Hello Nairalanders.

This is a true story and infact the present situation am going through. Am a young guy in my late twenties this year,I have this girl I am dating and I have already made an advance where I met her parents and I we talked and they gave me the go ahead to bring my parents so they could discuss and finalise things. We both love each other even though she played the normal girls shakara but it was just too long even though she was worth waiting for, infact she have been used for the sun newspaper back page.the sunday's edition this year. 'Sungirl',. She is beautiful and I met her still intact. I bought her a new phone and gradually she becaame attached to social media and she set up a facebook account and posted 50 photos in a day her first day on facebook.

Then I noticed she started receiving strange calls I didn't worry at first but I notice anytime she receive some in my presence she didn't feel comfortable in my presence then I became suspicious of her actions, then I took my time I ask her who are those people you just met and what are you always discussing, she said some of them said they saw her number and photo on sun newspaper that they like her I didn't worry again when I heard that, but the main problem now is she changed the password of her phone and I decided to change mine too but we met yesterday and she wanted to use my phone but she noticed I have changed my password but she didn't say word she returned the phone to me ans ask me to open it. Then I notice something is wrong, am planning engagement Nikkah with her next year and things are starting like this.

Sorry for my poor writing I was pouring my mind out while writing.

All I nedd is your advice readers.

Thank You.

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I'm yet to see a big problem in what you put out here ..

relationship is overrated

Any relationship that either spouse locks phone is a no no for me...for her to lock her phone..means she is hiding something,but you shouldn't have change yours..are you a kid?......find another wife abeg

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it's clear there's no trust in this relationship.


Individuals in a committed relationship are not suppose to hide things from each other.

Lover boy, the exit door has been kept ajar for you. She gently pointed to that exit door by not bothering you for locking your phone.

Poor Communication.... Communication is the key to healthy relationships. You both lost it somehow......

Definitely you're both less in sync than you once were...Speaking as adults openly will resolve the issues at hand

RECOMMENDATION:

1. Call her and tell her you need to speak with her.

2. Tell her all you told us here and you wish to know if there's anything you should be worried about. Tell her that you want the level of trust, sincerity,openness and trust in the relationship to be worked on. Don't mention insecurity issues. Tell her you wanted the both of you to work on your trust issues.

3. Give her your password and tell her you're protecting your privacy from other people and not her and she has no reason to be offended...


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poor communication. both of you need to talk

Talk to her about it, notice her reaction and all that.

Love aint all that matters. Better talk before u make the next move

Only thing i can say is


"you both you sit down and talk......i mean really really talk"

Rollymax77:
Hello Nairalanders.

This is a true story and infact the present situation am going through. Am a young guy in my late twenties this year,I have this girl I am dating and I have already made an advance where I met her parents and I we talked and they gave me the go ahead to bring my parents so they could discuss and finalise things. We both love each other even though she played the normal girls shakara but it was just too long even though she was worth waiting for, infact she have been used for the sun newspaper back page.the sunday's edition this year. 'Sungirl',. She is beautiful and I met her still intact. I bought her a new phone and gradually she becaame attached to social media and she set up a facebook account and posted 50 photos in a day her first day on facebook.

Then I noticed she started receiving strange calls I didn't worry at first but I notice anytime she receive some in my presence she didn't feel comfortable in my presence then I became suspicious of her actions, then I took my time I ask her who are those people you just met and what are you always discussing, she said some of them said they saw her number and photo on sun newspaper that they like her I didn't worry again when I heard that, but the main problem now is she changed the password of her phone and I decided to change mine too but we met yesterday and she wanted to use my phone but she noticed I have changed my password but she didn't say word she returned the phone to me ans ask me to open it. Then I notice something is wrong, am planning engagement Nikkah with her next year and things are starting like this.

Sorry for my poor writing I was pouring my mind out while writing.

All I nedd is your advice readers.

Thank You.

Well Comparing your situation with other fracas , u would notice that urs isn't any problem. But lemme drop this .

1. What's really happening to ur thought? You r jealous
and that's a big blow to every relationship if not
handled with care.

2. Obviously as u said too many calls and all that. U r
the boss you should let her know what you want and
what u don't

3. she is at the verge to cheat on you however don't
feel bad about this and don't see her as a must marry
Even if ur heart wants her, Its ur future happiness we r
talking about. Be watchful be smart.

3. Password changed and all that to me doesn't really
count. If you so wish to change it 100 times daily i
must have the password as well simple.

4. If there is anything u haven't said here u can always
get back to me .

Having a phonelock in a relationship is suspicious biko, both of you should sit down and talk

op you are just insecure
adding password is not a crime !
has she given you a reason not to trust her? don't jump into conclusions. communicate and work on your trust issues.......

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iamJ:
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Jude, stop making a mockery of people's issues...You're not storm-proof. Been watching you for a while now..Be careful before life channels storms to your path. No say i no warn you o...

supersystemsng:



Jude, stop making a mockery of people's issues...You're not storm-proof. Been watching you for a while now..Be careful before life channels storms to your path. No say i no warn you o...

observer, dont mention me next time biko, maintain ur grade lane mbok

Op one thing u suppose understand for naija is dat once u a lady...whether u ugly or beautiful ...guys will chase u..na d normal tin.its just that the number of guys wey dey chase the beautiful ones are more compared to the number of guys wey dey chase the ugly ones.now u don buy browsing phone for ur babe and she don hook up to Facebook and u say she's attractive.so wetin u expect na?.wen guys see her pix for Facebook they will always do d normal wooing and girls love d attention.as long as she ain't hooking up secret sex dates with her male Facebook fans u need not get worried or insecured.but if u have strong conviction she's sleeping around with her Facebook and instagram male friends then its better u do away with her. And this issue of having a phonelock or password on her phone makes it kinder suspicious. Happy Sunday.

Lalas247:
op you are just insecure
adding password is not a crime !
has she given you a reason not to trust her? don't jump into conclusions. communicate and work on your trust issues.......

Yeah, I will work on that thanks, but remember if I should just keep looking till it happen it will be late am planning on getting married so soon. And she may have wasted my time but the fact is that I love her

Tonero40000:


Well Comparing your situation with other fracas , u would notice that urs isn't any problem. But lemme drop this .

1. What's really happening to ur thought? You r jealous
and that's a big blow to every relationship if not
handled with care.

2. Obviously as u said too many calls and all that. U r
the boss you should let her know what you want and
what u don't

3. she is in the verge to cheat on you however don't
feel bad about this and don't see her as a must marry
Even if ur heart wants her, Its ur future happiness we r
talking about. Be watchful be smart.

3. Password changed and all that to me doesn't really
count. If you so wish to change it 100 times daily i
must have the password as well simple.

4. If there is anything u haven't said here u can always
get back to me .

I just don't wanna waste my time it has happen to me before, my ex which I could have married then I met her parents also but one thing led to the other she went with another man.

Lalas247:
op you are just insecure
adding password is not a crime !
has she given you a reason not to trust her? don't jump into conclusions. communicate and work on your trust issues.......

for op to come here to pour his fears iyam very sure the babe don give am enuf reasons for this im distrust but maybe he no wan tell us.when suspicion and distrust don enter a relationship such a relationship is Halfway dead . Gudi afternoon.

iamJ:
observer, dont mention me next time biko, maintain ur grade lane mbok

However highly exalted you are in your eyes, you still will always have people up there..So shut the fkcup up nigga

Your love is slipping away from her heart and trust me dis your girl gonna be baddest cuz she's about to explore the real LIFE!

Guys been throwing bait to chop her dodo and she on the other hand is falling for it.

No go marry her naw ooo cuz d coast is not clear..

And start fvckn her all day cuz you about to lose ur fine gal to some yahoo boiz

RSVP:
Your love is slipping away from her heart and trust me dis your girl gonna be baddest cuz she's about to explore the real LIFE!

Guys been throwing bait to chop her dodo and she on the other hand is falling for it.

No go marry her naw ooo cuz d coast is not clear..

And start fvckn her all day cuz you about to lose ur fine gal to some yahoo boiz

Na wa oh.. What a gloom picture...

You no even try reduce how you take put am...Chai

Just keeping it real....

supersystemsng:




Na wa oh.. What a gloom picture...

You no even try reduce how you take put am...Chai

RSVP:
Just keeping it real....

Unfortunately you spoke well.. It's the 100% fact. When new parties come in between a guy and a babe, this always happens, and most times those chics falls.Meanwhile, it's always for the wrong dudes.Then they come back later crying i didn't know this and that...Because someone quickly jumped in made false promises to steal her heart, seduced her with promises, made her insatiable to her present love...And the aftermath is break up...100% of the time, the new guy is a liar and a player...I don watch this film so many times.

If only life was simple.

If only relationships were easy.


There's over 3 billion of people walking the planet...choosing would have been easy, one guy one babe...But life made things complex...less than a significant fraction of people in life experience healthy relationships..Drama everywhere

Na wa

lefulefu:
Op one thing u suppose understand for naija is dat once u a lady...whether u ugly or beautiful ...guys will chase u..na d normal tin.its just that the number of guys wey dey chase the beautiful ones are more compared to the number of guys wey dey chase the ugly ones.now u don buy browsing phone for ur babe and she don hook up to Facebook and u say she's attractive.so wetin u expect na?.wen guys see her pix for Facebook they will always do d normal wooing and girls love d attention.as long as she ain't hooking up secret sex dates with her male Facebook fans u need not get worried or insecured.but if u have strong conviction she's sleeping around with her Facebook and instagram male friends then its better u do away with her. And this issue of having a phonelock or password on her phone makes it kinder suspicious. Happy Sunday.

Half right...


The beginning of breakups is a break in communication...

Check out Adam and Eve, immediately a new party came in between the communication line between a man and a woman, it is finished. Cheating doesn't occur when a man and a woman pulls off cloth, it's the day there are open to new parties and start collecting " garbage " that it actually occurs...

The babe is half gone

Having a phone lock on your phone is not a problem, as long as both of you know the answer to the lock.

Having said that, I would say you talk to her more when you notice anything you're not comfortable with but don't make it a habit. Maybe once a week or a month to talk to her abt what you don't like that's going on.

Secondly, it could be there she's overwhelmed by the excess attention she's getting from others that's making her uncomfortable and at the same time worried for you which has affected her attitude towards you. Just make sure you keep doing what you are doing to improve yourself so as not to far below par.

This one never get sense

Why you sef buy her phone? Most girls of nowadays are shallow thinkers..

They'll leave the guy that cared for them and brought them to limelight for "fresher" dic.ks they see on social media and will end up losing on all fronts.. Yeah! most are daft like that.

Highest they'll say they don't know what they want.. But in reality, they like to eat their cake and still have it

Rollymax77:
Hello Nairalanders.

This is a true story and infact the present situation am going through. Am a young guy in my late twenties this year,I have this girl I am dating and I have already made an advance where I met her parents and I we talked and they gave me the go ahead to bring my parents so they could discuss and finalise things. We both love each other even though she played the normal girls shakara but it was just too long even though she was worth waiting for, infact she have been used for the sun newspaper back page.the sunday's edition this year. 'Sungirl',. She is beautiful and I met her still intact. I bought her a new phone and gradually she becaame attached to social media and she set up a facebook account and posted 50 photos in a day her first day on facebook.

Then I noticed she started receiving strange calls I didn't worry at first but I notice anytime she receive some in my presence she didn't feel comfortable in my presence then I became suspicious of her actions, then I took my time I ask her who are those people you just met and what are you always discussing, she said some of them said they saw her number and photo on sun newspaper that they like her I didn't worry again when I heard that, but the main problem now is she changed the password of her phone and I decided to change mine too but we met yesterday and she wanted to use my phone but she noticed I have changed my password but she didn't say word she returned the phone to me ans ask me to open it. Then I notice something is wrong, am planning engagement Nikkah with her next year and things are starting like this.

Sorry for my poor writing I was pouring my mind out while writing.

All I nedd is your advice readers.

Thank You.

Bro any girl who is a social media freak is a recipe for a bad relationship, let alone marriage,I will advice u to slow things down as in put the alter things on hold until u figure her out.