Hi Nairalanders,

I don't know if this is a general thing or just me. I find myself reluctant to ask a lady out if she's not from my tribe. I know this sounds ridiculous in this present age but consciously or unconsciously I find it difficult making a move even when all the green light is there.
What makes it even more pathetic, I'm more attracted to other tribes.

What should I do? Should I stick to my tribe or find a way to overcome this silliness. (silly cos we should be past tribalism by now).

Mature responses please. Constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks

It doesn't really matter

But there are people from some certain tribe that i can't date just as i can't date someone that has tribal marks

As long as he can speak English ... who Dafuk cares nitori olorun

MARRIAGE is between two FAMILIES not TWO PEOPLE.

LOVE is where you find it

In nigeria it matters o... because 1st 10years of marriage you would NEED tutorials on many things from others in your family who MARRIED before you.

But with strong LOVE, you both can conquer ethic constraints and break the system... it happens BUT both of you must be involved o

pressplay411:
Hi Nairalanders,

I don't know if this is a general thing or just me. I find myself reluctant to ask a lady out if she's not from my tribe. I know this sounds ridiculous in this present age but consciously or unconsciously I find it difficult making a move even when all the green light is there.
What makes it even more pathetic, I'm more attracted to other tribes.

What should I do? Should I stick to my tribe or find a way to overcome this silliness. (silly cos we should be past tribalism by now).

Mature responses please. Constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks

Igbos are money conscious.
Edos are promiscuous (Italian connection)
Yorubas are fetish skull miners.
Fulanis are killers.
Hausas are terrorists.

These are well known albeit fallacious stereotypes.
But at the end of the day, it boils down to individual personalities, not communal characteristics.

MhizzAJ:
It doesn't really matter

But there are people from some certain tribe that i can't date just as i can't date someone that has tribal marks

So it matters then.

Lalas247:

As long as he can speak English ... who Dafuk cares nitori olorun

I hear ya but it's sometimes more complicated.

MhizzAJ:
It doesn't really matter

But there are people from some certain tribe that i can't date just as i can't date someone that has tribal marks

hmmm...just tribal marks

Nope it doesn't, maybe its because of my background sha.

thesicilian:
Igbos are money conscious.
Edos are promiscuous (Italian connection)
Yorubas are fetish skull miners.
Fulanis are killers.
Hausas are terrorists.

These are well known albeit fallacious stereotypes.
But at the end of the day, it boils down to individual personalities, not communal characteristics.

Niger Deltans are militants (u forgot)

BossLaifay:
Niger Deltans are militants (u forgot)

Niger Deltas are not tribes but regions

Let no one fool you...tribe is very important when considering a permanent relationship!

classicMan22:
Niger Deltas are not tribes but regions

Lol.. Short of typing urhobo, isoko, ijaw, itsekiri,......... Why not group them together.. Lol. I am one actually

pressplay411:
Hi Nairalanders,

I don't know if this is a general thing or just me. I find myself reluctant to ask a lady out if she's not from my tribe. I know this sounds ridiculous in this present age but consciously or unconsciously I find it difficult making a move even when all the green light is there.
What makes it even more pathetic, I'm more attracted to other tribes.

What should I do? Should I stick to my tribe or find a way to overcome this silliness. (silly cos we should be past tribalism by now).

Mature responses please. Constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks

Nairalanders will tell you it doest matter but it matters.

BossLaifay:
Lol.. Short of typing urhobo, isoko, ijaw, itsekiri,......... Why not group them together.. Lol. I am one actually

ok, but people say that the ijaws are the Fulani of the south how true is that?

Kobicove:
Let no one fool you...tribe is very important when considering a permanent relationship!

Can you marry outside your tribe?

CaptainStephen:
Nope it doesn't, maybe its because of my background sha.

By background, how do you mean?

Tribe matters to me. I don't think I can date any girl in a certain area from the north.



Just being honest.

Maxi112:
Tribe matters to me. I don't think I can date any girl in a certain area from the north.



Just being honest.

Not even date? Lol

pressplay411:


By background, how do you mean?

I grew up in a multicultural family, father is Edo while mum is Borno with a lot of relatives from other tribes so it has an influence.

if you love the person fine...

I don't know about others but it matters to me. I can't marry a Yoruba lady. In fact, I consider Yoruba people annoying.

To me it matters o. I don't like anything that will stress me, adapting to a new culture, learning new language, learning to cook new type of food, my kids answering weird names, my partner speaking language i don't understand, i will feel lost, like a total stranger etc.

Chikita66:
To me it matters o. I don't like anything that will stress me, adapting to a new culture, learning new language, learning to cook new type of food, my kids answering weird names, my partner speaking language i don't understand, i will feel lost, like a total stranger etc.

Lmao. Your paranoia is on another level.
You forget one factor eliminates all these fears... Love. If you love them, you'd some how make it work though.

boiz2men:
I don't know about others but it matters to me. I can't marry a Yoruba lady. In fact, I consider Yoruba people annoying.

Lol to each their own.

CaptainStephen:
I grew up in a multicultural family, father is Edo while mum is Borno with a lot of relatives from other tribes so it has an influence.

Oh. That's great. You must be very social.

Any inter-tribal couples in the house? Interested in your experiences, kindly share the good, the bad, even the ugly and the beautiful. Thx

pressplay411:


Lmao. Your paranoia is on another level.
You forget one factor eliminates all these fears... Love. If you love them, you'd some how make it work though.

My dear, it's not only love you consider in marriage o. Other factors come into play.

Personally, I think tribe matters, although it all boils down to individuals.
There's much ethinic segregation going on in this country that makes one fear loving or marrying from another tribe.
Much work, much efforts, much convinctions, much sacrifices needs be made to avert crisis in such inter tribal marriage.
@OP, go with what you believe and suit your mind because you already establish the doubt in your mind, anything contrary to that might not make you feel fulfilled.

pressplay411:


Oh. That's great. You must be very social.

social ke I am actually a very quiet person with few friends

Chikita66:
My dear, it's not only love you consider in marriage o. Other factors come into play.

Of course. What I mean is love (genuine love) makes the challenges worth it.
But wisdom must be applied so you don't have much challenges to contend with.

CaptainStephen:
social ke I am actually a very quiet person with few friends

Perhaps cos you don't know your own strength. Only you carry the dna of wazobia in you meaning you could easily interact with any Nigerian. But then again it could be other factors, zodiac, temperament, trust issues (lol) etc. But you'd mix easily in any 9ja circle.