True words.

Interesting points. Many women have lost value in themselves because they accepted someone else's best to be theirs.

Only the best for you will treat you like the best.

Good message but poor delivery, your emphasis on "cutting your coat according to your size" made it so - that's more like treating a wound on the surface. Economic standing doesn't define a person, therefore, there's no evil in the act of an economically poor but virtuous lady wishing to marry an upwardly mobile man of the aristocratic class vice versa.

Ethical leanings is what can make or mar any close relationship (marriage in this regard). Man know thyself! The importance of self-realization can never be overemphasized.

- Two people that shares the same ethical leanings - diplomatic ethical leanings - and physically fancies each other equates to "the right fit" (self-deceit and/or ignorance is the main reason one will choose the best fit instead of the right fit). Here the bond that'll hold them together isn't material based things/attitudes rather immaterial based things/attributes. Healthy, happy and peaceful union is guaranteed here. And only death can separate them apart.

- Two people of mismatched ethical leanings - a situation whereby one of the concerned parties is of the diplomatic (good) ethical leanings while the other is of the manipulative (bad) ethical leanings - do still have sustainable marriage, but unlike people in the above group, frequent bickering (or suffering and smiling by one of the parties) is guaranteed. Not even the pleasure of shared fancy can prevent the bickering.

- Then come the worst, two people of the same but of bad ethical leanings - manipulative ethical leanings - the small-minded people. People under this category during dating period can indulge and enjoy each other for more than a decade if not century yet, their divorcement/separation or death of one as a result of animosity do happen with a speed of light immediately after they marry each other.

In summary, know thyself and marry based on mutual good ethical leanings and fancy, but regardless of economic standing - of course, a responsible person (especially a man) wouldn't think of marriage while perpetually economic poor. For example if you have no moral vice (if you don't possess greed, selfish and self-centered attributes), then avoid someone that is hypocritically disingenuous, because failure to do so will have you experience harsh life people in the second group above experiences.