I'm made(which I'm yet not) or ready to settle

What do you mean by "who will I date"


that girl clearly doesnt love or respects you.


marriage is forever and you want to put up wither character, it's someone like you that will divorce her, you are seeing red flags you still want to jump into hell.

you will see a better girl!

UnknownT:
In this post you have called her Fiancee, Ex and My love... Just relocate to South Florida joor, Who she epp?

Dude you're funny. How about the job, I'm yet to meet the mgt for final details

koife:

Thanks bro, I guess my problem has always been double dating. I don't know how to do hide and seek. Anyways, I'll look into it

please do. Its allowed. Even girls date up to 20men before choosing who they will finally say yes to. So its normal..


You were even a victim of double dating so.... If you need hookup services, just seek for one matchmaking service and enrol...

Evaberry:



What do you mean by "who will I date"


that girl clearly doesnt love or respects you.


marriage is forever and you want to put up wither character, it's someone like you that will divorce her, you are seeing red flags you still want to jump into hell.

you will see a better girl!

Coming pretty hard hard on me. I've always seen the red flag but i have soft spot for her

dingbang:
please do. Its allowed. Even girls date up to 20men before choosing who they will finally say yes to. So its normal..


You were even a victim of double dating so.... If you need hookup services, just seek for one matchmaking service and enrol...

lol @ hook up and match making .... wahlai u be da baddest hahah

Some threads ain't worth reading ..

I'm out of here

He may have been your father but he wasn't your daddy

koife:
lol @ hook up and match making .... wahlai u be da baddest hahah

well its not a bad idea.. From the look of things, you aren't a man that has the energy in searching for a lady...


Well u can just pay me to arrange 10good ladies from which you can choose from

dingbang:
well its not a bad idea.. From the look of things, you aren't a man that has the energy in searching for a lady...


Well u can just pay me to arrange 10good ladies from which you can choose from

Brotherly!

IamAirforce1:
Some threads ain't worth reading ..

I'm out of here

I understand

koife:

Brotherly!

koife:

Dude you're funny. How about the job, I'm yet to meet the mgt for final details

And why are all of you relocating away from Abuja? When is the deadline for the admission? You can start the work and then resign and travel, if there is still time for that

UnknownT:
And why are all of you relocating away from Abuja? When is the deadline for the admission? You can start the work and then resign and travel, if there is still time for that

Ok great idea. Thnz

A girl.left you and after a year still begged you into her life and you allowed her like that?..so you alwere waiting for her for a whole year?..no gal for naija again?.. It's well

babyfaceafrica:
A girl.left you and after a year still begged you into her life and you allowed her like that?..so you alwere waiting for her for a whole year?..no gal for naija again?.. It's well

Well, I needed an advise and not remind me what I already know

koife:

Well, I needed an advise and not remind me what I already know

find another gal....the lady knows you are soft for her that is doing higihaga....end the relationship and move one....you get work now?...focus on that...gals yapa

babyfaceafrica:
find another gal....the lady knows you are soft for her that is doing higihaga....end the relationship and move one....you get work now?...focus on that...gals yapa

I'll consider that option

Give me her contact, if she is worth sacrificing your dream for I will let you know in 2days

richidinho:
Give me her contact, if she is worth sacrificing your dream for I will let you know in 2days

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