I AM 8YRS OLD IN MARRIAGE AND BLESSED WITH TWO BOYS,FOR EIGHT GOOD YEARS I HV NOT HAD REST OF MIND,OUTSIDE IS CHEATING HABIT HE TENDS TO EMBARASS EVERY POINT IN TIME,I DONT HAVE A RIGHT TO TALK HE WILL FIGHT BACK,THE WORST PART OF IT ALL IS THE SHAME AND DISGRACE HE HAS CAUSED ME SO FAR,YESTERDAY JUST A LITTLE ARGUEMENT HEBEAT ME UP AGAIN,BLEEDING FROM THE NOSE AND MOUTH,I DONT KNOW WOT TO DO,I HV REPORTED TO HIS PEOPLE AND EVEN THE CHURCH NOTHING HAS BEEN DONE.I FEEL LIKE MAKING HIM PAY FOR ALL THE BRUISES.......................BUT................................?PLS I NEED ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO

Stay out of that marriage, no one deserve to be treated like that.

Sister Sister THINGS DON'T JUST HAPPEN.....

All we hear is ONE side of the story and we can not JUDGE ACCURATELY ON THIS.

Were you not warned about marrying him? Does a godly gentle man just suddenly become a wife-beater?

Hmmmm it is not the church o... you chose to enter the marriage against all ODDS. If the foundation is destroyed then what can be DONE....

HOW DID YOU BOTH DATE? were there signs of ANGER BURSTS before the marriage?

it is not about sex before marriage, is about what principles were observed during dating and before marriage.... were u both PRAYERFUL and SUBMISSIVE TO PARENTAL AND SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY?

Because only a man who has not be properly groomed before being a groom can begin to beat and cheat in marriage.
IF YOU CAN NOT STAY, Then know this... ON THE GROUNDS OF CHEATING the bible gives you freedom to break up.

GOD BLESS YOU.
I advice you to go back to repair your relationship with God and you will recover with or without the man.

lizyb:
I AM 8YRS OLD IN MARRIAGE AND BLESSED WITH TWO BOYS,FOR EIGHT GOOD YEARS I HV NOT HAD REST OF MIND,OUTSIDE IS CHEATING HABIT HE TENDS TO EMBARASS EVERY POINT IN TIME,I DONT HAVE A RIGHT TO TALK HE WILL FIGHT BACK,THE WORST PART OF IT ALL IS THE SHAME AND DISGRACE HE HAS CAUSED ME SO FAR,YESTERDAY JUST A LITTLE ARGUEMENT HEBEAT ME UP AGAIN,BLEEDING FROM THE NOSE AND MOUTH,I DONT KNOW WOT TO DO,I HV REPORTED TO HIS PEOPLE AND EVEN THE CHURCH NOTHING HAS BEEN DONE.I FEEL LIKE MAKING HIM PAY FOR ALL THE BRUISES.......................BUT................................?PLS I NEED ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO

Awwww, this is heartbreaking. Why don't you leave? Don't you have family or women's shelters in your vicinity?

u better pack ur load and leave if u die in an abusive marriage because ur kids those kids will never forgive u and there father u may b thinking hw to start over again bt don't forget u don't hv a husband before u met him definately God will give u a loving and carring man pls leave before u die

wow

madam get the fvck out of the house..
in fact stay since na die dey hungry you
read the hand writing on the wall

fight am bak...afterall women dey seek equal powers wit men(GENDER EQUALITY)

Please don't revenge. You might end up killing him mistakenly. Women often go the extreme when they are pushed to the wall.

Just leave with your children and go to your family;parents, brothers/sisters.

Firstly, get a gang of girls and beat the Shiit outta him.
Secondly, Get the hell out of that PRISON! divorce the bastard!

Lastly, do you have a job? Are you financially independent?
If you aren't, then, find something doing and take your boys out of there before the psychopathic lunatic corrupts them. Please, hurry before we read in some random news that you ended up dead or badly maimed.

crismark:
fight am bak...afterall women dey seek equal powers wit men(GENDER EQUALITY)

Ah!! Oga you want make her husband break her bones The best thing is for her to jejely pack out of that house.

izaray:
Ah!! Oga you want make her husband break her bones The best thing is for her to jejely pack out of that house.

i dnt like wasting advice....she dey dere d man dey beat her for 8 years. y she never pack commot d house since... she dey wait 4 advice. and sm sure after all dis advice, she wuld remain in d house.

thank u all for ur advice,the main issue is I am not financially independent,my parent are late and my 2 younger ones are also staying with me,i really don't know where to start from,,,,,,i married with no knowledge about what marriage is,but nowi understand it better,i hv made up my mind to move ,I no I will survive,when there is a will there will definitely be a way.

XhosaNostra:
Awwww, this is heartbreaking. Why don't you leave? Don't you have family or women's shelters in your vicinity?

It's truly sad , she had better find somewhere else to live before he kills her, these sorts of relationships hardly end well.

crismark:

i dnt like wasting advice....she dey dere d man dey beat her for 8 years. y she never pack commot d house since... she dey wait 4 advice. and sm sure after all dis advice, she wuld remain in d house.

Lol, the painful part you will hear, i'm still in the marriage because of my children

lizyb:
I AM 8YRS OLD IN MARRIAGE AND BLESSED WITH TWO BOYS,FOR EIGHT GOOD YEARS I HV NOT HAD REST OF MIND,OUTSIDE IS CHEATING HABIT HE TENDS TO EMBARASS EVERY POINT IN TIME,I DONT HAVE A RIGHT TO TALK HE WILL FIGHT BACK,THE WORST PART OF IT ALL IS THE SHAME AND DISGRACE HE HAS CAUSED ME SO FAR,YESTERDAY JUST A LITTLE ARGUEMENT HEBEAT ME UP AGAIN,BLEEDING FROM THE NOSE AND MOUTH,I DONT KNOW WOT TO DO,I HV REPORTED TO HIS PEOPLE AND EVEN THE CHURCH NOTHING HAS BEEN DONE.I FEEL LIKE MAKING HIM PAY FOR ALL THE BRUISES.......................BUT................................?PLS I NEED ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO

BEAT HIM TOO

izaray:
Lol, the painful part you will hear, i'm still in the marriage because of my children

as in ehn!!! if na my sister she be i 4 don give her d beating of her life

Lionessza:



It's truly , she had better find somewhere else to live before he kills her, these sorts of relationships hardly end well.

Eish Some women are really having it rough. It truly won't end well.

FluidQueen:
Firstly, get a gang of girls and beat the Shiit outta him.
Secondly, Get the hell out of that PRISON! divorce the bastard!

Lastly, do you have a job? Are you financially independent?
If you aren't, then, find something doing and take your boys out of there before the psychopathic lunatic corrupts them. Please, hurry before we read in some random news that you ended up dead or badly maimed.

so u are giving advice now,u do know dat marriage is 4 better 4 worst

crismark:

as in ehn!!! if na my sister she be i 4 don give her d beaten of her life

My dear, though is not an easy thing at all, married for 8years with 2 kids, and everything just ends that way Its a very bad experience...But sometimes, one need to make a decision and move on with life sha. Marriage no be do or die thing, and it must not work for everybody, that's what i have come to realize

izaray:
My dear, though is not an easy thing at all, married for 8years with 2 kids, and everything just ends that way Its a very bad experience...But sometimes, one need to make a decision and move on with life sha. Marriage no be do or die thing, and it must not work for everybody, that's what i have come to realize

u deserve one cold bottle of ace of spades..

no be say i hate women ooo but at times some of dem brain no dey function well..

dats y i say WETHER U ARE A MAN OR WOMAN BE INDEPENDENT...
e fit be say she no get any source of income na y she remain 4 her "matrimonial home"

XhosaNostra:


Eish Some women are really having it rough. It truly won't end well.

Yeah . I hope she finds the help she needs , shame . It's so irritating how some useless guy will take out his frustrations on the person , he's supposed to protect . Thunder fire his balls .

crismark:

u deserve one cold bottle of ace of spades..

no be say i hate women ooo but at times some of dem brain no dey function well..

dats y i say WETHER U ARE A MAN OR WOMAN BE INDEPENDENT...
e fit be say she no get any source of income na y she remain 4 her "matrimonial home"

I concur, maybe that's the more reason the man is acting in such manner.

Btw, na Erujeje or origin i dey take

izaray:
I concur, maybe that's the more reason the man is acting in such manner.

Btw, na Erujeje or origin i dey take

Eru...kini u no be woman?

na malt i go buy 4 u

Lionessza:



Yeah . I hope she finds the help she needs , shame . It's so irritating how some useless guy will take out his frustrations on the person , he's supposed to protect . Thunder fire his balls .

It's very sad. I wonder why she doesn't open a case for him. Or maybe she's dependent on him shame. I see no other reason why a person would stay with an abusive, cheating spouse.

Thunder fire the idiot indeed lol.

crismark:


Eru...kini u no be woman?

na malt i go buy 4 u

Malt is for old mamas, to cold their heads to bed

izaray:
Malt is for old mamas, to cold their heads to bed

i fear u...

dah means if i marry u...one day u go high come bak kon start to beat me

crismark:

i fear u...

dah means if i marry u...one day u go high come bak kon start to beat me

You kno you can only fear God and respect women...Cos we are wonderful creatures in nature, we are unpredictable

XhosaNostra:


It's very sad. I wonder why she doesn't open a case for him. Or maybe she's dependent on him shame. I see no other reason why a person would stay with an abusive, cheating spouse.

Thunder fire the idiot indeed lol.

I'm sure she's dependent on him ...hence the goon has no shame .

Lol, I sometimes find myself saying that and everyone I say it to is always confused .

izaray:
You kno you can only fear God and respect women...Cos we are wonderful creatures in nature, we are unpredictable

noted!!!

Lionessza:



I'm sure she's dependent on him ...hence the goon has no shame .

Lol, I sometimes find myself saying that and everyone I say it to is always confused .

Hahaha. Really? They have they strangest, non-insultive insults ever I'm sure you get laughed at lol.

XhosaNostra:



Hahaha. Really? They have they strangest, non-insultive insults ever I'm you get laughed at lol.

Lol, yeah ndiyaphulukwa about my secret online life, I guess . Lol , ja .