i'm dating this guy but i don't know if i should end the relationship because we are always arguing, if i say ten words he'll get mad at five i still love him but i can't handle having to fight with him everytime, it's not easy to break up with him because he is in love and crazy about me even back in london, always buying me expensive gift worth of 5,000 naira like everyweek and he's even paying my school fees and planning to buy me a car but we are always fighting. please tell me how to improve this because i'm fed up of feeling guilty about his love, money and gifts i already spent. last week, i tried to talk to him about how we argued, and he said to me that he has problem with anger and that whenver he's angry at me and have a fight with me i should always know and remember that he loves me nomatter what. worstly today he gave me laptop and charm bracelet as i said thanks he said girl i love you and i'll spend my money on what i love so you you better not mess with my love so i'm a bit thretened that's why i came here please help me what kind of life am i living now, i love him too but we always argue that's the only problem i have should i break up with him or what can i do to stop the differences between us. my girls even told me it could be dangerous to break up with him. i told him i had a son as a teenager maybe he'll freak out

wassup with that long space. anyway when i told him about my son it didn't bother him.thanks

i'm dating this guy but i don't know if i should end the relationship because we are always arguing, if i say ten words he'll get mad at five i still love him but i can't handle having to fight with him everytime, it's not easy to break up with him because he is in love and crazy about me even back in london, always buying me expensive gift worth of 5,000 naira like everyweek and he's even paying my school fees and planning to buy me a car but we are always fighting. please tell me how to improve this because i'm fed up of feeling guilty about his love, money and gifts i already spent. last week, i tried to talk to him about how we argued, and he said to me that he has problem with anger and that whenver he's angry at me and have a fight with me i should always know and remember that he loves me nomatter what. worstly today he gave me laptop and charm bracelet as i said thanks he said girl i love you and i'll spend my money on what i love so you you better not mess with my love so i'm a bit thretened that's why i came here please help me what kind of life am i living now, i love him too but we always argue that's the only problem i have should i break up with him or what can i do to stop the differences between us. my girls even told me it could be dangerous to break up with him. i told him i had a son as a teenager maybe he'll go but he don't mind

teju-oso
dont let gifts blind you. he obviously has an anger problem. with guys that have explosive anger, its just a matter of time before they start hitting you. my dear escape with your life before they bury you with those expensive bracelets he's giving you. gifts have never equalled love. a word is enough for the wise!

You know i can only hiss.
Do you think they will bury you with all your gifts.
This man has[b] paid [/b] for you . he knows it and he will do with you what he likes.

you don't need to be with him if he's aggressive, of anything you should be the aggressive one

If it's ok for a lady to be aggressive, then it's ok for a man to be aggressive. Stop discriminating against men!

@topic: actually, one can be aggressive without being violent (trust me, I know) but if you think he's aggressive in dealing with others (not just you) then he might need some little white pills from a shrink. Trust me, I know.

Na wa ooooooo u better pick one
Your Life or The Material thing.

And also people with hot temper like that ended up beeen violence to their love ones and next thing u know his giving your a black eyes. Girl now is the time to get away from him has soon as possible and tell him he needs Angry Management Class before it get out of hands

personally, i think you should be more carefull about what you say to him,
if he's so crazy about you and possessive enough to tell you not to mess with his love?
then i think he really must love you but you still have to be carefull
cos he would keep hurting you and keep reminding you of his possessive love
thereby making you the saddest lady on earth cos you cant dare to say goodbye,
so i'll suggest the earlier you make him understand that you cant continue like this
the better for the both of you,
cos like you said "he's spending so much on you"
are you waiting till you know how much he can spend on you or get all you need
before breaking up?
if that's what your waiting for unknowingly,
then my dear you're in for the biggest challenge of your life cos he wont
let you go easily,
act fast n act now

Girlfriend, you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, and your boyfriend is only trying to quiet you, with his constant pampering of money and all other material stuff. My advice it to quickly cut him loose, before this toxic relationship descends into physical abuse. No amount of money would be able to erase the traumatic episode.

Read this Biblical verse: Wealth is worthless in the day of wrath, but righteousness delivers from death. Proverbs 11:4

Start returning all the stuff he has given you. Do it politely but resolutely. When that is complete, dump him.

The problem with some women, is that the lure of materialism has blinded them into relationships that are toxic. Scram, before it is too late.

how to cope? no other way my sister more than to LEAVE. someone will come that will be for you and treat you like a LADY that you are, not one that will be hitting your head on the wall and begging you later, only to do it again. Ndipe is right, it's toxic and not healthy for you dear.

They question for you is !!!! Why Are You Dating An Aggressive Boyfriend

@omo eko
was just about to ask the same question.

SMH:: [size=5pt]i seriously hope shes not indirectly talking 2 me[/size]

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SMH:: [size=5pt]i seriously hope shes not indirectly talking 2 me[/size]

[size=5pt] feeling guilty?[/size]

OP.
iT'S A NORMAL HABIT . . .Pls leave it that way.

Advocator:

Cope? You gotta be kidding OP. There’s no dealing with an aggressive gay, unless you are yearning to kick off a murder in nairaland. You had to give this s-t-u-p-i-d views don’t you? A violent relationship is like a broken vein, when ruptured it send the person to the graveyard.

Ladies, the moment you start observing the minor signs of violence in your boyfriend --- It is time to hit the road for your own safety.

Sir, isn't hitting the road a violent act? From violence to violence, hmmmm, lol
Watsup you?

@OP, Sort things out! Don't let things escalate to the violence point.
No violence! Abstain from violence! Hitting people is not ok, neither is getting hit! (Except for WWE and UFC)

MzDarkSkin:

[size=5pt] feeling guilty?[/size]

[size=4pt]as if you are not the person thats more violent [/size]

The poster should return all the gifts and tell him that she can't do this any longer. If he acts funny, remind him that laying a finger on you will land him in jail in the UK. . . . Then move on with your life.
Ps Don't keep any of his gifts because that would make him believe that he "deserves" you, since that were the payments for you.
Disappearing without saying anything is definitely NOT the way to go about it.

^^ showing him that you don't fear him is the first step to moving on. Tell him to his face and send him to jail if he dares touch one of your hair. Meet him in a VERY public place if its better for you.