jeff1607:
op said he is older than her by few years, u failed your sister big time




when she was developing the habit where were you?
School doesn't stop u from putting ur home in order


you are the man of the house now, no longer a child. even brothers protect their sisters even in primary school.


now it has gone out of hand



ask her what she values more on this earth then take it from there


or



cut off her communication with the outside world for a period of time.



but remember the withdrawal stage so u got to man up and support her



better still if she has someone she is dating or inlove with, let the guy do ur job for you

Must you comment rubbish.. The guy was in school. An engineering student for that matter please and please always try and use your head. He's got his own life to live.

lumzybo:
Why do I think the op is kinda scared of confronting her sis?

If u can't handle her alone, report her to the nearest SARS/anti cult dept of NPF.

Thank me later

Do u think the OP wants to die young? You think say the guy go get liver to confront his cultist younger sister wey dey smoke and into hard drugs them no born the OP well.

splenzard:
Hello Fellow Nlanders,

Compliments of the season.

As this may be the season of happiness, not everyone partakes in the joy of the festivity, I am one of those. Let me cut the chase and go straight to the point.

I'm a 400 level student of civil engineering, I've got a younger sister, I'm older than her with a couple of years although she's yet to gain admission despite the fact that she has tried severally. she decided to start working pending whenever she gains admission.

Along the line, she became a cultist and she suddenly became a heavy smoker, drinker and a drug addict (tramadol, rephnol, codine,etc).

At this point my mum (she's a single mother, my dad died a couple of years back) did she least she could do by scolding, reporting her to the leaders in the church, kinsmen and everyone whom she thought she(my sister) would listen to but all these efforts proved abortive as she deteriorated further as she graduated to bringing men to the house at odd hours of the night.

As at last week, my mum called me and was sobbing over the phone, she told me that my younger sister beat her up because she confronted her about her behavior.


right now I'm confused, in order not to act rashly, i decided to seek for advice from this noble forum.


Please guys i need your matured advice here

MFM things.

it's not easy o.

Take her to mental home,they will deprive her until shes rehabilitated they will not release her or lock her up in police station

How did you end up like this?

dahmie2013:
Y don't u & ur mum embark on a fasting & prayer session 4 her. Dere is nothing God cannot do, prayer changes things & people. Pls I will recommend u get dis book by Bishop David Oyedepo, "Walking in the newness of life" & "Conquering Controlling Powers". She has started beating ur mum, dis is no more a battle u can fight physically, take it 2 God, she herself will come begging.
It is well.

dondemex:
Must you comment rubbish.. The guy was in school. An engineering student for that matter please and please always try and use your head. He's got his own life to live.

Bros try and use your head


married men who have daughters with busy schedules nko? so been busy is an excuse not to morally train his daughter abi?


go to secondary schools, you see boys protecting their siblings and preventing them social vices



in some neighborhoods, you can't get too close to some girls because people fear their brothers

the list goes on and on

if you can't protect your siblings who will?

being in school ain't an excuse, so engineering students don't go on holidays abi? even b4 he got admission




when you are the first born protection and guidance comes automatically to u




if brothers did their job we won't ve slay queens

dahmie2013:
Y don't u & ur mum embark on a fasting & prayer session 4 her. Dere is nothing God cannot do, prayer changes things & people. Pls I will recommend u get dis book by Bishop David Oyedepo, "Walking in the newness of life" & "Conquering Controlling Powers". She has started beating ur mum, dis is no more a battle u can fight physically, take it 2 God, she herself will come begging.
It is well.

i tell you my brother. When God starts dealing with her even the mum would have to pity her. Nothing is totally impossible before God. Nice advice bro.

dahmie2013:
Y don't u & ur mum embark on a fasting & prayer session 4 her. Dere is nothing God cannot do, prayer changes things & people. Pls I will recommend u get dis book by Bishop David Oyedepo, "Walking in the newness of life" & "Conquering Controlling Powers". She has started beating ur mum, dis is no more a battle u can fight physically, take it 2 God, she herself will come begging.
It is well.

Na God has enough on his neck besides that would take ages SARZ or a two day in section C millitary guard room would reverse anything reversable in her life

try it for anybody hardened n come thank me later

mamachildren:
she is lost don't fight her don't beat her show her love more than ever tell your mum to show her love it's is hard but turn a blind eye on her issues and then talk to God he will take it from there. She will find her way back on her own because it no more your battle it's of the Lord. You will be surprised. It has worked in many families I know

i know nairaland still has lots of users with wonderful working brain. Thumbs up.

splenzard:


Baba i didn't say I'm scared. I've done that countlessly. even in medicine, once a bactaria is used to a drug, it becomes resilient. same scenario is happening, only that it's in my family

there's only one thing that can reverse anything reversible in her life Section C millitary guard room just two days is enough for her even dove calmness wount be compared to her's.
try this and thank me later

hysteriabox:

Yeah, I overcame but my road isn't necessarily that which ll epp your sis. I think it's unrealistic to say it must be this way and that.

What drove me deeper:
1. Perceived antagonism from parents n ppl
2. Loneliness and idleness
3. Terrible peers
4. Misplaced passions

What my aunt did that helped
1. She refused to antagonize
2. She showed me love even when she knew I was high
3. She gave me stronger and admirable elementary living
4. She talked to me and showed me why and how I must overcome
5. Then she pointed to Jesus.

Nobody fist jumped me, or pounded me. I was loved and talked to upon a platter of Christ. And on the 16th March 2002, I decided to be a beta man

Iam,indeed trully happy for you .many are still deep in the hole .I do hope you help others to over come this weakness
Stay blessed

PrecisionFx:



Pls leave God, Devil n Prayers outta this.

Then ure done for!!!!

Pray for her, try to wake her up in the middle of the night and talk to her. Tell her to go and apologize to her Mum for she's under a curse for raising up her hand against her mother. She should seek for forgiveness and her mum should pray for her. Else...........it's very dangerous for her future.

I pray she understands and repent earlier before its too late.

if she's beautiful just give me her number ...I know how to handle babes...
they just need a guy to do they needful, they would do anything to please they guy they love....
God works in mysterious ways

splenzard:
Hello Fellow Nlanders,

Compliments of the season.

As this may be the season of happiness, not everyone partakes in the joy of the festivity, I am one of those. Let me cut the chase and go straight to the point.

I'm a 400 level student of civil engineering, I've got a younger sister, I'm older than her with a couple of years although she's yet to gain admission despite the fact that she has tried severally. she decided to start working pending whenever she gains admission.

Along the line, she became a cultist and she suddenly became a heavy smoker, drinker and a drug addict (tramadol, rephnol, codine,etc).

At this point my mum (she's a single mother, my dad died a couple of years back) did she least she could do by scolding, reporting her to the leaders in the church, kinsmen and everyone whom she thought she(my sister) would listen to but all these efforts proved abortive as she deteriorated further as she graduated to bringing men to the house at odd hours of the night.

As at last week, my mum called me and was sobbing over the phone, she told me that my younger sister beat her up because she confronted her about her behavior.


right now I'm confused, in order not to act rashly, i decided to seek for advice from this noble forum.


Please guys i need your matured advice here

OP what u need is for us all on this forum to buy cain and flog the hell out of u and even flog sense into u.
U no dey shame see the stupid question u dey come ask here? Shame on u o...

splenzard:


thanks bro, but she's a cultist like I said earlier, I've tried beating her but it's as good as flogging a dead horse, she's hardened

If want to correct a kid u can flog, beat and it wud work bt correcting an adult ure wasting ur time unless ure the police or a military officer. People rebel or join such gangs cos of love and guidance deficit at home most times.

Hv u ever tried talking or bring her closer for a deep convo and try 2 know how life has been with her? As an elder brother did u ever give her advice and warnings about the vices out there? Now shes learnt wat she probably shudnt. Shelve ur judgmental attitude and help her.

OP this matter is delicate. Beating up your mum is awful. But you both will have to forgive her. And help her if you can. It is hard I know. Try talking to her. Maybe she took the death of your dad very badly or something traumatic happened to her at some point.

I am actually very concerned for her life: overdosing or being caught up in a rival cult group reprisal. Both deadly.

If all else truly fails, she needs to go away and live her own life. If he cleans up her acts, she will be welcome back.

northvietnam:
use her for money retual then use the proceeds and get ur mom a Rover 2018

. hianhian!

Social forum like nairaland and others are not the best place to seek for solution. Most people here will take you for a joke and will never be serious with you.

If truly what you said happen, I will suggest you seek for mature advise elsewhere. Maybe from your close mature relatives or from your place of worship.

For me is not proper bringing family problems to a social forum.

lazygal:


Iam,indeed trully happy for you .many are still deep in the hole .I do hope you help others to over come this weakness
Stay blessed

Thanks dear.
I try in my little way to make a difference.
I haven't been around many addicts in the last couple of years but I do bless people as we go along. Thanks

lumzybo:
Why do I think the op is kinda scared of confronting her sis?

If u can't handle her alone, report her to the nearest SARS/anti cult dept of NPF.

Thank me later

Best Advise!! She will be taught a lesson of her life.

My brother. let me tell you the truth. ur sister need ur serious attention bcox she has lost completely and u nid to call her bak home again.
firstly, ask your mother wat she did to her (ur sister) bcox she might lack parental care.
also she might feel dat no body care for her.
pls. make her your best friend.
call her many time as many u can call her on phone.
at this time she dont need iron hand at all. bcox if u try to act funny or prove to b man, dont b surprise she wl do sometin stupid.
pls. calm her done as a man wit full of knowledge who can manage his home.
try this method first and let see the result.
thanks.....

nurturing a child itself requires wisdom,am sure at some point in development of your sister your mum would have noticed her excesses but turned blind eye.your sister didn't wake up one day to become a cultist and start doing drugs,someone gave her the freedom and she abused it

Have you tried p&p method.
Punch and pray.
Punch by involving SARS and pray she doesn't turn monster on you.
This is not what your indoor beating can solve. She needs an outdoor pounding.
SARS can handle her better. Which yeye cultist?
After they're done handling her... she go pay homage give your mama.
Stay there make wrapper dey wear you until she kill ya mama.
Well make I hear say my sister raise voice give my mama, na from that school I go carry koboko show house. Oga na MAN you be o. Abi your school bag no complete?

"She became a cultist"
omo this one weak me

Bro.... your sister needs help. Whatever you or anyone tell her...will enter one ear and go out the other. You need to face reality....she is a drug addict.... she is no longer in control of herself or her actions. Bringing men home at odd hours?...she is prostituting herself... money must be made by any means necessay to satisfy the addiction....your mother gets in between her means of getting drugs...your mother will get a beat down. Have you found out what items from the home are no longer there? They have been sold...for next to nothing. You need to understand drug addiction and forget about cultists... they should be the least of your worries.
My advice to you is practical...... whatever is missing....report her to the Police for theft or whatever.... the bottom line...you want her locked away from access to drugs. After 3 months or whatever... the drugs should be out of her system and she would have more than enough time to gather her thoughts together. If that's too harsh...then take her wayyy away from the community.... have her locked away in the village or wherever...same aim. Addiction is a damn hard thing to break out of.... and very easy to fall back on. You have to be fully committed to have her rehabilitated. Stop her while you can....never too late.

Your sis is dead walking... she’s doomed!

Whatever however,,, she is finished

splenzard:


Trust me bro, that old woman has had sleepless nights praying for her daughter

deal with the matter fast fast before the poor woman dies of high blood pressure (GOD FORBID).
You are an engineering student. Mobilise your boys and threaten her. She will be scared of you when you apply force.
She will change as you also pray fervently.

Codes151:
Your sis is dead walking... she’s doomed!
Whatever however,,, she is finished

that is why she needs prayers

mamachildren:
she is lost don't fight her don't beat her show her love more than ever tell your mum to show her love it's is hard but turn a blind eye on her issues and then talk to God he will take it from there. She will find her way back on her own because it no more your battle it's of the Lord. You will be surprised. It has worked in many families I know

and me inclusive.

guru03:
Guy dealing with her in a hurtful manner will make her go wild the more, visit her where she stays with her cult guys, asked her what her problem is, plead with her to rethink the harm she is doing to her self, if possible go with someone she respect the more, she will have a second thought.

so true

Oyindidi:
Let your mother throw her out of the house.

shut up kid.
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