Dear NL Members,
i dont know how i can start this but i know i have to say it out.

this is the issue, i have a girl friend staying and struggling together in the past, now that God has done good for us I have an office now and she is willing and ready to take a job as a secretary, and also i have my brother who also want to work with me ( the office is a web development, computer stuff ).

My girl friend said she can not work in the say office with my brother (she says because of too much familiarities and some other things )

and i also i have my brother in Mind.

What can i do?

DO i force her to work together or what can i do PLEASE NO JOKE PLEASE BUGGING MY HEART.

If she doesnt want to work for you cuz of ur brother then let her go
A mere gf dictating already so what happens when she becomes ur wife? ur mum wont be allowed in ur house?

she is struggling and yet doing ako. u better let her knw that her begger doesnt have any choice

What's with Nigerian men and control?

You want to force her? Its her fault, she gave you that power.

If she doesnt want to work with your bro, then let her find another job [which will be hard to find]

^^^ abi o

I dont want her to spoil the work about 500k already invested in the office,

if she accept and later spoil the business nko?

i dey fear

or make i no allow family?

you av answered ur question,. Expert usually advice u dont employ friends n relatives in a biz u run. it will be smeared by sentiments. i advice u dont let any of them work wt u. period

confused

It is definite that family issues affect family business. Your gf doesn't have to work with you and your brother,she can get a job elsewhere if that suits her;but don't take it as a grudge,maybe she's just being objective to the rules of starting a successful business.

If I were you I'd employ your brother. After all if he messes us he's still your brother. But a gf can wreck things and you end up losing her and the biz. Or you can hire them both and turn your workplace into a battlefield

maedan:


If I were you I'd employ your brother. After all if he messes us he's still your brother. But a gf can wreck things and you end up losing her and the biz. Or you can hire them both and turn your workplace into a battlefield

This is waiting i dey fear oh,

Thanks all.

well, if your girl does not want to work with your brother in the same place, that means even when u get married to her, she'll still not want any of your family to get close to her,

Is she a professional secretary,or u jst want her 2fit d position bcz its ur office?
If she isnt,i'l suggest u talk 2her and both of u shd agree she shd get a job elsewhre,(they r nt hard to come by)

Is she a professional secretary,or u jst want her 2fit d position bcz its ur office?
If she isnt,i'l suggest u talk 2her and both of u shd agree she shd get a job elsewhre,(they r nt hard to come by)

Family and business dont mix. If she was your wife i would say 'absolutely' but what happens if you and your gf part, very dangerous! Its your business so you should employ the best person for the job to compliment your business and grow it.

Dear its not even advisable for ur gf to be "in" as in "in" ur business,
When u guys get married that means the busines will suffer so she can go home to prepare dish for u, or she will tell u she can't do laundary on saturday cosboth of u have been working all week. Let her lookfor a job somewhere else.

And what about if u break her heart?Just consider the 500k gone to settle problems cos then she will know your in and out and try to bring u down at all cost.

As for ur brother its not still advisable but if u trust him its better and be very wachful and prayerful.

Then for ur gf not comfortabl with ur bro, thats very bad. she is suppose to be close to them toan extent, if she respects herself they(ur sibling) will always respect her.so i dont know why she is scared abt getting close.

NB - A good girl for marriage should be friends with ur family. She should take them as hers.

mon-ami:

Dear its not even advisable for your gf to be "in" as in "in" your business,
When u guys get married that means the busines will suffer so she can go home to prepare dish for u, or she will tell u she can't do laundary on saturday cosboth of u have been working all week. Let her lookfor a job somewhere else.

And what about if u break her heart?Just consider the 500k gone to settle problems cos then she will know your in and out and try to bring u down at all cost.

As for your brother its not still advisable but if u trust him its better and be very wachful and prayerful.

Then for your gf not comfortabl with your bro, thats very bad. she is suppose to be close to them toan extent, if she respects herself they(your sibling) will always respect her.so i dont know why she is scared abt getting close.

NB - A good girl for marriage should be friends with your family. She should take them as hers.

ok i will not employ both then

i think that;s ok

If i read your first post right, are you saying this girl was with you when you had nothing? Does she have any stake/investment in the business?

And apart from not wanting your Brother onboard because of the family angle, what other reason/concerns does she have?

Busy_body:

If i read your first post right, are you saying this girl was with you when you had nothing? Does she have any stake/investment in the business?

nothing but advise

Please,she's not your wife.For now only your brother is your family btwn the two of them

As if 'advice' isnt valuable.I'm sure u'd have bin wreckd emotionally and it wud hv reflectd in ur evryday life if she'd left u then.Better treat her nicely bt firmly as well and take d advice we jst offered

brothers over bi~tches

Thanks all

I will advise you as a business person:
You are starting your business on the wrong footing.
If you want your business to grow do away with family and girlfriend staff.
You cannot enforce your orders with them  and they will always see you as family member rather than the visionary of the business.
So don't engage any of them if you want to grow.

Just get people you ca pay and forget family and friends.
They wont take your orders serious.
Good luck to You

Employ D both of dem jor! Dey wil av no choice dan 2 adapt! Are U nt D bossman?

Lil bros and gf, it dont work dat way. Dont employ any of them

Guy don't let her control you, if she can't work with your brother, she can go work elsewhere!!!

Please sit her down and talk with an open mind.Be very interested in what she has to say and then look for a way to make her understand why your brother needs to work with you guys.Plenty talk does no harm.TALK,TALK ,TALK AND TALK SOME MORE