Siena:

It's not new.

And the doctor's right in not disclosing the family to you. It's against ethics, it's very rare for a spermatozoa donor to know where his spermatozoa's going to be used, or the recipient couple to know who the donor was.

Same thing goes for surrogate mothers, though in certain cases, the surrogate mother may be known to the recipient couple.

Nwabu, if you want to help a childless couple, please do so, if you don't want to, then also let the doctor know. Don't emotionally blackmail her, because she very rightly refuses to disclose personal details of the recipient family to you.

nwabuking5:

rokiatu, iam well ok with what i have. i don't need any financial support from anybody. i don't know why this problem comes to me.

nwabuking5:

hi siena, it's not that i don't want to help them. it's just that am scared, bcoz i don't know exactly what they want to do with my spermatozoa. please my dear, u sounds like a doctor also. please can u tell me exactly what's going on?

gee.:

i bet something is cooking with this issue of keeping it secret and covering everyones' eyes with a veil.
something fishy

maclatunji:

Dude, it is irresponsible to father a child that you will eventually have to abandon. Let the couple adopt a child at an orphanage if they need a child or let them try artificial insemination.

If you do it, you will most likely die an unhappy man. Knowing that your child is somewhere and you do not know what he/she looks like or how the child is faring in life.

nwabuking5:

There was a day, i went to a hospital for a blood taste. so i met a beautiful lady, without known that she's a doctor. bcoz that very day i met her she was not on duty. the truth was that d very time i sight my eyes on her, really i felt like a man and i tried to play man's game, lol but unfortunately the lady told me that she's a married woman. then she later asked what i came to do in the hospital, then told her actually i came for medical check up. so on the process of the checkup, she took my blood for genotype and blood group test. After that, she told me to came back in three days time for the result. so i went back for d result like i was told, she congratulated me, telling me that my gym is very strong, that i should be extra careful not to dig around with chicks (say i carry gum inside my ball . 

At the start fo the story, I was wondering what the hell blood taste was 
It took me 2 seconds to figure out u meant "test" (for d benefit of dose who hvnt figured it out)
And my broda, no be "gym", na "gene"!
<<Just aiding the understanding of ur story, hope u dont mind  >>

@ Story
Me I no know. Only you can make that decision for yourself.

Siena:

You're not making much sense!

When you donate spermatozoa to a childless couple, the child is not legally yours, though biologically, he / she is. There is no bond with the resultant child, as you have no idea who the recipient parents were. You talk of a donor, who's given a childless couple the gift of love, of a child they can nurture, dying an unhappy man, knowing his child is out there somewhere, blah blah blah. What about guys that get their girlfriends pregnant, yet shoot through, and never accept the child? You can't abandon a child that you've never seen, and was never legally yours to begin with.

I think you're being selective about what's morally right / acceptable, and what isn't.

Artificial insemination's IVF - it still involves a spermatozoa donor, so where do you think the spermatozoa comes from? And how will this be different from the scenario here?

When you donate spermatozoa to help a childless couple, this is the reason you're not meant to know who they are, or any details of them. The same applies to surrogate mothers. As per adoption, an adopted child did have a biological set of parents somewhere, he / she didn't just drop from the sky. Adoption's not an option for everyone either.

maclatunji:

When I said artificial insemination, I meant using the spermatozoa of the man who is the husband of the woman (in the couple involved). And I am making perfect sense. When does your biological child stop being one's child? I fear for this kind of pseudo-liberalism.