Lagos – Some Nigerians have expressed mixed reactions to the idea of men marrying women that were older than them.
Over the years in Africa, women were usually advised to marry men who were older, more educated, had better jobs and would have made enough money to cater for them.
Some respondents obliged to the norm and told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Lagos on Monday that
modernity and other factors had redefined their choices of suitable mates.
They also said that emotional maturity was a core virtue needed to sustain a relationship and older women possessed it.
A lawyer, Godfrey Chukukere, told NAN that men sustaining relationships with women younger than them tend to be more difficult since such women were fond of laying emphases on trivial issues.
He said that a man marrying an older woman, on the average, meant marrying an older and mature person.
“Having a relationship with an older woman is simply the best thing that a younger, vibrant and ambitious man should consider.
“An older women will give every support a young man needs in every regard, especially, emotional stability,” he said.
Also, Opeoluwa Shodupe, a guidance and counselling officer, said that sexual desires and compatibility were driving forces that would lure older women to younger men.
She said that women with strong sexual appetites preferred younger men because they had the stamina to satisfy their sexual desires.
“Every woman wants a man that is good in bed and they will do everything to have and keep such men.
“Why will a woman marry a man who is older and weak to satisfy her sexually, when a woman can go for a younger man whom she can pamper and he, in return, will meet her desires?’’
She added that younger men preferred to stick to older women who had enough resources to splash on them.
“In Nigerian parlance, cash-loaded women who are ready to spend their monies on young men are called `Sugar Mummies’.
“Such relationships are a give-and take-relationship with the women ready to spend lavishly on the men.
“The men while reciprocating will use their energies to satisfy such women sexually,” she said.
A banker, Onome Agbawe, said that with the life expectancy of women higher than those of men by some years, it was important for women to marry younger men that would possibly outlive them.
“Most women live way longer than their husbands and for me I will not want to live too long after my man is dead.
“So, it is ideal to marry someone you are older than by some years so that, all things being equal, and at old age, you will died between very short period after each other, if possible together, ” she said.
Other respondents told NAN that a woman marrying a man younger than her was an idea driven my modernity and not accepted to the African tradition.
Ibe Chukwudi said that a man marrying an older woman was a taboo since it was assumed that older women would use younger men for rejuvenation.
He said that women aged faster than men and would not mind marrying a younger man just for the benefit of sustaining their lives.
“There is no benefit that a younger man derives from marrying an older woman but the reverse is the case and this is a ritual and an abominable act.
“In perception, there is no difference between `blood money’ and the marriage of an older woman to a younger man,” he said.
Bunmi Adetoro, a model, said that it was disrespectful for a woman to marry somebody younger than her.
She said that dating a younger man would only last for a while since the man would be expecting too much respect from the woman.
“Can you imagine me getting married to someone I am older than by between two years and three years?
“In my candid opinion, the marriage between a younger man and an older woman can only be likened to that of lust and not one based on genuine love, “she said.
NAN reports that relationships where women are older than their male partners have always generated controversies.
President Emmanuel Macron of France is 24 years younger than his wife, Brigitte Macron.
Macron was quoted as saying that those who kept wondering at the age differences between him and his 64-year-old wife were misogynists and homophobes.
He noted that if his wife were younger than him, nobody would have questioned the validity of their relationship. (NAN)
.
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2018/05/mixed-reactions-trail-men-marrying-women-older/

As far as I'm concerned, the most important thing is for one who has achieved self-realization to marry another that has equally achieved self-realization, so long as they're ethically and physically compatible.

Some young women still de reina their Husbands even if he senior them with 10years. Who go stubborn go stubborn, no be by age matter.

LordKO:
As far as I'm concerned, the most important thing is for one who has achieved self-realization to marry another that has equally achieved self -realization, so long as they're ethically and fancifully compatible.

Yeah....But the fact remains that our mothers were taught to be decent and family values,, fastforward to this present generation,, everything including the decency morals is jumping out the window....My point is,, the girls of this day don't know the value of being "A WOMAN" until they clock 28 and above,, that is when they must have explored all their options as a girl and mature....Older ladies are the best to me in this generation of ours.

As for me and my Family, younger ni ooo

Older women are feminist, they feel too proud to be corrected and full of themselves. always possesive of their husbands, they may even take the position of being a breadwinner(husband) in their homes if opportunity is spared.

austyn0:
Yeah....But the fact remains that our mothers were taught to be decent and family values,, fastforward to this present generation,, everything including the decency morals is jumping out the window....My point is,, the girls of this day don't know the value of being "A WOMAN" until they clock 28 and above,, that is when they must have explored all their options as a girl and mature....Older ladies are the best to me in this generation of ours.

Generalization is an offense punishable by law somewhere, so desist from it. Lol.

older women are generally sweeter because they know sweet behaviour is the only sweetness they have left since that pvssy has long become a borehole.
better a difficult teenager with a delicious pvssy than a delicious-acting living fossil of 35 with a pvssy so open it shows her cervix if she opens her legs.

ubunja:
older women are generally sweeter because they know sweet behaviour is the only sweetness they have left since that pvssy has long become a borehole.
better a difficult teenager with a delicious pvssy than a delicious-acting living fossil of 35 with a pvssy so open it shows her cervix if she opens her legs.

Guy, this your fossil talk dey always make me laugh.

chaiii.

LordKO:


Generalization is an offense punishable by law somewhere, so desist from it. Lol.

Laughs.....Did I generalize??....Am so sorry I did,,I actually meant "most girls"

I won't mind marrying a lady older than me because Love and trust are the only things i need

I prefer older women even though I have never dated one,I reckon they will appreciate my kinda sex more,all this smallie acting like pornstars but when it comes to the smackdown they will be making excuses because they can't take the full length. Aside the sex sef older women just ooze sophistication

ubunja:
older women are generally sweeter because they know sweet behaviour is the only sweetness they have left since that pvssy has long become a borehole.
better a difficult teenager with a delicious pvssy than a delicious-acting living fossil of 35 with a pvssy so open it shows her cervix if she opens her legs.

Are you a zoologist or paleontologist??

This thing is about d personality n not abt age @ all.

iyke926:


Are you a zoologist or paleontologist??

did you just compare older women to animals in a zoo?

ubunja:
older women are generally sweeter because they know sweet behaviour is the only sweetness they have left since that pvssy has long become a borehole.
better a difficult teenager with a delicious pvssy than a delicious-acting living fossil of 35 with a pvssy so open it shows her cervix if she opens her legs.

ah!!ubuntu,do you think its everry 35 year old lady is spoilt like the ones around you?


nawa oo.

justscorchone:
I prefer older women even though I have never dated one,I reckon they will appreciate my kinda sex more,all this smallie acting like pornstars but when it comes to the smackdown they will be making excuses because they can't take the full length. Aside the sex sef older women just ooze sophistication

stop talking about dating bro,can you marry an older woman?

highqueen:

ah!!ubuntu,do you think its everry 35 year old lady is spoilt like the ones around you?


nawa oo.

most girls lose virginity at 18. you think at 38, thats 20 yrs of sex, that hole will still be tight? are you kidding me?
to me anything above 22 years of age is grandma. i like the pvssy oven fresh extra tight. not after 200 dicks and 4 abortions. no ways. what have you been doing between 18 and 38 that you still not married?

ubunja:
most girls lose virginity at 18. you think at 38, thats 20 yrs of sex, that hole will still be tight? are you kidding me?
to me anything above 22 years of age is grandma. i like the pvssy oven fresh extra tight. not after 200 dicks and 4 abortions. no ways. what have you been doing between 18 and 38 that you still not married?

did you even get my message.
stop generalizing,not every 35 year old lady is a prostitute.



to even think you have drilled morthan 200 holes,and still condem people keeps me wondering.

highqueen:

did you even get my message.
stop generalizing,not every 35 year old lady is a prostitute.



to even think you have drilled morthan 200 holes,and still condem people keeps me wondering.

does dick get stretched or lose size with use? men's bodies are not worn out by sex like women's bodies thats why numbers matter when it comes to pvssy but not dick. use your head.
who talked about prostitutes? you can sell pvssy to 2 men and still be prostitute.
you can fvck 200 men for free and not be a prostitute.
why are you talking about prostitutes? coz im talking numbers here.

ubunja:

does dick get stretched or lose size with use? men's bodies are not worn out by sex like women's bodies thats why numbers matter when it comes to pvssy but not dick. use your head.
who talked about prostitutes? you can sell pvssy to 2 men and still be prostitute.
you can fvck 200 men for free and not be a prostitute.
why are you talking about prostitutes? coz im talking numbers here.

oh,shut up.


so long you are not exempted,I see no need condeming people that does the same act as yours.

and whoever told you pussy isn't elastic?

highqueen:

oh,shut up.


so long you are not exempted,I see no need condeming people that does the same act as yours.

and whoever told you pussy isn't elastic?

if pussy was elastic you women wouldnt be hunting for huge dicks high and low.
im exempt and i condemn women who want to imagine pvssy and dick are affected the same way by sex. coz thats just like believing in fairytales and unicorns. go lie to losers. not people like me.

ubunja:
if pussy was elastic you women wouldnt be hunting for huge dicks high and low.
im exempt and i condemn women who want to imagine pvssy and dick are affected the same way by sex. coz thats just like believing in fairytales and unicorns. go lie to losers. not people like me.

people that love big dick do so because that's there choice, when a single finger can even make a lady squirt,why the need for big stuff?
not every lady has got eye for big dick.
and wanting of big dick is not about pussy mileage.

highqueen:

people that love big dick do so because that's there choice, when a single finger can even make a lady squirt,why the need for big stuff?
not every lady has got eye for big dick.
and wanting of big dick is not about pussy mileage.

you dont need to explain your lies to me.

ubunja:
you dont need to explain your lies to me.

counter it intelligently.

highqueen:

counter it intelligently.

since when has intelligence moved a woman? nerds die virgins. i wont waste my brain power as long as you're thinking with your emotions.

highqueen:

stop talking about dating bro,can you marry an older woman?

Affirmative

what is mixed reactions here.....it's normal and most married men are into it without even knowing. . .a lady hides her real age and after the wedding you discover her real age. .will you divorce her? even most of them saying it are younger than their wives. .
personally I see no reason wrong in it. .it's just depend on our individual difference and the love you have for the older woman you claim to love and want to marry. . .most after marriage do respect you n sees you as the head. .besides who comes out to tell the public my wife is older than me, i have not seen or heard. . so let's leave the matter.,.I know how its feels cos am already in that shoe...my fiancee is two years older than me but we are getting married soon. .it changes nothing and no one even knows she is older, even by appearance. .my dear, every man to his own problem. .my problems not marrying an older woman than me, my problem is how to be the best man for her!