MissRaine69:
You have the part time feminists who are selective with what they want to advocate these are the ones who hijack a cause they know little off.
You have made very valid points. Now I have a scenario I need to discuss and your input is appreciated. I am dating someone and this is has been going swimmingly well. I make plans to take him out for dinner this goes well as too . The bill arrives and I state since it was my treat I am paying. World War 3 errupted. I was accused of offending him. This confused me greatly. It’s my treat so why should he pay? It was not done in front of him. So how then can you demonstrate your independence when situations like this happen?

CrescentMoon:


I don't think a lasting marriage is meant for you; you know too much to be a wife. You knowing too much much is not a turnoff for all men, but there will be clash of ideals in your union.

1. Being versed in astrology, I like to believe we have about 11 types of personalities. My type for instance, I like to spend money on women, but when I start reflecting on money spent, I would count it as money lost or spent on charity because I believe a woman can walk out of a relationship or marriage anytime and I won't plead with her for once to stay. So, if a woman tries paying our bills, she will have my respect, but try that with Leo people and see what will happen.

2. From your comments I've read here over the years, I may conclude that you're not naturally generous. And if that's how you were made, it's not a sin. You said no one, even one's parent, owes us anything. You argued that that's the philosophy your parents installed in you. And if a man knows that you're naturally not generous, paying the bills will not go down well with him. You have never let your guard down to ward off dating fraudsters. This is good, but it says you can never be in love, and I'm sure you can never be in love. When you're in love, your defenses are gone, and you pray for God to have your back. But because God has shown over the years that He doesn't always care about injustice, the brain became your ultimate tool of trade. God said "Vengeance is mine." The same God said "The righteous perishes, and no one takes it heart."

My Advice For You

Have children, but not marriage. How is that possible without marriage ordinance? Discuss it with your partner. I'm a very religious person, but I believe that if the parents of the partners agree with the union, the rest are formalities. Which pastor or court joined Cain and his wives in marriage? Examine Jacob, Leah and Rachel.

CrescentMoon:


I don't think a lasting marriage is meant for you; you know too much to be a wife. You knowing too much much is not a turnoff for all men, but there will be clash of ideals in your union.

1. Being versed in astrology, I like to believe we have about 11 types of personalities. My type for instance, I like to spend money on women, but when I start reflecting on money spent, I would count it as money lost or spent on charity because I believe a woman can walk out of a relationship or marriage anytime and I won't plead with her for once to stay. So, if a woman tries paying our bills, she will have my respect, but try that with Leo people and see what will happen.

2. From your comments I've read here over the years, I may conclude that you're not naturally generous. And if that's how you were made, it's not a sin. You said no one, even one's parent, owes us anything. You argued that that's the philosophy your parents installed in you. And if a man knows that you're naturally not generous, paying the bills will not go down well with him. You have never let your guard down to ward off dating fraudsters. This is good, but it says you can never be in love, and I'm sure you can never be in love. When you're in love, your defenses are gone, and you pray for God to have your back. But because God has shown over the years that He doesn't always care about injustice, the brain became your ultimate tool of trade. God said "Vengeance is mine." The same God said "The righteous perishes, and no one takes it heart."

My Advice For You

Have children, but not marriage. How is that possible without marriage ordinance? Discuss it with your partner. I'm a very religious person, but I believe that if the parents of the partners agree with the union, the rest are formalities. Which pastor or court joined Cain and his wives in marriage? Examine Jacob, Leah and Rachel.

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:



[s][/s](To the Op are you a marriage counselor or psychologist by profession? Your write up makes a lot of sense

These so called Feminists have destroyed the constitution of marriage. That's why you see the increased rates of divorcees, infidelity, adultery, promiscuity etc just because of the silly belief that their bodies belongs to them and this gives them free will to fvck whomever without recourse to societal norms and decency

Feminists are scum of the earth)[s][/s]

Chikita66:
Una don start again, this one will reach 100 pages but OP you woke up by 3am to type this.

Prechbills:
when I tell some people that as long as "independency clause" is included in the agenda of feminism it'll never be embraced by Nigerian women, they don't believe. over the days after my study I've noticed that Nigerian ladies keep shouting "feminism " equality but when it comes to financial responsibilities they back off, some will begin rejecting feminism to the extent that they'll say; feminism started in America, if you need an independent wife go over there.


Achieving feminism in Nigeria is like North Korea defeating the UK in a war(I mean practically impossible) ,not that Nigerian ladies don't like the feminism agenda/ideology/ideas but because of the clause of "financial equality " 85% of them would reject it.
Most of the so called feminists we have on nairaland are not married so ,I believe they're reacting from a childish point of view.


For feminism to be achieved, the following needs to be eradicated;

Domestic violence /opression
sexual harassment √
gender equality


you'll wonder why I marked only the sexual harassment, I marked only that clause because it is the only one that can be achieved in the present day Nigeria.


you'll know why soon


Domestic violence /oppression; in the present day Nigerian system, this agenda can't be achieved.

why?


1. Bride Price;

you see I won't include dowry because 97% of domestical abuses are usually done by the male gender.

in as much as bride price culture still thrives oppression continues

some men think by paying for bride price, sponsoring marriage they've purchased a property and deserve unwarranted level of loyalty and when you fail to give them the loyalty they deserve, they'll think about the money and everything they committed just to have you hence they resort to domestic abuse.


2. money

I don't need to emphasise much here, typical Nigerian ladies will prefer to stay in an abusive relationship as long as they keep getting something in return, why? because they won't work.



Gender equality

when you mention this word, Nigerian ladies usually feel uncomfortable because what comes to their minds is financial responsibility "


and that is why majority of them would never support feminism.

The Nigerian structure is done in a way that the women are somehow lazy and dependent on the male gender, accepting this clause would therefore pose a serious challenge to them.


[/b](men are breadwinners in 95% of Nigerian homes so how do you even expect the ladies to accept feminism? some would ask.


in Nigeria, the moment a lady is born her parents start grooming her marriage as If that is all life is about. Women in Nigeria usually refer to themselves as weaker vessels" I'm still yet to understand what makes them weaker vessels.


sometimes I'm surprised that in some homes the wives are working but the men still contribute 90% and whenever they go broke ,peace will cease to exist in the marriage because the ladies won't release their money and I'm still surprised as to how some men pay their wives monthly salary, pay them what exactly?


97% of Nigerian ladies would therefore prefer to maintain the status quo than to embrace feminism.)[b]





I've noticed that when you create threads like this some ladies on Nl usually think you're broke.

some will go as far as insulting men, calling them useless but I'm 100 I am sure that 100% of them in their homes, men are the bread winners, they sent them to school and other stuffs yet they come online to rant when their moms don't do anything, even the ones that don't have up to 100k funds in their accounts will start ranting and broke shaming people.


thanks

highqueen:
they have started again,you can imagine o.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Rubbish.

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:


Clap for yourself. I will leave my bosom friend marvin906 to deal with you like he always does

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:


Clap for yourself. I will leave my bosom friend marvin906 to deal with you like he always does

Ladyhippolyta88:
Kpa,kpa,kpa myself,The next time that idiot quotes me I will just waka pass and give him the silent treatment I don't deal with children who have refused to have sense.Well I dealt with him yesterday and you know it.

Kinggnicole:
Feminism is gender equality.
Anything or anyone who suggests otherwise is not a feminist.

planetx13:
Most Naija ladies dont even know the meaning of feminism. They look up to their foreign counterparts and shout feminism at the slightest opportunity. What they don't know is that it is very common to see a white lady btw the age of 18 - 25 doing more than 2 or 3 jobs .These ladies have earned their respect. They won't insult you and expect you to keep quiet just because they are women ... you also see rich ladies having average boyfriends and they don't go about shouting broke boy this , broke boy that.... an average Nigerian feminist is just bloody hungry.

planetx13:
Most Naija ladies dont even know the meaning of feminism. They look up to their foreign counterparts and shout feminism at the slightest opportunity. What they don't know is that it is very common to see a white lady btw the age of 18 - 25 doing more than 2 or 3 jobs .These ladies have earned their respect. They won't insult you and expect you to keep quiet just because they are women ... you also see rich ladies having average boyfriends and they don't go about shouting broke boy this , broke boy that.... an average Nigerian feminist is just bloody hungry and gets frustrated when they you refuse giving them money. My dear 'GO and WORK.... nobody was born into this world to come and carry your cross for you. All these so called Nigerian feminist are nothing but low life prostitutes and hungry dogs who only exist on social media. Trust me... they have nothing to offer. All they want is something they can use to cover their laziness,poor manners , insatiable sexual appetite and self inflicted frustration.
Let them go and make their own money and live whatever life the way they please.
Please guys be wise .....we owe these blood suckers NOTHING.. Anybody that wants money should go and work for it ....simple
.

UDUJ:


So on point.

The Romance section has turned into a gender wars coliseum

Lefulefu your boy is back

UDUJ:


So on point.

The Romance section has turned into a gender wars coliseum

Lefulefu your boy is back

UDUJ:


The Don himself I hail

No more fights for me from now on I am reformed

DonPiiko:
Lool I no dey take internet serious again o, how your weekend

UDUJ:


My weekend dey bro I just dey kitchen make I arrange small breakfast