For a few years now, I have been researching and writing on sex, relationships, love, human psychology, and lifestyle. From my many years of experience in relationships, I have never seen a relationship that survived two straight years if one of the partners denies the other (or himself/herself) the happiness and intimacy that comes from sexual satisfaction.

It is true that love is not sex, and when we truly love someone, we are usually blind to some things about them. We will be willing to sacrifice, overlook or live with some of their shortcomings. But forget what your pastor or imams tell you. Every relationship between a man and a woman is rooted in sexual chemistry. If it wasn't, why aren't you ok being gay and dating your good same-sex friend? You love them too, right? So why ain't you cool with it?

There is no point trying to fight it, men are programmed to love a woman, and to feel that sexual chemistry towards anything female. We love everything about the other gender that is different from ours. While men fancy the big and curveceous glutes of women, women are attracted to a good looking masciline torso. It's natures design that we appear sexy and drawn intimately to the opposite gender.

Of course religious leaders would preach that premarital sex is sinful. But judging by our present economic realities, it is very difficult for a male with testosterone flowing in his veins to endure the wait for 35 years as a virgin. This to me is the primary reason why rape, child molestation and other deviant sexual behaviours are on the rise in our society lately.

People go into relationships for different reasons, and fun or sex is sometimes a reason too. But, If you both feel so genuinely in love with each other, and can deal with any consequences that may arise out of a good lovemaking with your partner, then why not?

I'm not saying that it's wrong if you decide to abstain from sex until marriage. However, if you have made a decision to endure the wait until you get married, try as much as possible to not sacrifice a good relationship on the alter of abstinence.

All my opinion though, what do you think?

I don't quite think there's anything like no sex before marriage. That's just terms ladies use to deceive themselves.just because he's not doing it with u doesn't mean he isn't doing it at all.
You will find a 100 virgins in d world for every one sexually active man who has had sex with only one woman.

when the devil wants people to fornicate and eventually later spend eternity in hell with him, he would push someone to create a post like this
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fykes:
I don't quite think there's anything like no sex before marriage. That's just terms ladies use to deceive themselves.just because he's not doing it with u doesn't mean he isn't doing it at all.
You will find a 100 virgins in d world for every one sexually active man who has had sex with only one woman.

Thank you. You got my point exactly.

izzou:
As a Christian(I just have to bring this up ), it is wrong to have sex outside marriage

No matter how we try to paint it, or describe the need in this present world, it is wrong

So if you're wrote this as a Christian, this thread is wrong. I'm not saying I'm holy oh but what is wrong is wrong.

Bros, Sex before marriage is wrong

I'm a christian and I don't quite believe that sex before marriage is wrong. I believe that when sex becomes an obsession or an addiction like every other thing its wrong, but when two adults who are talking marriage or preparing to build their lives around each other gives in to the temptation of their canality I see nothing wrong if their consciences don't say so.
The things we r mostly told not to do or talk abt in church , as we grow up, becomes the major battles we face. Check with ur lawyer friends, divorces are always virtually related to a sex malady or another.

MAKE UP YOUR DAMN MIND. SHOULD I ABSTAIN FROM SEX OR SHOULD I HAVE SEX