eldee:

Freaking arrogant plonkers . . . would it have been better if he were sleeping with a banker??
What's with the silly emphasis on the housemaid part.

I still don't get why it should be the job of the law to punish a man for preferring his housemaid to his wife.

eldee:

You know what I think is not fair?? Staying in a marriage when all you want to do is sleep with someone else.

Aloy+Emeka:

The man may have made the money but he wouldn't achieve his full potential if the woman was not doing her job at home.

spikedcylinder:

Then why did he get married in the first place? To find someone to boss around? To be at his beck and call? Many men sleep around regardless, it doesn't mean they don't love their wives or that they want a divorce.

eldee:

Under the law, a marriage is a contract.
When contracts are severed, compensation is based on what you brought to the contract and not halving the defecting party's property.
The law is not there to halve people's property because they made a simple mistake and arguably victimless, it makes a mess of the legal system.

In your own logic, when I sign a contract to work for a company for a period of time and I quit without a reason, they should come and take half of my investments.
Or isn't the workplace contract an institution ordained by the law too??

It is totally unreasonable and out-of-place for the law to be used as a tool for revenge when love goes sour.
The law is wrong . . . and it needs to be fixed, it's already getting enough criticism in the UK, I'm sure Nigeria is waiting there like the obedient dog waiting for them to correct theirs first.

tayo4me:

With the way women are being treated, I dont think I will get married o, because I cant tolerate all the rubbish men dish out to women. After suffering with a man when he was a nobody, he suddenly wakes up one day after becuming somebody and decides to get married to sum1 else, and tell u to your face u didnt contribute anytin to his life.

I tell people that care to listen that if I eventually get married and then smell a rat, I wont hesitate to leave the marriage. Many women suffer in marriages especially in Africa but refuse to leave because of their children. Honestly the best is to leave, because the children you claim to be protecting will not forgive you later if the situation gets worse. After leaving, I will make life difficult for the man and the so-called new woman.

Some men are just really ungrateful

tayo4me:

I am not surprised there are still many men with archaic beliefs out there. I dont know why some practice double standards. Telling me a man has the right not to be with me anymore- but why is the case different when the table turns, and the woman also decides to exercise her own right not to be with the man any more? That is when we hear things like- ha she is w h o r e, after bringing her out from her village blah blah blah.

tayo4me:

Some men refuse to allow their wives to work or make sure they (women) are in an employment that pays less than theirs (men). At this point the men promise heaven on earth that they will take care of all their needs, make sure they will not suffer and other stories that make you wanna throw up in the mans face.

tayo4me:

The women are naturally more involved emotionally in the marriage and spend countless hours taking care of the home-front (which is their duty anyway), and also put up with all the insults of their husbands. Now when it's time for divorce, and the woman demands something off you, you all start ranting. That is when you remember she did not contribute anything to your wealth. What happened to all the promises made some previous years Definitely the man is to blame in such situation cuz he refused her to be employed. So you expect her to go out in the cold with nothing to hold on to, probably worse off than she was before marriage, all in the name of not contributing anything

I will continue to say it- some men are just ungrateful!!!

Sagamite:


Allow her to work? So he did not force her? He promised her and BY HER CHOICE, she chose to agree?

tayo4me:

There are so many marriages where women are treated less than human beings, that should have no say in what happens to their lives. It is just rather unfortunate.

tayo4me:

Even if she does not agree, the man will still blame her. I know of a woman who insisted on working despite her husband's warnings. She did this in order to prevent a situation where she has to beg her husband for everything or have nothing in case of a separation. The husband called her all soughts of names and said the wife was just making an excuse to cheat on him. He eventually sent her packing despite the pleas of people around him. Now what do you make of that?

There are so many marriages where women are treated less than human beings, that should have no say in what happens to their lives. It is just rather unfortunate.

Aloy+Emeka:

I wonder why you did not complain or demand for a change in the typical Nigerian  culture that relegates women to the back seat. A culture where the man can wake up any day and send the woman packing to her fathers house with or without her children, replace her with another woman and still threaten to make life miserable for her?. How come you started complaining because your ego is threatened by the fact that women are over running the Nigerian judiciary and the law is slowly working towards their favor?. Just respect yourself and your wife otherwise your azz will be on the street. It is the new Nigerian order, get with the program as soon as possible if you know what is good for you. Bella-Power ebeano!

Sagamite:

Is this science?

So how did Simon Cowell achieve his wealth without marriage?

How do alot of footballers and Tiger woods etc achieve their wealth before or without marriage?

tayo4me:

Even if she does not agree, the man will still blame her. I know of a woman who insisted on working despite her husband's warnings. She did this in order to prevent a situation where she has to beg her husband for everything or have nothing in case of a separation. The husband called her all soughts of names and said the wife was just making an excuse to cheat on him. He eventually sent her packing despite the pleas of people around him. Now what do you make of that?

There are so many marriages where women are treated less than human beings, that should have no say in what happens to their lives. It is just rather unfortunate.

eldee:

That part of the whole thing is what makes me laugh the most . . .
What exactly was the woman doing that the housemaid wasn't??

In their logic, going to parties and closing down textile stores in Italy is a difficult job.
Sometimes we need to examine these western maxims . . . because I don't see how Coleen has contributed to Wayne Rooney's 32 goals this season.
Apart from the fact that she's always on shopping sprees on OK magazine.

Sagamite:

The reality is that the Naija judicial system is very unfair on women.

eldee:

I think society (women included) is unfair on women. . . it starts from basic ideologies like 'a woman is only complete when she gets married'.
Traditions like . . . 'don't marry a woman that will earn higher than you', 'a woman's job is to satisfy a man' . . . they are taken out of context and twisted till they degrade women.

Girls grow up learning it and think that their lives are tied to the men they marry.
All these things go into our institutions and end up influencing the judicial system.

eldee:

I think society (women included) is unfair on women. . . it starts from basic ideologies like 'a woman is only complete when she gets married'.
Traditions like . . . 'don't marry a woman that will earn higher than you', 'a woman's job is to satisfy a man' . . . they are taken out of context and twisted till they degrade women.

Girls grow up learning it and think that their lives are tied to the men they marry.
All these things go into our institutions and end up influencing the judicial system.

eldee:

I think society (women included) is unfair on women. . . it starts from basic ideologies like 'a woman is only complete when she gets married'.
Traditions like . . . 'don't marry a woman that will earn higher than you', 'a woman's job is to satisfy a man' . . . they are taken out of context and twisted till they degrade women.

Girls grow up learning it and think that their lives are tied to the men they marry.
All these things go into our institutions and end up influencing the judicial system.

Sagamite:

We need to change this but DEFINITELY not to the stewpid model of the West.

rhymz:

. . .hmmm. . Lemme guess, you don't have a problem with your wife earning more than you, ok that is understandable. How about she being the bread winner of the family, being more educated than you? Ever talk to a woman before and you feel you are talking to an encyclopaedia??. . .hahahaha. . Sometimes, it is better to keep em tame than let em run their independent, feministic- I don't need no man circles on you! Call me weird!

texazzpete:

And there are so many marriages where men are nagged to death. What do you make of that? Isn't that unfortunate, too?

Eldee's point is very simple. In marriages, men and women have been known to cheat. Why then is it not acceptable for men to demand hefty compensation from their wives when they separate over infidelity?
Gbenga Obasanjo filed for a divorce from his wife over allegations of her rampant infidelity. Why did we not hear the likes of you and Aloy+Emeka demanding that Moji Obasanjo pay out compensation to the man?

Sagamite:


Ehn! I know.

Na Nigeria's annual budget make she ask for.

Aloy+Emeka:

Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite,Sagamite.

How many times did I call your name?. Don't let women mug you and Eldee one day on the streets of Lagos.

spikedcylinder:

I can't be bothered to read all the arguments here but it seems we'll never agree to disagree.
Sagamite, I know is a lost cause. Him and satan are very good friends. Eldee, how do you plead?

stillwater:

Which would you prefer, castrating you or taking your money? Choose wisely.

rhymz:

Eldee
You know there is a big difference between what you ve in the west and what is obtainable here. I agree our culture is a bit too chauvinistic and our law tends to support that but look at the effect, stronger families with properly raised kids. Unlike the very feministic western culture and legal system that allows bimbos scoop up a man's entire savings in the event of divorce or the high rate of single parent upbringing with kids who are so morally bankrupt and weird. . . Seriously if any of us needs to copy, I think the West needs more of our virtues in this regard than we do them

Sagamite:

Women mugging me is norm!

Leave my best friend alone jor.

I need him when I want to do evil! 

Castrate me!

I don't use the thing that much. It has been redundant and decrepit for over 30 years now anyway.

rhymz:

Why do women attach emotions when they make decisions. Imagine all the female commentators jumping to conclusions and writing long epistles of what the woman did which in fact does not have any direct bearing on the man's business, chances are that she married him because of his wealth.

rhymz:

Besides, the woman's demands are obscene, 10billion Naira and 300k child support. Looks more like an angry woman  that is out to destroy her husband for dumping her. She can be sure she is not going to get that kinda money, if I were the man myself, I will play dirty since obviously that is all she is about. I mean if she wants compensation that is alright but to go that mile, geeeze, she did not contribute in anyway to the business and she is making dat kinda demand. . . Ukwu biwa kawa ya there. . Na so dem dey take become billionaire?? . . .she should be ready to go without a dime! Damn Gold digger that sees her husband as a meal thicket to eldorado. . Scheeew

Sagamite:

Stronger family but unhappy and frustrated women.

That somehow does not sit right with me. Justice FOR ALL!

allycat:

I have an aunt whose husband tried something similar years back.  Asked her not to work cos he didnt want his kids raised by househelps. Years later  he now decided she was a liability and kicked her out with 2 kids, forgetting that it was her salary that put him through school in the early days. Fortunately her family had some money and she was youg enough to start afresh and went into bizness. Can u imagine that the bagger showed up almost 20 years later, begging for forgiveness: when his bizness had taken a turn for the worse and the 2nd wife bailed. I wish I could say my aunt told him to take a hike, instead she was the one by his side when he died of Ca prostrate ,cleaning his backside and his spittle. All his other women only showed up at the funeral with their kids to check for their own share of what was left.
Fortunately for my cousins, my mums family made sure they got a great education, they are both doing well and so didnt need to struggle for property. The only problem they have now are their half brothers and sisters who keep coming around, with one problem or the other. They are still in school and their mum chooses to forget that my aunt trained her kids herself while she was the iyawo. Meanwhile the silly man is dead and cant see the mess he left behind.

rhymz:

. . . Sorry bro, can't have your bread buttered on both sides. Besides, aint no such thing as justice for all, just a placebo to make one feel not cheated. BTW, are you sayin for better for worse = unhappy and frustrated Well that is debatable though!