When we leave our significant other or they leave us, staying as friends isn’t usually the first thought that comes into our minds. But later on in life, when the echoes of our quarrels have died down and our hearts have healed, our minds tend to drift to thoughts of our ex, especially if they’ve been part of our lives for quite some time.

We think about the one that got away and what it could have been had things worked out with them. We see their pictures on social media and wonder why you’re still friends in Facebook. Then we ask ourselves if it’s okay to keep being friends with an ex. Is it really alright, though?

Personally, I think being friends with an ex can be beneficial. It’s a sign of maturity that we’re able to accept an ex’s friendship without attaching any romantic feelings. It’s also good for closure, like if you had a falling-out with your partner and your relationship ended abruptly, revisiting your relationship some time later can help weave the wounds close. It gives us an opportunity to forgive and forget and release any grudge we hold in our hearts. Peacefully, of course.

A platonic friendship with an ex is great for practical reasons too. I know a guy who still lives with his ex-girlfriend. They’ve been in a relationship for around eight years in the same house, and they had stuff they bought and paid for together. When they fell out of love, they just agreed to keep the status quo as it would’ve been too much trouble sorting out who owns this piece of furniture, or that unwashed plushy.

In times of need, each of them still provides for the other even if they’re no longer dating. It may seem like they’re still a couple, but they’ve agreed that that’s not the case and that there’s no more romantic love between them anymore. It’s just simple friendship between two ex-lovers.

When we’ve broken up with someone, we sometimes think that that was the end, that there’s nothing to think about anymore as it is over and there’s no getting back together. But sometimes, something beautiful can remain buried beneath the ashes of a failed relationship. Being friends with an ex can lead to a different sort of friendship.

Do you think being friends with an ex is good? Share some of your stories.

No
it's called ex for a reason

Evaberry:
No

it's called ex for a reason

Some end up getting married to their ex.

Evaberry:
No

it's called ex for a reason

Thank you........all men want to befriend with their ex when the see she's living fine......especially broke guys

Dat he or she is ur ex does not make hm or her ur enemy, u cn stl b frnds only if u ar stl alone bt if u hv moved on wt a new person, disconnect d frndship. If once in a while u see d person, jst "hi" is k, no chatting. If u maintain much frndship wen u hv new person, it's 90% possible 4 d feelings u once shared to reconnect, den u ar putting d new person on a risky path

biacan:


Thank you........all men want to befriend with their ex when the see she's living fine......especially broke guys

Don't mind them

MhizzAJ:

Don't mind them

Lol watch how broke guys will masturbate over what I said

U dey talk abt broke guys, na fine boys broke pass, dey cn form and lie 4 Africa.B4 u no it, dey start barbing one stupid hairstyle and begin to parade demselves as upcoming Artists or Bloggers. Dey mention dia name as d most popular on NL, hm head go dey swell up. Anybody wey get something serious doing wl nt b on NL 24/7,dey upload pix and begin to ask Hw dey luk on NL, 4get ur luk, go out dere and hustle. Who fine boy epp

biacan:


Lol watch how broke guys will masturbate over what I said

IAMSASHY:
U dey talk abt broke guys, na fine boys broke pass, dey cn form and lie 4 Africa.B4 u no it, dey start barbing one stupid hairstyle and begin to parade demselves as upcoming Artists or Bloggers. Dey mention dia name as d most popular on NL, hm head go dey swell up. Anybody wey get something serious doing wl nt b on NL 24/7,dey upload pix and begin to ask Hw dey luk on NL, 4get ur luk, go out dere and hustle. Who fine boy epp

hahaha..this one off me.

well for me,,ex is never an enemy..though the friendship should be curtailed to its maximum. ..just once in awhile hi"hello greeting...that's if you want it that way.

its okay to be friends with your ex on calling basis! but some men take it too far by arranging meetings, sending her money, even when they are married to other people!.

IAMSASHY:
U dey talk abt broke guys, na fine boys broke pass, dey cn form and lie 4 Africa.B4 u no it, dey start barbing one stupid hairstyle and begin to parade demselves as upcoming Artists or Bloggers. Dey mention dia name as d most popular on NL, hm head go dey swell up. Anybody wey get something serious doing wl nt b on NL 24/7,dey upload pix and begin to ask Hw dey luk on NL, 4get ur luk, go out dere and hustle. Who fine boy epp

Sis please is still morning

There is no problem in that. it all depends on the level of maturity of both partieś and the issue that lead to there seperation. my ex got married in December 2016. And up till date we are still best of friends. We have been able to keep in touch with each other because both of us were friends for two years before I eventually asked her out shortly after our service year. so I don't see it as something wrong.

IAMSASHY:
U dey talk abt broke guys, na fine boys broke pass, dey cn form and lie 4 Africa.B4 u no it, dey start barbing one stupid hairstyle and begin to parade demselves as upcoming Artists or Bloggers. Dey mention dia name as d most popular on NL, hm head go dey swell up. Anybody wey get something serious doing wl nt b on NL 24/7,dey upload pix and begin to ask Hw dey luk on NL, 4get ur luk, go out dere and hustle. Who fine boy epp

If you have a crush on him , let him know
And stop whinning.

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.... must u comment ??. Can't u read quietly or log out. must u show case your stupidity even on NL...No insult...just wondering aloud!!.

mamasoljas:
its okay to be friends with your ex on calling basis! but some men take it too far by arranging meetings, sending her money, even when they are married to other people!.

Yes. Honestly there is no harm in sending her money is there is genuine reason for it. my ex assisted me during my Second degree program. she lend me some money for for school fees. though I've paid the money back. She needed financial assistance about 2 months ago and she contacted me to lend her. I told her that I can't lend her money that I remembeŕ her good deeds during my time of distress and how she came to my rescue and i will thus give it to her since she needs it for her dad's medical bills and not Lend her nor expect a refund. . so my sister there is no harm in sending her money if and only if the motive iś pure.

We can move from friends to acquaintances..... If he pushes the friendship then I will run very far
If you have a problem you think I can solve then tell me straight up and same with me but all the lovey dovey friendship thing is no longer for me.

bia, youareAirforce, no jst cross my lane dis morning, u hear me so, jst dey ur lane jeje, na person wey talk tru, na hm una dey quote pass

IamAirforce1:


If you have a crush on him , let him know
And stop whinning.

IAMSASHY:
bia, youareAirforce, no jst cross my lane dis morning, u hear me so, jst dey ur lane jeje, na person wey talk tru, na hm una dey quote pass

I'm not the type who banter words with women like most guys on here do...

Na only advice I give you so..

If you like the guy you talked about in your comment so much, give him a shout out.