I've had some couple of relationships in the past. And as a matter of urgency the one I'm presently in is going down the drain. The challenge is that I discovered that I easily loose interest in the relationships even when some of my partners are ready to give it all... Nairalanders what do you think could be the cause of this? Your opinions and advice is needed.

MRSoftapples:
I think we are Right now having the same problem..

How can i woo a Lady yesterday,, she agreed to date me,, a beautiful lady for that matter..
But today i just lost interest in going on with the relationship..

I just want to be free but my problem is can I be free in a relationship?

Bro we are on the same both..

Honestly it's not that I don't value the relationships or I don't love those girls I've dated. The thing is I just easily loose interest in the relationship. I just can't explain why...

You could be suffering from agoretofic,check your dictionary if you don't know the meaning of the word. Meanwhile, why not visit a relationship expert,bcs na only broke ass,and lazy idiot dey this section. You cn asked this question in politics section, there u will meet mature men and woman,not romance section

You guys are not ready that's all, I guess you were starting those relationships based on the fact that you think you want it, whereas you don't.

Focus those energy instead on something productive, you'll be happy you did.

I think you're addicted to something that is always taking your mind away from the relationship.

Probably because there was really no purpose for the relationship.

When purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable.

You just asked her out for the fun of it or just to prove to yourself that you could get her. And now, you don't know what to do with her.

NCarthur:
I think you're addicted to something that is always taking your mind away from the relationship.

I think you're somehow right on this one

ImaIma1:
Probably because there was really no purpose for the relationship.

When purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable.

You just asked her out for the fun of it or just to prove to yourself that you could get her. And now, you don't know what to do with her.

I really don't think so. This happened almost in all the relationships. Could it be that I don't know what to do with all of them? NO!

bobokeshington:


I really don't think so. This happened almost in all the relationships. Could it be that I don't know what to do with all of them? NO!

Yes. There is no real purpose for the relationship.

bobokeshington:

I think you're somehow right on this one

Now do something about it cus it'll still continue hunting you

you are just bored

ImaIma1:
Probably because there was really no purpose for the relationship.

When purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable.

You just asked her out for the fun of it or just to prove to yourself that you could get her. And now, you don't know what to do with her.

You are right.

Then:
I enjoy and prefer the privileged adventure of admiring a girl, asking her out and all that but the moment she gave in; adventure ends. Nothing left to keep the mind busy longing and interesting. You know a situation whereby you are wooing a girl day in day out and at the same time you are wishing she doesn't giving in because you know adventure will end.
At such, the only relationship I know has lasted a little longer is that in which I never asked a girl out, she never did same, we are just there, with unspoken and undeclared intentions and we prefer it that way.

Now:
I don't care anymore about relationship.

ImaIma1:

Yes. There is no real purpose for the relationship.

Apart from marriage, what other purpose(s) is/are there in relationships

Please do tell me, I would like to adopt and incubate one.

Bluezy13:


Apart from marriage, what other purpose(s) is/are there in relationships


Please do tell me, I would like to adopt and incubate one.

Nah...you won't pick my brain. Until you know why you should be in a relationship, try not to ask a girl out.

When you reach that point, you will know.

Bluezy13:


You are right.

Then:
I enjoy and prefer the privileged adventure of admiring a girl, asking her out and all that but the moment she gave in; adventure ends. Nothing left to keep the mind busy longing and interesting. You know a situation whereby you are wooing a girl day in day out and at the same time you are wishing she doesn't giving in because you know adventure will end.
At such, the only relationship I know has lasted a little longer is that in which I never asked a girl out, she never did same, we are just there, with unspoken and undeclared intentions and we prefer it that way.

Now:
I don't care anymore about relationship.

I know a lot of guys feel this way but that is associated with younger guys who are not really sure about what they want yet.

ImaIma1:


Nah...you won't pick my brain. Until you know why you should be in a relationship, try not to ask a girl out.

When you reach that point, you will know.

Wasn't trying to pick your brain.

I'm 32 with two kids from two women.

ImaIma1:


I know a lot of guys feel this way but that is associated with younger guys who are not really sure about what they want yet.

Ok, will stop here

Bluezy13:



Wasn't trying to pick your brain.

I'm 32 with two kids from two women.

Hmmm...

I once dated a guy that said he couldn't love for long. The love was always short-lived. I took to my heels because i imagined that one day he would just stop loving me and our children.

Hopefully you will find what you need.

NCarthur:


Now do something about it cus it'll still continue hunting you

like how exactly do I go about it

bobokeshington:
I've had some couple of relationships in the past. And as a matter of urgency the one I'm presently in is going down the drain. The challenge is that I discovered that I easily loose interest in the relationships even when some of my partners are ready to give it all... Nairalanders what do you think could be the cause of this? Your opinions and advice is needed.

You have heaven mate

Op I guess we're in the same shoe, after 2 weeks of every relationship I lost interest and quit.... my last relationship lasted only 3 days.
I personally don't believe in love, don't believe in it existence: it's just our mind playing tricks on us or some sort of chemical reactions in our brain...
how I ended my last relationship:
Was chilling under a tree thinking about how fücked up humanity is- she came behind me, held me behind and gave me a pet kiss. I was like "I need a breakup...I'm sorry" she couldn't believed it.

I'm not seeking help though, Divay22 has the solution.

ImaIma1:


I know a lot of guys feel this way but that is associated with younger guys who are not really sure about what they want yet.

I bet to disagree. This isn't associated with younger guys. it's much more than that

Offpoint:
Op I guess we're in the same shoe, after 2 weeks of every relationship I lost interest and quit.... my last relationship lasted only 3 days.
I personally don't believe in love, don't believe in it existence: it's just our mind playing tricks on us or some sort of chemical reactions in our brain...
how I ended my last relationship:
Was chilling under a tree thinking about how fücked up humanity is- she came behind me, held me behind and gave me a pet kiss. I was like "I need a breakup...I'm sorry" she couldn't believed it.

I'm not seeking help though, Divay22 has the solution.

So that you too can break my heart abi
We are on same boat

Legolast:


You have heaven mate

Hell no! I don't have that. Beside, this is neither diabolical nor spiritual stuff

Divay22:

So that you too can break my heart abi
We are on same boat

I knew we are in the same ride right from inception.

How can't I break your heart when what I seek from you is not "Love" but happiness[ yours and mine] ? can anyone actually give love? I don't promise people I'll love 'em forever, that's like starting the relationship on the foundation of lies.

it's foolish of anyone to say "I'll love you forever, I'll never hurt you" when he/she is not God, that's a greatest lie human don't even know about it.

I might hurt your feelings, might do things you don't expect of me... cuz I'm a human not free from mistakes, but I hope you understand and forgive me when that happen... that's my first word.

Baby let's take this rough journey together...

You are fine, you have just not found the right one.

Offpoint:
Op I guess we're in the same shoe, after 2 weeks of every relationship I lost interest and quit.... my last relationship lasted only 3 days.
I personally don't believe in love, don't believe in it existence: it's just our mind playing tricks on us or some sort of chemical reactions in our brain...
how I ended my last relationship:
Was chilling under a tree thinking about how fücked up humanity is- she came behind me, held me behind and gave me a pet kiss. I was like "I need a breakup...I'm sorry" she couldn't believed it.

I'm not seeking help though, Divay22 has the solution.

Don't worry, when the right girl comes along, na you go rush am. You will start asking yourself, "Am I under a spell?" Lol

bobokeshington:


like how exactly do I go about it

Get ride of/deal with the stuff you're addicted to by yourself or go for a counsel (matured person) avoid sharing it with a friend might be used against you later.

gbekelolu499:
Bluezy13: Apart from marriage, what other purpose(s) is/are there in relationships Please do tell me, I would like to adopt and incubate one. Nah...you won't pick my brain. Until you know why you should be in a relationship, try not to ask a girl out. When you reach that point, you will know.p

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