One of the displeasure that come with being married is that sometimes,you and your spouse may have disagreements and quarrel over issues. People are different. People see differently. Just because you are married does not mean that you must begin t see things the way your spouse sees and understands. There are many reasons why couples ”fight” or argue. It could be as a result of differences in how to raise the kids, how to spend finances,infidelity,unmet expectations,etc.

When couples hit a rough patch, men and women want different things from their partner before they make up, new research suggests.

Whatever the cause of the fight,couple must find a way to resolve their issues. Some of the ways to make up after a fight include:

Wake up your spouse in the middle of the night and talk about the issues. Why middle of the night?Well,its not good to go to bed angry,is it? The bible says so:lol. Waking up to discuss in the night could mean that the couples have had some time to calm down and the wee hours of the night is really no time to start raising your voice: the kids and neighbors are asleep,you really dont want to wake them
After talking about the issue,regardless of who is at fault,apologize to each other. A study shows that Women seem to prefer heart-felt apologies and quality time. But men appear to prefer a kind gesture, particularly sexual favors.
Make up sex: A study published online recently in Evolutionary Psychological Science study showed that men believe that doing something nice for your partner or providing sexual favors was the most effective way to patch things up. In any case, a good love making has a way of bringing couples together and helps remind each other that they want each other much more than their disputes.
Make out time to spend time with each other: According to Wade :”Women may rate spending time together more highly because this behavior signals a partner’s willingness to invest effort and limited resources (e.g. time) into their romantic pair-bond. Such actions by a man may signal the likelihood of a potentially high parental investment which women prefer,” . Spend times by going to the movies,dinners,talk walks,or check into a hotel for the weekend.
Praying together: Praying together is another form of intimacy that can be very effective in helping couples make up after a fight. Praying together involves inviting God to the situation that may have caused the disagreements . A feeling of faith in God and each other is built up during prayer times together.
Buying of gifts: The general believe is that a gift maketh a way for a man. Even so with your spouse. A very thoughtful gift is a very good way of making up. The gift must be something that truly conveys how much the spouse feels. Beautiful flowers, posh cars( if the crime committed is very grave..lol) Not only wives,even husbands love gifts as a sign of making up.
Its important for married people even individuals intending to get married to realize that misunderstanding and fights come with marriage. The decision to make up and get back all the time is very critical to the survival of your marriage.

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