| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Maxi112: 11:02pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Show him the way bro, carry him along, let him hustle with you, I bet he won't have the time to watch porn and masturbate. 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by KIDfurniture(m): 11:03pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
You need better olosho - EDO one to bleed your brains out - you will never go back to porn or hand service 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Abfinest007(m): 11:07pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
get a girlfriend for hin I bet u he will stop unless he eat pornography n drink it |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by BoweryGirl(f): 11:07pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
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| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Joshuamilarge(m): 11:13pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
pure lazily ness is what I see here. masturbation has nothing to do with his problems. 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by pooozeee(m): 11:14pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
If you really wana help him out of his situation then you should find him a girl friend and he should try to marry on tym, masturbation will stop immediately trust me
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| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Comeandcollect: 11:18pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
You are lucky, my 32 year old brother unmarried demands N100k from me every month and guess what he does with the money ?
Drink with his friends and eat pepper soup, i can comfortably give him N100k dash every month without a doubt but is that the right thing to do ? No way !
The truth be told, some family members are liabilities, they rely on the effort of others and sit on their back side doing nothing Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
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| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by divineappo(m): 11:19pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
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| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by emotionroll(m): 11:20pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
greiboy:
So you are extremely concerned about your twin brother, but he cares less about what you think.
You have continued to provide financial support for his lifestyle, despite showing any lack of desire from his part to improve.
Your twin brother is yet to become an adult, you have shielded him from the harsh realities of life by always providing for him
You might think you are helping him now, but the longer you provide support for him, the more you delay his growth.
>I believe you need to let him be an adult,
>let him live on his own,
>leave him and get an apartment of your own.
> let him understand (in a practical sense) this time that you can't continue to be his fall guy.
if you don't break free, you risk slipping into depression or other psychological problems yourself.
There's no other solution.
U are d first nairalander hu has spoken wit his sense....is like u are new shaa... 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by frikpus: 11:26pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
An idle mind they say is the devil's workshop. The Bible says that prosperity is for doers. Make him to understand that he doesn't work, shouldn't eat. What if u die tomorrow or any that provides for(ull not die) , what would be his fate. He should try get busy with something and spoil his phone n tell him u wanna repair it. Get a non browsing phone for him. I pray he'll change in Jesus name 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by emotionroll(m): 11:28pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Joshuamilarge:
pure lazily ness is what I see here. masturbation has nothing to do with his problems. must u talk...why not shut d hell up sit and watch....cos dats wat u shd be doin best....d u knw hw harmful masturbation is.....be talkin frm ur pit hole 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Oheji1: 11:29pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Do all you can to convince him to church, let prayers of deliverance be rained on him. A power more superior than all of you can handle with money or anything is in full control of him. Any bible believing church can help. I agree with you for change over his life. 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Kingzra1(m): 11:29pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
akeentech:
Masturbation is good for your health please Mugu like u 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by soprano2(m): 11:31pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Side effects of masturbation
Masturbation doesn’t have any harmful side effects, though some people may feel guilty about masturbating or have issues with chronic masturbation.
Masturbation and guilt
Some people may feel guilty about masturbating because of cultural, spiritual, or religious beliefs. Masturbation is neither wrong nor immoral, but you may still hear messages that self-pleasure is “dirty” and “shameful.” If you feel guilty over masturbating, speak with someone you trust about why you feel this way and how you can move past that guilt. There are also therapists that specialize in sexual health and may be a good resource.
Addiction to masturbation
Some people can and do become addicted to masturbating. You may be spending too much time masturbating if masturbation causes you to:
skip your chores or daily activities
miss work or school
cancel plans with friends or family
miss important social events
Being addicted to masturbation can have a negative impact on your relationships and other parts of your life. Masturbating too much may interrupt your work or studies, which can lower productivity. It may also hurt your relationships and friendships because you don’t spend as much time with your loved ones as you used to, or don’t pay attention to their needs.
If you’re worried you may be addicted to masturbation, speak with your doctor or a counselor about ways to cut down on masturbating. Talk therapy can help you manage your addiction. You could also cut down by replacing masturbation with other activities. Next time you have an urge to masturbate, try:
going for a run
writing in a journal
spending time with friends
going for a walk 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Nobody: 11:32pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I [b]started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 [/b]since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
OP, you masturbated for 10 years  ?? As in, a decade ?  |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by soprano2(m): 11:35pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Other Side Effects of Masturbation in Men
Too much masturbation may lead to hormonal changes within the body. The level of these changes totally depends on the number of times one indulges in masturbating. Potential risks may include:
Addiction: Masturbating might become an addiction if done too much. This addiction can be as harmful as any other drug addicts.
Erectile dysfunction: There is an increased risk to suffer from erectile dysfunction due to too much masturbating.
Neurological concerns: Several studies have indicated that over masturbation can cause severe neurological problems in men.
Premature ejaculation: Men masturbating too much would find it extremely difficult to control the release of sperms. And overstimulation of penile nerve is held responsible for this problem.
Pain: Rarely, too much roughness with the genitals might eventually lead to soring. Be gentle if this happens to bring things back to normal.
Emergency may happen: This is rare, but can still happen. When a man inserts an object in his anus and that goes too deep in the rectum, one may have to seek a professional for an emergency removal. |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by emmie14: 11:37pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
So this is your recommendations to stop addiction? That guy simply need a wife |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Nobody: 11:38pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
Op, you masturbated for good 10 years ? As in, a decade out of your useful lifespan This is utterly ridiculous; Leaders of tomorrow indeed! Tell us the truth! I have a feeling you are the one we are discussing here because for you to have masturbated for 10 years, you wouldn't be able to leave it easily. Even if you do, masturbation would not leave you because it would have become your 'TWIN' brother by then.  
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| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Solidkay(m): 11:42pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Getting out of any sort if addiction is an individual battle,
He has to make the decision, else,
his situation can never be salvaged |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Nobody: 11:48pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
emotionroll:
U are d first nairalander hu has spoken wit his sense....is like u are new shaa... He isn't new. He has sense,though e dey fluctuate sha...  |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by sonofthunder: 11:58pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
2 Thessalonians 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. 2 Thessalonians 3:11 For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies. 2 Thessalonians 3:12 Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by free2ryhme: 11:59pm On Mar 09, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
una don start abi |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by grandstar(m): 12:05am On Mar 10, 2018 |
IFearGod:
Op, you masturbated for good 10 years? As in, a decade out of your useful lifespan This is utterly ridiculous; Leaders of tomorrow indeed!
Tell us the truth! I have a feeling you are the one we are discussing here because for you to have masturbated for 10 years, you wouldn't be able to leave it easily. Even if you do, masturbation would not leave you because it would have become your 'TWIN' brother by then. Nairalandtwins, I am mighty proud of you that you stopped masturbation. Forget comments of those who do not care about you 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by fortunechy(m): 12:16am On Mar 10, 2018 |
in every family, they use to have prodigal son or black sheep..... even though ur write up isn't complete cuz u fell to include Ho old u guys are and what you do for a living cuz hustling isn't an occupation or name of a company....
Anyway, my candid advice is u n ur parents should stop giving him money .......by so doing he will re-set his mind set about life and engage in meaningful activities that will better his life. |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by UthmanLENIN: 12:19am On Mar 10, 2018 |
assist him in dealing with it by seeing a therapist |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by LZAA: 12:20am On Mar 10, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
oohhh jesus anoda w.anking thread again ohk o just wait for the religious peeps to come and quote bible verses for u me i'm outta here |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by tega10: 12:26am On Mar 10, 2018 |
only Jesus can saves and Abel Danima and Joseph prince can show him Jesus.... please give him messages of these men. and thank Jesus later |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by pressplay411(m): 12:31am On Mar 10, 2018 |
BruncleZuma:
First of all, your story and the "supposed addiction" doesn't add up... masturbation has no known psychological effects "some will beg to differ".
Secondly, it seems he doesn't have a source of income and you know how to make a living "teaching him" how to fish will be a nice way to go about it.
3rdly, blood is thicker than water until it has no vessel to live in. Stop being in the god tempting business of engaging in financial strip tease with your brother and not face the ensuing consequences...
Lastly y'all are supposed to be twins; if you need strangers to help you understand and rehabilitate your brother it means you've failed as a brother. Not every one is a sole custodian of knowledge like you sir. Sharing the problems of his twin doesn't make him a failure, you insulting a man''s honest cry for help is the failure. That said OP, I hope this story is genuine cos everyone seeking attention lately it's hard to tell. So, Masturbation is probably the most dangerous sin as it slowly encroaches one's life. There are two solutions you could adopt. 1. Get him a job or business or further his education. Clearly the devil finds use for idle hands. 2. Deal with the problem holistically. Get him closer to Jesus Christ, his sinful nature becomes detestable to him and he gains power over it. Also he learns responsibility in the church. Watch his life transform positively before your eyes. Speaking from experience. Goodluck. |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by debosalau(m): 12:37am On Mar 10, 2018 |
Having a brother who lacks focus is a damn big problem in life, so painful and discouraging.
You introduced him to masturbation, you had every opportunity to have disclosed to his doctor when he had the mental issue, but you chose to cover up for him (probably thinking you helped him)
As concerning the money he spent that got you so angry that made you take to Nairaland, he'll still spend more if he sees the opportunity, yes, he'll spend it more on useless things until he rediscover himself. Reacting here because of the money spent shows that you care more about your money than your brother.
An earlier post was seeking his/ur age range yet you decided not to disclose unknown to you that it'll assist in providing recommendations concerning what he should be engaged into e.g Seeking admission into a tertiary institution, learning a trade, etc.
The best recommendation given so far is seeing a psycho therapist (not just him, both of you) and saying you don't know how to get him to a therapist means you're not willing to do whatever it takes to get back on track.
Pending while you get a therapist, watch out for the company he keeps and his friends which I'm sure you'll have a lot of mutual friends, get people who can give some advice and make it clear to him that you can't tolerate his attitude, try talk him into engaging in a time consuming and productive activity. If you choose not to give him money, he'll definitely get it elsewhere |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by Nobody: 12:39am On Mar 10, 2018 |
Nairalandtwins:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls pardon typos and blunders incase of any because I am grossly angry right now.
My twin brother has been addicted to pornography and masturbation for some years now, although I started it since 2006 and stopped in 2016 since I noticed the terrible negative effects on every aspect of my life. All efforts to make him stop proved abortive.
In 2016 he had psychological issues and was admitted in the hospital for a month and he was fine and back to his normal self. At the hospital I read an article here on Nairaland that masturbation can cause brain issues then it dawned on me that that was the cause for his illness but I didn't disclose it to the doctor and my parents...
He promised and swore to me to never to masturbate again. I've been watching him closely and studying him and I am still noticing signs, he probably has stopped masturbating but he still watches porn which also has negative effects on his brain....
Fast forward to what happened this evening. Before I tell you what happened lemme tell you this too. He doesn't have any vision, no plans, no idea, he just sits at home and wait for his twin bro to bring money home or call mom and dad to help him with cash all these things irritates me so bad. Funnily enough he always talk about having a girlfriend, he tells me being single doesn't make sense and I react and tell him, which lady will stay with you when you have no vision and plans for yourself let alone for her..
Back to the matter, this evening I returned back home from hustle with some good profit... I can't remember when last I made such money in a day since this government took over... So I transferred 5k out of the money to his account to help me withdraw from the bank and pay some debts. After spending hours out there I decided to call him and he says "bro I went to see my babe" 30 mins later he calls back
Him: Hello bro, something happened o
Me: what happened
Him: I bought drinks 2k for me and my babe
Me: what the heck? My sweat? I'm very infuriated
Him: pls bro I am sorry bro pls..
Me: *calms down* I have heard you
Him: bro can I go and chill again and relax with another 2k
Me: I give up do whatever you like... *ends call*
How can I help him pls
Mods pls move this to the front page so people can see the negative effects of masturbation and porn and I also need help for him. Thank you
we all know what he used that money for do you guys by any chance stay around surulere or Ikeja axis? Lol 1 Like |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by NisforNicky: 12:57am On Mar 10, 2018 |
Konji |
| Re: My Twin Brother Is Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation. Help! by SACI: 1:04am On Mar 10, 2018 |
I feel like you mean you... nt ur twin brother
gudluck to who it is though |
