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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Espada10: 3:37pm On Jan 10
cstr1001:
Why would you invest in a girl? Are you that Jobless?

You need to open related threads on nairaland to see how the guy in question end up being blamed by the ladies after his expectation from the girl he invested on was predictably cut-off.

That is when you will know the meaning of level don change.

Give to an orphanage, don't invest on a girl and expect anything significant.

Yep ...I saw that post ... all the women were supporting the ungrateful girl and telling the man to grow up and shading him ..I pity the man sha...as for me, it is even dicey to invest in a wife talkless of a girlfriend..sometimes, I wonder are men still doing this kind stupid stuff in this era..

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by beardlessdude: 3:39pm On Jan 10
chiefbidemi:
See the definition of invest
"put (money) into financial schemes, shares, property, or a commercial venture with the expectation of achieving a profit."

You can only spend on a lady. You cannot invest on any lady. At almost 70yrs, I definitely know what I'm saying
who asked for your age?

Nigerians ehn

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by hypocriticracy: 3:39pm On Jan 10
scared ke....I invest lots of sperm noni

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Blackhawk03(f): 3:40pm On Jan 10
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
And the sauce?

Lol. I have no idea cry sad angry

There's stock fish too
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by raficki87(m): 3:41pm On Jan 10
If you understand the concept of hypergamy and briffaults law. This stupid idea of investing in a woman in hopes of marrying her will not be a topic for discussion

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Fragileheart(f): 3:41pm On Jan 10
When I look around all I see is selfishness

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by pcguru1(m): 3:42pm On Jan 10
It goes both way actually, but if you want to invest in someone don't do it because you expect loyalty from the person especially women, just do it because you want to and expect nothing, am not sure women are used to that concept of re-paying favour as a man would, because women are used to be catered for naturally unlike a guy. No one gives a fvck about a guy, which is why most guy remember and always pay back the favour when needed however there are some who miss the memo (fvck boys).

Me I help anyone and move on with life, that's how i do mine.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Divay22(f): 3:42pm On Jan 10
ibietela2:


Can i get that your profile picture
Yeah... Go ahead grin grin
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by pcguru1(m): 3:42pm On Jan 10
raficki87:
If you understand the concept of hypergamy and briffaults law. This stupid idea of investing in a woman in hopes of marrying her will not be a topic for discussion

any time i hear the word 'hypergamy' Red Pills and MGTOW comes to mind

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Originalsly: 3:45pm On Jan 10
Bro... the word invest makes me believe it's a business.... love has nothing to do with business. If you invest in a lady then it should be cash in.... fees etc.... and cash out. ..ROI. How can you put in cash and expect love in return?...not even with a prostitute.
The guy decided to pay for her education..... so she must automatically love him? Nothing wrong in a guy doing that...being a Good Samaritan ....but it is just wrong for him or anyone to expect her to marry him because he helped her financially. If they had come to that agreement then she is in the wrong to want out for the reason given.
From her reason...... she is not a person that will marry for love..... status and certification are most important.... doesn't matter if the person loves her or doesn't.
It never has been easy to find a wife. ..find someone to marry yes. .. but not to find a wife. .. somewhere some time ago somebody said he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing...and that was wayyyy before 1901.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by cstr1001: 3:46pm On Jan 10
Espada10:
Yep ...I saw that post ... all the women were supporting the ungrateful girl and telling the man to grow up and shading him ..I pity the man sha...as for me, it is even dicey to invest in a wife talkless of a girlfriend..sometimes, I wonder are men still doing this kind stupid stuff in this era..
Investing in a wife is okay. After she has given birth to 1 or 2 children.

Atleast, your children will benefit from your investment even if you don't.


But investing in a girl-friend or fiancee is a big big tufiakwa.
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Bestchoice4me(m): 3:46pm On Jan 10
TwoBottles:
There are exceptional ladies who are worth everything good that a man can give them. I have one of such and I'm ready to go to any length to give her all she needs.
My broda,carry on..we dnt wnt 2 hear stories dat touch later,neva take a lady serious yet.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by davillian(m): 3:48pm On Jan 10
Even the ones that we don't invest on still bite the finger that fingered them.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 3:48pm On Jan 10
MrMcJay:
As a man, you should invest in YOURSELF FIRST. That woman you're helping today is still with you because you're in a position to help her. Once she leaves that position, she'll look for other men who can give her what you are unable to give her.

Men and women are wired differently. In matters of looks, money, age, education and class, men date downwards while women date upwards. Having a woman date downwards or sideways is abnormal.

Females only date those above them. They may manage to date those of the same level due to low demand for them but never date lower than them.

For the poor man struggling to take care of his woman so that she'll be well fed and won't look outside, it is the fresh skin of your well-fed woman that would attract the men who would take her away.

Hate me for saying the truth, it's simply evolution at play.
It is not abnormal.
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by bezimo(m): 3:49pm On Jan 10
You know this goes both ways as per my observation recently.

Case 1: Guy investing in a lady only for her to dump him later for some other guy after she is made.
How to prevent this...secure your investment.lol.For example.If you are sponsoring a girl you love through school and want to marry her. Mid way through the sponsorship make concrete moves to marry her and do it..if she refuses with delaying reasons.then know you will be dumped as soon as she has gotten what she wants. So stop the sponsorship except you want to just be generous.

Case 2: Lady standing by her broke bf and financing him and paying almost all the bills only for the guy to hammer and abandone the girl later.
How to prevent this..not really sure because you really dont know a guy untill he hammers..then you will know if he truly loves you or not.For example you can make moves to help him get a good job or contract to make him get some money..then watch what he does if he starts philandering..he doesnt love you.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by ibietela2(m): 3:49pm On Jan 10
Divay22:

Yeah... Go ahead grin grin

I mean attach here please
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by killsmith(m): 3:51pm On Jan 10
Fragileheart:
When I look around all I see is selfishness

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Divay22(f): 3:51pm On Jan 10
Fragileheart:
When I look around all I see is selfishness
Not selfishness dear.
A guy ought to trade carefully when it comes to investing in a lady (sending her to school) because it's the usual story of "you are no longer my class, how much have you spent, my husband to be will pay back)
It's not an easy thing.....

If my brother tells me he wants to invest in a lady, I won't stop him, but the only thing I'll tell him is what i have already written.. Work on her and work on yourself, and to be on a safer side, don't expect much from her....

If she's studying full time, pls do part time, just be equip... Because when she finally becomes a graduate, she's no longer that naive girl, but a tigeress..
She's well fortified now, it might not necessarily be same level, but try.

Expectation we know, sometimes leads to disappointment.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Finest6: 3:52pm On Jan 10
To whom brain is given, sense is also expected.
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by beesyb(f): 3:53pm On Jan 10
No woman should expect a man to invest in her. I started working immediately I finished my WAEC. Even after i gained admission,I worked during every single holiday and to the glory of God,I am a graduate currently serving in the south east. Everyone deserves a better future. The guy should have invested the money in himself. Or help the lady with his church mind devoid of any expectation or reward.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by teamv: 3:55pm On Jan 10
beardlessdude:
who asked for your age?

Nigerians ehn
this guy no get respect oh
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by sacluxisback(m): 3:55pm On Jan 10
Invest in her for the night not for a lifetime.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by gudvibz(f): 3:56pm On Jan 10
Sometimes we tend to forget that it's a double edged sword we weld, it's verse versa.
The most stupid thing I can ever do is invest in a man cos I've seen what happens after graduation it ain't pretty
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Divay22(f): 3:57pm On Jan 10
ibietela2:


I mean attach here please
Our overgrown babies grin grin

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by Dollabiz: 3:57pm On Jan 10
Yes
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by deebrownneymar: 3:58pm On Jan 10
bamisepeters:
The problem of most women when it comes to relationship and the only reason that brings fear to every man willing to liberate "his" lady is that most women are so flexible, as in, they can easily be twisted, not by anyone, but by what they want and this is the fear of many men when it comes to investing in the woman they claim to love especially when they want her to be a huge success for herself and their future family.

At times, some women makes it hard for some men to liberate them, it is after much investment have been made and it is time to rip the fruit of the labor story will start changing.

Here is the disturbing post…

“I’m a 26 year old woman and my parents died when I was 14 years old. I dropped out of school because no one could afford to pay my fees. I met a guy when I was 16 and he sent me back to school. He sold fruit on the street so that he could pay my school fees. He later got a job as a truck driver and sent me to university. I am now working as a lawyer. My problem is that I feel I cannot continue with this relationship because this guy is not the type of man I would like to marry one day. How best can I tell him that he is not my type without hurting his feelings? I want someone in my class not truck driver.”

At times some woman will see the show of love from that true man but will not feel reluctant to throw it at his face instead of embracing it so that someone else will not claim what they should have kept to themselves, and will start crying foul play when their new found lover is treating them like trash.

Now, look at this issue critically and tell me if the guy was at fault to have believed and invested in her all in the name of love?

Some women becomes all-knowing after they have been liberated. And to them it is liberation not knowing such liberation leads to nowhere than bondage. Some woman just get the opposite of your intention, this is what makes them what they are and even who they will later be.

I know some men are also like this but it is so disturbing after all your partner have done to make you happy to now make them look stupid instead.

The truth is that if she does not learn to love the man she will regret to have left him for someone she considers to be her type. This is because there is no amount she can return to the man that can replace the time, feelings and all that the man channeled towards her success.

I am not surprised to even see this as humans make series of mistakes, we will see wide road but will love to pass the bushy and narrow part looking for what is not lost.

Of course the man will get over it but he will surely laugh last as what she thinks is the best for her may be the road to complete destruction, and when the man will be laughing is when the reality of what she had done will become clearer to her which will definitely be too late to re-write her wrongs.

As human beings I think we need to start using our head and not allow this emotion to rule over our thinking faculty as what we want at times may not be destined for us and when we force it to come the result becomes disastrous; we should learn to manage what we have to get the best out of it rather than twisting what shouldn’t be twisted.

We need to be appreciative and also remember that giving money is not always the best way to show appreciation, other things are involved depending on the situation.


Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2018/01/a-must-know-single-reason-why-many-men.html


What do you mean 'liberate'? I think that word is too strong.
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by adetes: 4:00pm On Jan 10
It depend
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by fatymore(f): 4:03pm On Jan 10
Why invest on a lady when she isn't your family.. Me self I can't invest on a guy oooo...
Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by deafeyez: 4:04pm On Jan 10
Ajoboss:
D last thing I would do in life na to invest money for woman head
I dey craze?

I was banging this girl and one thing led to another and we stopped communication. After months, she called that she was sick and we reconciled. She told me she wanted to learn hair dressing that she has got some money, that I should pay the rest. I told my friend and he warned me never to do so. He explained how he rented a house for his girl when he was doing IT. After the IT, he left for school. He came one night only to meet a guy with his girl in the room he rented. He had to sleep in a neighbor's room n left the next day.

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by sirxbit(m): 4:04pm On Jan 10
TwoBottles:
There are exceptional ladies who are worth everything good that a man can give them. I have one of such and I'm ready to go to any length to give her all she needs.
I go be first to comment when u finally create thread of trust no woman

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by vicben27(m): 4:08pm On Jan 10
TwoBottles:
There are exceptional ladies who are worth everything good that a man can give them. I have one of such and I'm ready to go to any length to give her all she needs.
ur correct Bro! there are nice ladies out there. got one too! but this is 2018 stop taking two bottles every evening lol

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Re: Single Reason Why Many Men Are Afraid To Invest In A Lady by ibietela2(m): 4:10pm On Jan 10
Divay22:

Our overgrown babies grin grin

Lol thank God you have an overgrown baby........ Me that is still looking for mummy to own me cry cry cry

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