It is abnormal for a woman to ask for a man’s hand in marriage, as men are traditionally in the position to do so.

This is due to several age-long beliefs ranging from the man being the head of the home to men being more level-headed to make such decision.

That is a subject of debate, though.


Anyway, let’s continue.

The internet was recently awash and agog with videos of two Nigerian ladies proposing to men.

Last week in Lagos, a lady proposed to her man. Unfortunately, the proposal, which took place at the Ikeja Shopping Mall, was turned down by the guy.

What a scene. You needed to be there.

Many Nigerians, let me be specific, the ”champions of tradition and culture” were drowned in the ocean of surprise.

It was strange.

Listen to what someone told me, in reaction to the videos: ”Even if I was compelled to propose to a man or lose my dear life, I will quickly opt for the latter.”

”What nonsense!” she added.

Some people blamed the lady for not “doing it in secret to avoid embarrassment,” while others praised the her for “shooting her shot,” describing her as courageous.

Yes, it is strange, especially in this part of the world, but in some countries, people are beginning to see nothing wrong with it.

In the United Kingdom, specifically Scotland and Ireland, February 29th every leap year is a day when women can propose to men.

It is also the same in Finland but with an exception: the man will buy a suitor enough clothing if he rejects her proposal.

British monarch, Queen Victoria, leads the pack for women proposing to men.

She proposed to Prince Albert on 15 October 1839 and they were married on 10 February 1840, in the Chapel Royal of St James’s Palace, London.

Data from the United States shows that 5% of proposals are made by women.

But why are Nigerian women now proposing to men? What has changed?

Courage

One of the reasons a lady could propose to a man is Courage.

Some men are believed not to be courageous enough to pop the “Will you marry me?” question for fear of being rejected.

And instead of waiting for ages for the man, the lady takes the bull by the horn and seal the relationship, taking it to another level.

Age Factor

Also, since it is naturally believed that a lady’s ”clock ticks faster than a man’s,” most ladies would not mind popping the big question.

When a lady is in a relationship for a long time, with age no longer on her side and being “harassed” by her mother to bring home a man for “legalised procreation,” she could be forced to make the request and move the relationship to the “permanent site.”

Although she could be rejected but that is deemed better than ageing faster without knowing where the relationship is headed.

Rising Level of Feminism

Heard the saying “What a man can do, a woman can do better?”

Well, that is one of the mantras used in the promotion of feminism; gender equality.

Some proponents of female proposing to men argue that both gender were created equally and thus proposing should not be a “man’s thing.”

Foreseeing A Man’s Prospect

There is another school of thought that believes some ladies propose to men when they see his potentials.

It’s a widely held belief that men tend to struggle financially, especially in their early years.

Thus, many men might shy away, even with potentials of a great future, to “tie the love of his life down” in eternal bliss.

With this, a lady who is in a romantic relationship with a man who she sees prospects in, may not hesitate to “ring the finger.”

If the lady in question is financially stable, the scenario is even likelier to play out.

Fulfillment of Biblical Prophesy?

“In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, ‘We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!'” – Isaiah 4:1

There are also some groups of people who see the recent wave of women proposing to men in Africa as a fulfillment of the biblical statement above.

With the level of desperation exhibited by most ladies to marry and bear “Mrs” – a product of societal pressure – this seem, from popular belief, a possible answer to the poser: “should women propose to men?”

As arguments for and against this rage on across the country, it is safe to say that this five reasons explain the paradigm shift of women proposing to men.

https://www.concisenews.global/opinion/five-reasons-nigerian-ladies-are-proposing-to-men/

6) Sex Dolls

DaddyKross:
6) Sex Dolls

Just keep talking you will say something reasonable one day

women never propose the broke men.only the ones with moola or a very sure promise of moola.. so fvck that shit.its for business..

I can't try that shiit mehn, if I'll even do it, it'll be in private. Incase bros says no, at least I'll carry my L in private.

But I still don't see myself doing it.

If the uncle now says yes, who'll sponsor the wedding??

A lady should even be courageous enough to be strong if a man says NO to her, to avoid preying in the hand of a man who'll take advantage of your desperation.

hibiscus76:
If the uncle now says yes, who'll sponsor the wedding??

The lady will know his pocket before proposing.

donstan18:


The lady will know his pocket before proposing.

if you say so

Which Naija woman propose to man?
Those ones na publicity stunt.

Naija women go weigh your prospects first, then the proposal goes like: "Dare I think I am pregnant, what do WE do?"

pocohantas:

Naija women proposal is "Dare I think I am pregnant, what do WE do?"

ibkayee:

Na high risk proposal o, only for the brave

pocohantas:


Na high risk proposal o, only for the brave

but there isn't any compulsion or legal authority backing any proposal. If you propose to me and I say yes, I can say No tomorrow.

majekdom2:
but there isn't any compulsion or legal authority backing any proposal. If you propose to me and I say yes, I can say No tomorrow.

I go add am juju