Getting married is a beautiful thing and a happy moment for those who are ready for it. Its not something we rush into just to silent or neighbours or friends, its something that should be done when we are ready for it and want it with the person of our dreams and not a person by chance. The following are some of the likely reasons why people go into marriage and thereby becoming unhappy in the process:


ADVANCEMENT IN AGE

While some people may think that advancement in age is a good reason for getting married, I beg to differ. When a lady starts advancing in age, she become or gets desperate only because her time-window for marriage is gradually eluding her. And she's most likely to enter into marriage hurriedly just to escape the pressure that comes with it. People think that been old enough is already a good factor for marriage, but they forget that a man or woman might be old and still not be ready for it mentally. If such goes into marriage because of age, it doesn't really end well for them.



"THE ODD ONE OUT SYNDROME"

The odd one out syndrome simply talks about a situation were all your friends or peer mates, family members have all gotten married or about to get married and you found out that you're the only person left. When such feeling develops, it might push him or her to accept any proposal of marriage from any person or rush into it even without getting to know the person properly just to escape the tag of been the odd one out. This kind of mistake can be very deadly because in the long run,it might turn out not to be what you bargained for.


SOCIETAL PRESSURE

The society we live in have a way of putting pressure on us to get married, especially if you are a girl. Its always about marriage whenever we they come in contact with people, go for weddings, parties, and stuffs lime that. With that pressure and the fear that comes along with it, it might drive the person to go into something she isn't really prepared for or ready for, just to escape the fear and pressure that comes with been single. This kind of people are the ones that suffer in marriage because they never entered for the right reasons, they wanted to feel among and do what everyone is doing.


SELF IMPOSED DEADLINE

Self imposed deadline talks about the deadline we give to ourselves to get married, probably when we were little as a target. For some people, when this deadline is not met or approaches, they panick and get scared, making them to make some wrong decisions into marriage. Setting deadline for oneself is never ideal when it comes to marriage because you never can tell what plans God have for you. Marriage is for life and it requires all the patience you need before going into it and not because there is a deadline upon your self.


PREGNANCY

This is another major reason why people rush into marriage. They feel that its necessary to get married to whomever is responsible for the pregnancy as the next course of action. While this plan might be feasible, then again its not advisable due to the fact that its not a good assurance that the marriage will be a successful one. Such plans always have a way of failing due to the fact that both spouses may not be compatible for each other but because pregnancy is now involved, it changes the whole plan of not ready for marriage or prepared for it, to getting married proper. And ladies should also know this that having a baby for him is not a guarantee of keeping him or having a good marriage. Even though you get pregnant for him along the line, I think that you shouldn't rush into accepting marriage from him when you don't really know him well enough.


PERSONAL DREAM

Personal dream, personal vision isn't totally a wrong reason for marriage, but the fact that its personal it now makes you to go all out to achieve this dream no matter the case,just like the self imposed deadline. It sometimes stirs you away from the wrong path and maybe while chasing your dream of having a fancy wedding or a fancy man or woman, you miss the real thing along the way. Even though getting married is part of the plan, we should also be able to know when that dream is real or fake.



PROPHECY AND REVELATION

It is a true fact that Prophecy and revelation has gotten so many people married, but its not always the same in every case. All Prophecies and revelations always have a confirmation attached to them to show there authenticity. The confirmation depends on whether the person whom you have chosen to get married to accepts your proposal, he or she must have the same vision with you on this matter. But for some people, just because a brother tells them that she is to be his wife by revelation, she just  accepts without finding out for herself is that's what God wants for her. God who has created us knows the kind of person that is best fit for us.


INDEBTEDNESS

This reason was practiced back in the days, its a situation were one family choose to marry out there daughter or make there son to marry the daughter of another family against there will, so as to seal or promote family ties and sometimes to cancel any form of debt which has accrued in the past. Another reason for indebtedness is when a woman decides to get married to the person that maybe supported her in difficult times like during her education or helped her settle a huge debt. Marriage into marriage in this kind of situation is very bad for both parties because neither of them is doing it for the good reason, the girl might decide to accept marriage from the man as a way of paying him back for what he did for her, even though she doesn't love him.


PITY

This is never a good reason to accept marriage from aanyone or propose marriage to them. Just because they might have suffered in the past or you might have received help from them, is not a valid reason to get married to them. Marriage is built on love and respect, and if these are lacking, that marriage is bound to fail. Never get married out of pity if not you will have an unhappy home out of pity.



MATCHMAKING COMMENTS

Matchmaking comments like "you look good together", " you'll make a great couple ", " you're fit for each other", etc can sometimes get into the heads of whomever ever is been referred to. This alone can make them to start considering it and maybe give it a shot. Even though it may look good on the eyes on outside, it might not be good on the inside. They might not be compatible for each other but because people around have been clamouring for it, they might decide to give it a try.


A MEANS OF ESCAPE FROM PARENTS

Some people who aren't ready for marriage get into marriage because of the pressure coming from there parents to do so. They get married just to make there parents happy and get them off there back, putting themselves in unhappiness as well because it wasn't there plan. Whoever is not ready for marriage should do well to stay away from it because when you get into it for the wrong reasons, you must definitely suffer the consequence.


Yes sometimes parents can be very demanding from there children to get married when they know that they are old enough for it and sometimes you see them select or pick and impose someone for there daughter or son to marry and you see them succumbing to that pressure just to get there parents off there backs or escape from the pressure. That's not a good ground for marriage because you won't marry for yourself but for your parents, thereby denying yourself true happiness with someone who you don't really want.


TO HAVE CHILDREN

In as much as having children is a good thing and a blessing in marriage, it shouldn't be the driving force of anyone getting into marriage. Having children is one of the blessings that comes with been married and if someone decides to go into it without proper consultation, might fall into the wrong hands. What if the person goes into the marriage after all and then the children comes, what next for him or her since the children has arrived, are they going to still be committed to there partner or focus on there primary reason for the marriage.


source: https://dominioninsight..com/2018/06/wrong-reasons-for-marriage.html?m=1

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