I totally agree with doubletree here.  Whoever calls my phone expects to hear my voice and speak to me, and vice versa.  Personally, I hate it when people pick my calls.  I do not pick other people's calls, even when specifically asked to do so by the person that the call is meant for, and as such, I do not expect others to pick my calls; be it my brother, sister, father, friend, girlfriend or wife.

Not that I have anything to hide - far from it.  I just find it annoying. .  that's all.

However, as regards the topic at hand, if my girlfriend/wife begins to hide in the bathroom or elsewhere to answer her calls, then THAT is another mater entirely.

I would advise that people indicate their marital status before posting their views. This will definitely go a long way in helping others understand where they are coming from. As for me, I do not allow my wife to answer my calls! I also do not answer hers either. We don't need to display hypocrisy in marriage. How long is it going to last? If my phone rings while I am not there, she brings it to me and I do the same sometimes.

Well am not married so i guess i'm not qualified to answer. I do know that married or not it does cause issues and it helps to have at least 2 of them, one for family and friends - the other for business and cousins   mostly on silent with a security code on it.

But personally my conscience and intentions are clean, most of the time she just works herself up for nothing. If there is trust you should be able to leave my phone and emails alone and i the same and not concern yoslf with the number of calls i recieve!

No right @ all either way! on d other hand except i asked him 2 pick up d call or calls 4 me or he does ask me 2 do d same. But in general even if one is married doesnt give one d right to invade each other's privacy. If there is trust then u should know that whoever was on d phone might b made known 2 u @ my convenient time or should i say when it calls 4 .

if my man touches my phone i'll throw a bitch fit! i dont mess with his phone so i dont want his paws on mine!

@spoilt; abeg talk am again! Am with u jare! Y would someone dat i didnt send no message want 2 pick up my phone? C me wahala oooo. . . wetin concern u concern my phone ( abi d person have left d position of being my husband to become my security man?)

Can he answer my phone calls? YES, but there is a difference between answering my calls out of a clean conscience, especially when i might not be present, and also a difference between answering my calls with something in mind or snooping through my phone. there are clear differences between them.

to have peace in a relationship/marriage i tink its better to stay out of eachother's phone, not b/cos the person has got somethn to hide but just for the sake of peace and to let sleeping dogs lie.

i sincerely believe the issue is for the couple involved.if they see themselves as one and there is no secret, then there is no big deal in it.but if there is skeletons in the cupboard and there are secrets each doesnt want the other to know, then the best thing is keep off each other`s phone so that you wont hear what you didnt bargain for.

For me personally. i hardly answer people's call cos i believe the caller wants to speak to the owner and not me. but as for text i love that reading that just for the fun of it plsssssssssssss before u guys will crucify me.

checked my babe text messages,i saw over 15 love texts sent by a particular guy.i vexed wit her.but on the other hand there was this lady that sends me text almost everyday lovely texts of course,she vexed too after a while we keep to our separate phones.let there be phone privacy

whatever is mine is mine, whatever is yours is mine. it's that simple.

now seriously, aint any problem in that provided he's pickin my call to help out and not with the malicious intention of diggin up a ghost! cos he will find one 4sure.

I dont see any problem with your wife picking ur calls or vice versa if that love exist unless u guys are playing OFF SIDE

I am married and we do not answer each others phone, unless requested to by the other.

I have no inclination to answer hers anyway but I had to curb her natural instinct to pry into my phone and stuff.

I am sure she still checks behind my back.

Funny incident:

I was asleep and she was testing her new phone, she decided to send a text as a test to my phone.

In my sleep I heard a text arrive on my phone with a beeping noise, as I woke up and reached for the phone I saw her also reaching for the phone. I got to it first and gave her a funny look as why she was trying to answer my phone.

Then I realise it's a text from her but now she starts ranting that I "rushed" to pick the phone and what am I hiding, blah, blah blah,

It became a whole scene.

It was almost as if I was being blamed for answering my own bloody phone!!

I had to put her straight.

Picking your spouse's call when he/she is around is not reasonable for the following reason:

1.What if some one with some little credit on his/her phone just wants to confirm something from ur spouse?

2. Can that prevent infidelity?

3. What will u tell the caller?

Always introduce urself first if answering your spouse call.

If you want to have peace in your marriage, PLEASE STOP BEING UNNECESSARILY INQUISITIVE! Despite the fact that husbands and wives are supposed to be one body, a bit of basic privacy should be acknowledged. If you don't agree, keep on prying into his/her email box/phone/letters and you would get what you are looking for. Then what?

all dog like shit, all pig like mud, all pastor like bible, all mallam like qurian, all men i mean real men are poligamus in mind. take it or leave it.

Well said rotweiller, it is not about secrecy, it is about privacy. .

Its better if you keep to your phones. Being nosey only brings heartache.

Answering my phone is a bit out of line. You're wifey not a personal secretary. What next? Give you my password to check me emails and account balance?

different theories work for different ppl. for me, keep ur phone and i will keep mine. i will only act when u don't answer well in my presence or when their is change(s) in your manner because of my presence.
i see couples fighting to answer each other's phone but it is not surposed to be so.
i can keep a business friend who is not a family friend or not worthy to be close to my friend.
if am a trader, does it mean my wife will know all my costumers or if my wife uses an official telephone line, i must know who calls, for what purpose and all the rest.
for christians, the bible says women shld be under their husbands and not fight to know who is calling their husband's phone.
if you have any reason to distrust your husband, it is advisable u quite in peace than in pieces.
for me, an ordinary hello delievers the right massage and i can tell how good is the calling friend.

arianne:

whatever is mine is mine, whatever is yours is mine. it's that simple.

Did marry under contract? just ask ur partner if u can read their texts & or answer their calls, and vice versa. but any 1 can delete their texts If ur answer is no don't make it look suspicious even if u had sumtin, no 1 is perfect,

Gift4all:

Picking your spouse's call when he/she is around is not reasonable for the following reason:
1.What if some one with some little credit on his/her phone just wants to confirm something from your spouse?
2. Can that prevent infidelity?
3. What will u tell the caller?
Always introduce yourself first if answering your spouse call.

I'm sure that will defeat the purpose.

YOUR WIFE should have all access to ur phone, and so should the husband

WHAO! THIS IS AN INTERESTING TOPIC.

I FELT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN PICKING UR SPOUSE'S PHONE CALL. I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT TOO UNTIL JUST TWO HOURS AGO WHEN MY HUSBAND PROVE AND QUOTE ME WRONG.
WE ARE USED TO PICKING EACH OTHER'S CALL UNTIL THIS EVENING, WHEN I WANTED TO PICK HIS PHONE FOR HIM COS IT WAS LOSER TO WHY I WAS, AND B4 I KNEW WHAT HAPPENED, HE HIJAC]KED THE PHONE FROM ME EVEN B4 I SAID HELLO. AND AFTER THE CALL. I INSISTED I MUST SEE THE PHONE NUMBER OF THE ALL HE JUST REFUSED. HE REFUSED AND BELIEVE ME, MY NAIRALAND USERS, WE WERE ON THIS TOPIC FOR TWO HOURS, HE REFUSED,I STRUGGED WITH HIM BUT COULDN'T GET HOLD OF THE HAND SET. EVENTUALLY, I GAVE IN COS I WAS TIREDAND HE WAS ADAMANT TO LET GO OF THE SET. I KNEW SOMETHING WASN'T RIGHT ABT THIS CALL, HIS BEHAVIOUR. I DECIDED NOT TO GIVE HIM BREATHING SPACE THIS EVENING, BUT U KNOW MEN,HE ASKED ME TO BOIL RICE FOR HIM AND B4 I COULD RETURN FROM THE KITCHEN, HE HAS TAKEN HIS CAR KEY AND DRIVES OUT. BUT HE WILL COME BACK 2NITE. DAT PHONEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

fellybabe:

WHAO! THIS IS AN INTERESTING TOPIC.

I FELT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN PICKING UR SPOUSE'S PHONE CALL. I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT TOO UNTIL JUST TWO HOURS AGO WHEN MY HUSBAND PROVE AND QUOTE ME WRONG.
WE ARE USED TO PICKING EACH OTHER'S CALL UNTIL THIS EVENING, WHEN I WANTED TO PICK HIS PHONE FOR HIM COS IT WAS LOSER TO WHY I WAS, AND B4 I KNEW WHAT HAPPENED, HE HIJAC]KED THE PHONE FROM ME EVEN B4 I SAID HELLO. AND AFTER THE CALL. I INSISTED I MUST SEE THE PHONE NUMBER OF THE ALL HE JUST REFUSED. HE REFUSED AND BELIEVE ME, MY NAIRALAND USERS, WE WERE ON THIS TOPIC FOR TWO HOURS, HE REFUSED,I STRUGGED WITH HIM BUT COULDN'T GET HOLD OF THE HAND SET. EVENTUALLY, I GAVE IN COS I WAS TIREDAND HE WAS ADAMANT TO LET GO OF THE SET. I KNEW SOMETHING WASN'T RIGHT ABT THIS CALL, HIS BEHAVIOUR. I DECIDED NOT TO GIVE HIM BREATHING SPACE THIS EVENING, BUT U KNOW MEN,HE ASKED ME TO BOIL RICE FOR HIM AND B4 I COULD RETURN FROM THE KITCHEN, HE HAS TAKEN HIS CAR KEY AND DRIVES OUT. BUT HE WILL COME BACK 2NITE. DAT PHONEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

you really should have just picked up the phone and handed it to him since he was available not actually answer it. you may answer if the caller persists(and you think it may be important) and he's unavailable.
dont go looking for trouble.
besides if you want to snoop, you should act like the call doesnt bother you and when he goes to the bathroom or wherever you can do your thing! not fight with him for the phone.

Do you have any secrets you are hiding from each other? If there is then the problem of hiding of phones. BUt when there is no secret or extra martital affairs then anyone can answer the call except there is a mosquito hiding in your cupboard.

That shouldnt be a problem. I can answer the call of my wife and she can also do the same to my phone. It pose no problem at all.

She has every right.

spouse are not suppose to attend to each other phone without the owners permission.not only because of secrect relationship, how about job, family, friend and society

When me cell ring, it is calling ME!

If me wife dare answer it i'd chop off her paw!

Except if its a joint business line, if not then one should mind his/her business and stay away from the other's cell. am not married and i have never for once ventured to pick my man's phone, the only time i looked into his fone was wen he took a pix of my ass and i had to see it (he offered to show it to me). of course i ordered him to delete it immediately. privacy is very vital (dem say wetin u no know no dey kill u). Peace y'all.

whats the problem u just say ed its Ur wife or am i wrong??