alexialin:





My dear, God will keep blessing your husband..hes a real man!

Amen!


Most Guys here are vultures.. I pity ladies who take them serious.

They are up for one chance!

thesuave10:


Meet him personally plus the guy said he will pay back and didn't give her a specific time which is understandable Cuz business can be unpredictable. Do you think the guy is not feeling pained and agree that he can't meet up to what he said. What if he doesn't want to hear her sad voice because he knows how bad it will make him feel and he'll feel disappointed in himself. She should just give the guy time and communicate properly with him cuz only heaven knows how she has been "communicating" Immee listen again

eeewise:
just imagine! her concern is more about getting back her mere 500k as against loosing a potential marital stable relationship. #shallow

but again the guy is stupid to break trust and loyalty over a mere 500k.without explaining to her the reason he can't meet up#stupid

so when shallow meets stupid then the relationship is dead on arrival.
u just try see him in person, give him time then involve a soldier friend before breaking off contact finally
I hate to see potential relationships like this break

WORLDPEACE:


From my neutral, observational point of view I think the two of them might have ruined their relationship with bad stress management skill. He might be stressed by the fact that he can't meet up with the timeline he gave her for which reason he's communicating less and less. She on the other hand is getting anxious and showing it which is counterproductive because it is scaring him from picking her calls. I hope she has not texted things that'll ruin the relationship forever. She needs to just give him sometime and let him call by himself. If he is an honest person he will eventually call. They are supposed to be getting married. It is things like this that test our trust in our mate.

Immee

YelloweWest:

I'm telling u! Hungry bastards!

They have no shame. No sense of pride as young men. Back in the day it was every man's goal to be successful.
But know we have young men just looking for every possible means to milk a hard working girl dry.

Just imagine the comments. The op gave her bf 500k with the promise that he will payback.
Since then he stopped taking her calls and is acting up. Isn't it obvious that the guy is a scam?

EMMAUGOH:


And pls when people are in love what does it entails... Since she can have mine and I won't disturb why would having hers become a problem.
If she can't share what she have with me, what's the essence of two becoming one in the first place..

LOL a man is good to share but when it comes to a woman.. We lose common sense

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
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Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
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After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

supersystemsnig:



Stereotype

Blackhawk01:


So his brain failed to function properly and he forgot to explain this to her? Abi business not moving stops him from answering calls? He had sense to ask for money and even promise interest but no sense to explain why he wouldn't be keeping his own end of the bargain... Mstcheeeeew. You should be the one to swerve, here.

Read my previous comments. Dude is fûcking wrong for not explaining at least to an extent Even tho his reasons will me understandable . Now that he has failed to do right thing, the lady has made an even bigger error by threatening to end the relationship. Now what is even crazier are the reasons fûcking phone calls? Like it doesn't it get more weird. So swerve

YelloweWest:

Whatever

thesuave10:


Will you calm down. Both of them are wrong as hell. The guy might have his reasons. Failing to communicate it is wrong. The lady too is also wrong because "he is not picking my calls after I gave him 500k to pay back" is one of the most stupid reasons I've ever heard.

Blackhawk01:


So his brain failed to function properly and he forgot to explain this to her? Abi business not moving stops him from answering calls? He had sense to ask for money and even promise interest but no sense to explain why he wouldn't be keeping his own end of the bargain... Mstcheeeeew. You should be the one to swerve, here.

YelloweWest:

I'm not a broke girl. I'm a married woman with kids. A lawyer and successful business woman.

My hus is self made. He hustled like the way real men do.

There was a time my sister took me shopping and Spent a considerable amount of money on me. My hus sent her back the money as a birthday gift. He said it touches his ego...

That's the kind of man I'm married to. A real man's man.
Not the ones I see here on nl.

nkwuocha:


She has got the right to end the relationship man.What's happening here.He is not picking,there's no physical relationship, so I don't think she should still feel she is in a relationship to me.
What's the guy afraid of?If 500k is that much a big deal to him then he is a very cunny person.Sincerely, I don't like when people run away from problems that can be easily solved by making provisions for matured communication. He should be available now like he was before! That settles it!

supersystemsnig:


Aunty lawyer....pity our brothers please...these words are too heavy, they'll crash the site...

kimbraa:
Please, shut up!. You've been quoting people upandan with your biased opinion.
They had an agreement he'd remit her account weekly, when she failed to get what they agreed upon she called his line, he didn't pick. She sent messages, he didn't reply. If you loan someone money and gets treated this way, what would be the first thing that'll occur to you?.

What kind of communication are you referring to when the debtor is avoiding any communication with her?. Use your brain.

chynie:

Is your brain paining u? u cant even praise her for giving him in the first place.
issues like this is why girls don't give guys financial support until they are rightfully married.
if she has lost her trust in him, then don't blame her, something caused it

tosyne2much:
Remember I blamed both of them

Please note that these people are lovers. If I lend my elder brother 100k and he refuses to pay at the stipulated time, there will be a way I will go about collecting my money unlike when I'm dealing with an outsider

My dear, no matter how much we try to judge this issue, I think we have to consider the relationship that exit between them. It's not a businessman to a client relationship nah

sambisa5:
I have read people's comment, unfortunately no one understood your plight.
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A woman knows when a man loves her, cares for her and always wants to be with her..although' she may not know how real his intentions are.
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A woman also knows when all start falling apart,when the man no longer shows interest, or done with her.
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I can also sense many things about you two.
-you guys have not dated for so long
-u love him more than he loves you.
-u wishes he marries you,,,he may not really wish the same as you wish it.
-financialy, you are well placed than him.
-you did all you did cos you feel he will marry you in the end, although you had your doubts anyway.
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And U gave him the money becos of his nice altutudes towards you which you felt was going to be forever,,,(FEAR MEN).
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Now it is very possible he never liked you for something serious, but got attached to you cos he wants to have intimacy and get some of your money,,,,,
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He is done now, and it glaring to u. He doesn't pick ur calls, and don't even call again.,,,and i know you are the one trying so hard to have conversations, that is why u keep sending sms to him.
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My advice,,,
forget about him. He is done with you,,,,(AN AVERAGE MAN DOES NOT WANT TO MARRY A WOMAN THAT IS RICHER THAN THEM-COS OF THEIR EGO) unfortunately money is involved in this case now, big money for that matter.....devise a means to collect your money, you can involve the police,letting the guy understand that you know he is done with you, but you can't leave your money for him, you need it back.
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(i know of a case like this, even after police involvement for many months, the guy didn't return the money,,,police have to beg the lady to leave the money,,,till tomorrow, the guy no return the money). So if can forget it, pls do and move on.

YelloweWest:

Abeg you guys should man up! I know it's not easy but nothing good is ever easy in life.

What makes a man is his ability to provide for his dependants.

This will never change. That's how God made it.

LifeofAirforce:
You don enter one chance relationship.

How could you give huge sum of money to a man who's not even engaged to you talkess of marrying you?

Some women sef

Dude ha played a smart one on you .

Ladyfuckpussy:


You are a mother fvcking mad Fvcking lady.

Daughter of a bitch

supersystemsnig:



Help us tell them o, what they see is Nigerian girls are greedy, very sooon these guys will be crossing the border over to Cotonou to take up wives..

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

thesuave10:


Are you judging this case with your experience of less than 2% of the male population Not in the world o but your state? . Why not stick to this issue rather bringing stuffs that cannot add to this issue

supersystemsnig:



Okay o. So you can't greet again...No wahala...

rosalieene:


exactly my sister.

nothing a LAdy does is good in the eyes of this guys.

Everything a guy does, good or bad is always good.

most of them, it reflects in their character offline.
they don't waste time to criticize a LAdy

this are the kind of guys every lady should flee from.