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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by queenbetsy(f): 10:24pm On Aug 11, 2018
This is serious... undecided



Just cut ties with him.



See your mentor if you have one.


Note: Don't talk to just anybody about it, they can hurt you even more. But, be secretive to an extent. Please, to an extent...

Shalom.

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by obi4eze(m): 10:24pm On Aug 11, 2018
Hmm
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by AkpatiOzu1: 10:25pm On Aug 11, 2018
MartinCorridon:
I'm a cursed dog
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Orchid45: 10:26pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:



alright
thanks
You are welcome.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Kellyrichp: 10:26pm On Aug 11, 2018
Just agree

Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by sapeleboi(m): 10:27pm On Aug 11, 2018
long story ,pls cut it short angry
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 10:27pm On Aug 11, 2018
How old are you?.. If I tell you what's on my mind eh..
I dislike slow ladies.


kiss the truth!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Abfinest007(m): 10:27pm On Aug 11, 2018
is it not human that get married to those prostitutes .just forget d did has already been done encourage urself n move .a husband that will respect u will respect u weather virgin or not.my sincere advice is for u to pray for ur future husband since u said it has been revealed he is not ur husband

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by AkpatiOzu1: 10:27pm On Aug 11, 2018
onye alalala alago ya cheesy

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by StillX10(m): 10:28pm On Aug 11, 2018
Why would people just sit down and start posting anything

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by AkpatiOzu1: 10:29pm On Aug 11, 2018
MartinCorridon:
NEVER tolerate rape. Report him to the police.

It is so rampant in our society. People even boast in public of rape.

IsaAbubakar/ bloodykiller /akpatiozu1/ 50 other monikers is one i have reported to MODs of boasting that Muhammed and Allah plus my father are pedophilia


SAY NO TO RAPE. Let us unite in protecting children
you mean Muhammed as in saw cheesy
read again

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by otherway: 10:29pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

You must be one of those who live their lives by "the prophet said"

Please ask those who say he is not your husband to tell you who your husband is,his name,tribe,house address,skin colour etc.

This is how women destroy their marital lives with my pastor said.Mumu

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by joceey(m): 10:30pm On Aug 11, 2018
You seem confused the only reason you re trying to let go of him its because 5 different pastor, prophet or what soever told you he is not your husband.
Assuming it was the opposite what could you have done sad think deeply

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Sterope(f): 10:30pm On Aug 11, 2018
You need some counselling. He should be the last person in this world you should be speaking to. He is a bigger idiot to be talking to you about marriage.
smileing:
@vululadilolo

thank you so much. I have not reported to anyone yet
hurt, pains and disdain on myself have left me discouraged.

all these while, I have been offering him all I could (companionship, encouragement, emotional support, friendship, spiritual assistance ,inspiration ) except for my body. and he made me love him so much little did I know he would come for my body .

my worth is not based on the hymen but yet I value my chasity.
I'm broken cos I encouraged people to be chaste. who do I talk to. the therapist I tried talking to tried molesting me too

I'm deformed now as I am feeling suicidal
what I built in years just crashed within a twinkling of an eye

Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by HajimeSaito(m): 10:31pm On Aug 11, 2018
thorpido:
Do you consider reporting him to the authorities? What he did is rape and he has no excuses for doing that.

You don't think your people will like him,in your heart of hearts,you don't really think he is the one.
You should wear your shoes to walk,innit?

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:32pm On Aug 11, 2018
Sometimes people in love do crazy things. Rape isn't a small crime, if u want to report him, do so.

Don't be so hard on yourself.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by blackaxe78: 10:32pm On Aug 11, 2018
Use him for money rituals
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by indodon(m): 10:32pm On Aug 11, 2018
;Ddid you enjoy it?

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:32pm On Aug 11, 2018
Sometimes people in love do crazy things. Rape isn't a small crime, if u want to report him, do so.

Don't be so hard on yourself.

I don't understand why most men feel entitled to a lady's body. So annoying.

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by honeyjoyce(f): 10:33pm On Aug 11, 2018
I perfectly understand how you feel dear, pls follow your heart, if u can't forgive him for violating u, just let go, but search your heart well before making your decision

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by hollyray2016: 10:35pm On Aug 11, 2018
Baby just call my number 08163708005, My d*ick is not too big.

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by foreshore(m): 10:35pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

Being a virgin is not an indexes to success in life.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by IME1: 10:36pm On Aug 11, 2018
angry sad
This is truly sad
But let the Spirit of God heal you and lead you
Stay strong and positive
The guy no try sam sam, kai

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by igala1(m): 10:36pm On Aug 11, 2018
Truth is that the sin is upon him. Bit may I ask some partinent questions. Do you often ask him for money or material gifts I.e recharge card, transport, money 4 hair etc? I'm not condemning it 100% but men often give & want something in return. On the part of up to 5 persons determining your relationship, I say a no no. You should make your mistakes & learn from them. People shouldn't determine your affairs.
Lastly,pick up yourself. Don't self condemn. Return to God in prayers 4 mercy. 4give the man& move on with your life. If you don't want him, it shouldn't be because of some misguided false prophets. Consult God.

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by redangel2017: 10:38pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
@vululadilolo

thank you so much. I have not reported to anyone yet
hurt, pains and disdain on myself have left me discouraged.

all these while, I have been offering him all I could (companionship, encouragement, emotional support, friendship, spiritual assistance ,inspiration ) except for my body. and he made me love him so much little did I know he would come for my body .

my worth is not based on the hymen but yet I value my chasity.
I'm broken cos I encouraged people to be chaste. who do I talk to. the therapist I tried talking to tried molesting me too

I'm deformed now as I am feeling suicidal
what I built in years just crashed within a twinkling of an eye

the man is so stupid.. I hate him already.. A man who doest respect his companion.. His third leg is very active.. Its simple

If u want to clear ur concience.. Nd tell the world.. The raper is ur husband.. Ur choise... If u wanna hold on to the right man who will respect you.. Peace nd loving marriage.. Still ur choise.. But if u take choice two.. Make sure u report that dog to the police.. undecided

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Aug 11, 2018
He isn't your man. His actions proves that(not to talk about 'prophecies') Let it go.

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Humility017(m): 10:39pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:


please sir throw more light to your statement


Dear...Every one has a past.your husband to be will love and appreciate you not because you're a virgin but because he loves you.
religion makes some men selfish...always wanting to marry a virgin.
it down on me long time ago...the reason why I am abstaining from sex till marriage is not to marry a woman who has done same... a virgin per se but because I love God....I don't mind if mywife be a virgin or not...I will love her still... just like Christ Loved the church.

I have a virgin friend who will be getting married these month end but his bride to be...is not a virgin...and he never minds. likewise me I don't mind won't even ask..... all that matters is her faithfulness and commitments when we starts dating.

so relax your mind and leave that relationship...
it is not God's desire we keep living in sexual sin.

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by farem: 10:39pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

Daughter, arise from y your bed of self guilt and move on.

Why should you feel less when you were not partof the rape (unless you are thinking of your naivety that have you away as prey. Even at that, you are still intact in the eyes of. God)

Do not allow emotion. to force you into a violent soul tie. Different men of God said NO. You too are not feeling peace with it.
How and why are you considering someone who is not godly?

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by farem: 10:40pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

Daughter, arise from y your bed of self guilt and move on.

Why should you feel less when you were not partof the rape (unless you are thinking of your naivety that have you away as prey. Even at that, you are still intact in the eyes of. God)

Do not allow emotion. to force you into a violent soul tie. Different men of God said NO. You too are not feeling peace with it.
How and why are you considering someone who is not godly? hh
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by moneychannel: 10:42pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

From my understanding, most people here didn't understand you. What he did from the way you presented the issue wasn't rape, reason why you didn't report him to officials or your parents. Even though you weren't ready for the act, he led you into it.
One question you asked no one has answered, "those that married non virgin how their spouse took it"? To be honest with you dear, no one cares about virginity in marriage to the best of my knowledge. What men need is a woman that can respect them, love them, understand them, don't nag. No one has ever mentioned virginity as one of the qualities in a woman he wants to marry in my over 30 years in Nigeria.
So live your life and go ahead and marry that guy if you love him. Forget God fearing, God will use because of you and have mercy on him if you're God fearing. (It's biblical).
Finally, in as much as I hate to say this but I have to, virginity is over rated.
Committing suicide cuz you got disvirgined is worst than prostitution.

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