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|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by mikolo80: 6:14pm On Apr 10|
Chaclaitmilk:is she planning to kill her husband
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by mikolo80: 6:16pm On Apr 10|
Chaclaitmilk:you and your sister think you can force a man to bend to your will abi
una go hia wen
everyone is telling you but no,you wan form shell pikin
e go shock una
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by majorbravo: 6:24pm On Apr 10|
I think we seem to approach this topic from different angles and we would both appear to be correct unless we had all the information from the OP. While I see this as a new marriage, probably a case where they just got married and she is wondering why they haven't completed the legal bit, you probably see it as a marriage that has been on for years even with grown kids and I can understand why her sudden demand for legalisation would raise a red flag about her commitment to the union, especially if it didnt bother her for years. The OP didnt say how long they were married and thats why we have conflicting opinions. I would also refer you to this post I made. I think the Op can find solutions from asking these questions as well.
Did she know he wasn't interested in the legals prior to the marriage and accepted to stay with him? The motive can only be discussed and analysed if this information were given.
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:34pm On Apr 10|
i see it as a new marriage, as only a newlywed can deman for such, i dont even believe they have kids yet.
sadly, in all your write up, you never for once mention divorce, making me believe that you think they should stay together even though they are incompatible on this very important marital issue. says a lot about your mindset.
as i said earlier... if push comes to shove, then let them part ways with no regrets, et voila!
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by majorbravo: 6:52pm On Apr 10|
I am of the opinion they are newly weds from a rushed marriage and that's why they don't seem to be in agreement about something as basic as legalizing the union. In most churches, you go through an intensive course for months before you are even allowed to marry and these issues would be raised during the course, you are even required to get the legals done before the church can wed you or alternatively have the legal registers signed during the event.
It makes absolutely no sense that this man newly got married and already is against getting it legalised. I can't see where she is wrong for demanding something that is standard practice for most newly weds.
However if she had accepted to boycott legals and now suddenly demands it, then i agree something is fishy. In the absence of that, the man should tell her why he doesn't want it and his reasons better be compelling.
The OP wouldn't come here seeking our opinion if he wanted them to part ways, suggesting they get divorced is not in any way useful to the topic at hand nor respectful to the OP.
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:15pm On Apr 10|
bro, just because you dont see their marriage as "legal" is for you to deal with...many people only do traditional and church wedding....and they go on to live wonderful lives together. furthermore, the fact that you think that this man is against "making their marriage legal" while they are already legally married, is why you will never see this issue from his point of view.
the op doesnt want them to divorce because he is seekeing for ways to have this man change his mind.... he is just as biased as you are. you guys should open your minds and accept that there is something seriously wrong here and these two should have NEVER gotten married. now, differencies arise and you want this man to lay down and open his nyansh so he can be royally sodomised in every ways this lady desires. haba! have some respect for this dude bro. the man said NO, why dont you guys accept that for a change!
what is standard practice will work for standard people,... today many dont even get married and have baby mamas instead, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. so stop trying to make this court marriage issue like a do or die mission, and instead try to UNDERSTAND this man
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by majorbravo: 7:45pm On Apr 10|
I didn't use the word 'legal' in the context of "legitimacy' I'm simply referring to the 'registry/state marriage' for lack of a better term due to its use of legal documentation. Just like someone who says he is in the legal profession doesnt mean everyother profession is illegal, I'm not suggesting any of the others is inferior. The man simply didn't give any real reasons for refusing it. And until we know what agreement they had prior to the wedding and what transpired like I pointed out before, we would all be making wrong assertions.
I do not want to turn this into an argument. I think I have covered enough ground for my opinion on this matter.
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by somehow: 8:45pm On Apr 10|
So after reading that post, this is what you can come up with? Hehehe
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by Tellemall: 1:07am On Apr 11|
majorbravo:Nobody wants to notice the words in bold.
The man isn't honest about something.
And it seems other men want it that way. They're rooting for the native wedding thing in order to protect him from any future responsibilities and a possible cover up of a previous marriage by avoiding the courts at all costs.
Since when did something as natural as legal documentation become a sign that the woman isn't serious about it and is bullying him?
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by tobianthony(m): 12:46pm On Apr 11|
152 likes ...152 people have been misled
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by tobianthony(m): 12:53pm On Apr 11|
Prenuptial agreements are not recognized by Nigerian laws ....don't be misled
|Re: My Sister Wants Court Marriage, Her Husband Doesn't. Advise Her Please by Doctorfitz(m): 1:24pm On Apr 11|
Get ur facts right ogbeni
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