Life can be a b*tch. I had been in a horrible relationship about 2 years ago that took me a while to get over. Now i am in a relationship that is going really well and i am happy. But it seems like all my previous toasters have come back with a bang. My boo has been away for two week and they are really good guys, three of them to be exact, focused, affectionate and ambitious. Maybe the timing wasnt great when I first met them, but now they each want to seriously go the extra mile in the name of love. I am trying so hard to stay focused on my bobo, but all my girls are like you can't put all your eggs in one basket, and to invest wisely in a guy - and that if i tell these other guys to bugger off i may live to regret it. Confused

Lay it on them slowly, nt 2 harsh just in case u hav 2 kom bak 2 singlez circle. Or u can just play d trio. If u can. Bliev me it workd 4 moi.

I go with the advice of your friends.

Temptation comes in different ways

Nnekie:

Life can be a b*tch. I had been in a horrible relationship about 2 years ago that took me a while to get over. Now i am in a relationship that is going really well and i am happy. But it seems like all my previous toasters have come back with a bang. My boo has been away for two week and they are really good guys, three of them to be exact, focused, affectionate and ambitious. Maybe the timing wasnt great when I first met them, but now they each want to seriously go the extra mile in the name of love. I am trying so hard to stay focused on my bobo, but all my girls are like you can't put all your eggs in one basket, and to invest wisely in a guy - and that if i tell these other guys to bugger off i may live to regret it. Confused

While you ae busy nursing the idea of cheating on somebody who has being nice to you remember that what goes around comes around. Don't come back here to moan abt how useless men are bla bla. . . nonsense

You know guys are really smart sometimes you might end up losing the trio

Becky86:

You know guys are really smart sometimes you might end up losing the trio

And the reality will set in. There is no point trying to cheat on somebody who loves you, if its an abusive rela/ship then walk and look for somebody who will treat her well. . . then again what do Some women really want?

@justwise maybe that question should be asked on a new thread some women just make up abuses for others or should i say pollute

@justwise maybe that question should be asked on a new thread some women just make up abuses for others or should i say pollute

Only God knows oh cause i am just asking him for direction

@ Justwise - yeah i've heard about karma she is b@tch but i like her.  Funny it hasnt bitten my ex who while i was planning a wedding was getting chicks pregnant.  Not saying i want to cheat, but one thing i know is that i dont want to ever be that vulnerable again.  Love is a decision, and my guy is focused and with time i know hopefully we can achieve all.  But sometimes the temptation is there like one of my friends is like - lawyer in top new york based firm, and an engineer who is a manager with Schlumberger - all Christian, hard working and focused guys, easy to converse with, supportive.

Better the angel you know than the devil you dont?
Thanks y'all for all the comments

Nnekie:

Only God knows oh cause i am just asking him for direction

@ Justwise - yeah i've heard about karma she is b@tch but i like her. Funny it hasnt bitten my ex who while i was planning a wedding was getting chicks pregnant. Not saying i want to cheat, but one thing i know is that i dont want to ever be that vulnerable again. Love is a decision, and my guy is focused and with time i know hopefully we can achieve all. But sometimes the temptation is there like one of my friends is like - lawyer in top new york based firm, and an engineer who is a manager with Schlumberger - all Christian, hard working and focused guys, easy to converse with, supportive.
Better the angel you know than the devil you dont?
Thanks y'all for all the comments

If you do what ur ex did to you then you are as bad as him. Good luck

hey justwise just saw your new post

as a woman i want the best and i want to be the best for my man too.   Sometimes i wonder if we settled for Mr/Mrs right now or Mr/Mrs average because it is safer, quicker and hopefully you will grow to love them abundantly, but who is to say that that is a bad thing?

Pls the ex is old news, but does karma really bite some people in the a$$ or is it something we say to make ourselves feel better?

Nnekie:

hey justwise just saw your new post

as a woman i want the best and i want to be the best for my man too. Sometimes i wonder if we settled for Mr/Mrs right now or Mr/Mrs average because it is safer, quicker and hopefully you will grow to love them abundantly, but who is to say that that is a bad thing?

Pls the ex is old news, but does karma really bite some people in the a$$ or is it something we say to make ourselves feel better?

It depends on who is calling for kama, if a gulty mind is calling for kama then it will never happen but kama is real and it does catch up with pple.

Now. . there is no perfect rela/ship out there, you work towards it, don't expect to meet a man/woman who got it all, that is just day-dreaming. But sometimes it pays to work things out rather than runing to the next made-man/woman

@poster-You are the kind of girl,that will end up divorcing your husband and raising girls that will continue the vicious cycle.Look at yourself in the next 10YEARS,would you still be as attractive as you are now,always consider the love a man has for you and its long term effect.

no such thing as karma,

its a dog-eat-dog world we have

do what you got to do

hey justwise - i agree anything good takes work. But bad things happen to good people a lot

lol thanks for that hollandis - i believe in the sanctity of marriage, and divorce isnt something i would consider lightly. But before marriage comes along, dont you think sometimes it is easy to fall into a relationship, but difficult to get out of one?  I think for girls more than guys sometimes, even though the guy may not be abusive or anything, he is a great guy but he is just not the one.   Doesnt apply to my situation, just thinking out loud

Nnekie:

hey justwise - i agree anything good takes work. But bad things happen to good people a lot
lol thanks for that hollandis - i believe in the sanctity of marriage, and divorce isnt something i would consider lightly. But before marriage comes along, dont you think sometimes it is easy to fall into a relationship, but difficult to get out of one? I think for girls more than guys sometimes, even though the guy may not be abusive or anything, he is a great guy but he is just not the one. Doesnt apply to my situation, just thinking out loud

Yea but i rather keep a clean slate than going around breaking hearts.

Now, i guess i 'll believe an "Hadith" dat says itz only DEATH dat cn satisfy humans cuz humans can never be satisfied.
@ OP, Haba! U av sum1 dt luvz U & u are stil tryna consida sum oda guy.I dnt giv a Bleep if he's D CEO of world Bank.Just hang on 2 sum1 dt luvz U or der ll be repercusions!

eina:

I go with the advice of your friends.

and that means she kips satisfying all 3-4guyz s3xually,
damn thats a pweety good Job if u ask me!

@poster,try dating.dts d only time u'v got d dice.u r probably n ur int.wk of d exs'.take a good tn while it lasts bt dn't xpct it 2 last long.

amyg:

@poster,try dating.dts d only time u'v got d dice.u r probably n your int.wk of d exs'.take a good tn while it lasts bt dn't xpct it 2 last long.

So u basically telling her to cheat on her current bf hun?

Nnekie:

Life can be a b*tch. I had been in a horrible relationship about 2 years ago that took me a while to get over. Now i am in a relationship that is going really well and i am happy. But it seems like all my previous toasters have come back with a bang. My boo has been away for two week and they are really good guys, three of them to be exact, focused, affectionate and ambitious. Maybe the timing wasnt great when I first met them, but now they each want to seriously go the extra mile in the name of love. I am trying so hard to stay focused on my bobo, but all my girls are like you can't put all your eggs in one basket, and to invest wisely in a guy - and that if i tell these other guys to bugger off i may live to regret it. Confused

I like high wire games too, mind if I join in and we'll see who's gonna get burnt?

@nnekie ur initial bfs left you or weren't serious now you've got some one serious you want to leave him for the initials what makes you think dat think dat made them not serious won't come again, thereby leaving with no one think baby.

Poster are you a gold digger? cos you seem to be more interested in the new york firm and schlumberger

jennykadry:

Poster are you a gold digger? cos you seem to be more interested in the new york firm and schlumberger

@justwise,u got me wrong.i nevr tld her 2 open her legs 4 dem,dts d fun of d dating.

amyg:

@justwise,u got me wrong.i nevr tld her 2 open her legs 4 dem,dts d fun of d dating.

Please can you explain to me how she can have 'fun dating' another guy other than her bf without her opening her legs for them?

justwise:

yes, cos shes more interested in their occupation, i dont see anything but a wannabe money maker

^^^ :-x

why d face?

^^ u dont see anythin but a wannabe money maker