i have a boyfriend whom i've bn going out wt for about 6months now, new him 4 about 2 yrs b4 dating him. thou he hardly come 2 c me cos of his really demanding job? i still loved him until he did smth dat hurt me so much i thot my heart would break. i forgave him but tins neva went back 2 d way it was. i noticed we were drifting apart n begged him 2 communicate wt me more, no matter how busy he is. each tm we c he wud apologise so much dat i won't have a choice but 2 say i'm sori too n forgive him. wen i tink of it now i realised it's bc if i hesitate 2 understand him, he wud start telling me i complain 2 much n i simply don't understand him which usually mks me feel bad.
3 months back i met another guy whom till now has refused 2 let go despite telling him i'm in a serious relationship bc according 2 him each time he cms 2 c me i'm always alone, neva goes out n we spend most tm talking on phone together. He initially thot i was saying all dat 2 discourage him.
Now i'm confused. cos i also like this new guy a lot. we're in d same profession(dat's how we met during a 2 week conference) but work miles apart in different companies. he spends tm wt me, i no longer feel lonely n d big problem is rather dan affect my relationship, it seems 2 do d opposite-at least i no longer 'complain' as b4.
i've neva bn in this kind of situatn b4- double dating. only dat it's bigger dan dat 4 me. i'm a xtian, my bfriend is 2. my new guy is a muslim. big deal? not at all cos my parents wud freak out, personal experience. y am i jumping d gun? i'm not cos both have proposed 2 me n my new guy sms 2 be working 2wards dat beta dan my old bf.
i feel much closer 2 my new guy n i share more wt him-plans, experiences, etc. he's d only 1 i was able 2 tell wat my bfriend did 2 me. it was 2 traumatic 4 me, i was forced by my bfriend 2 have sex wt him which happened 2 be my very first tm. despite d fact dat he knew i was keeping myself 4 marriage. at 27, it was a bitter pill 4 me 2 swallow, afta all dis yrs.
i forgave him bt maybe nt completely cos i had not bn able 2 bear him touch me ever since then n thank God he understands afta several fruitless attempts at seductn.
i met my new guy a few days after my bfriend disvirgin me.
my relatn wt my new guy is more dan platonic, now i'm scared dat i may start having sex wt him. unlike my bfriend who wants many tins in place b4 marriage, this guy can't wait 2 meet my parents if i'm ready 2 accept wat he can offer me.
i tink i'm in love wt my new guy, problem is my people will neva accept him n even i am yet 2 look past d religious aspect n i don't want 2 lose both ways. pls advice!

Why not tell the first guy your plan that you have another guy you want to marry.maybe that might hasting up his footstep. But why double date at first.

this story is not clear
is it ur first bf who disv'ed u

what r the things ur first bf wants

what makes u think boy 2 is any better?

it was neva my intentn 2 double date. I was passing tru a difficult tm and i  met smone who showed me compassion. wen i was down, he spent tm wt me, tk me 2 places i want 2 be including attending service. help me wt my fears of questning my faith in God. i felt i lost my way, i no longer feel confident enough 2 pray. be it by consent or forced d fact is i'm no longer a virgin and i had d belief dat i was not clean to serve God. During this period he was just my friend even thou i knew i was attached 2 him in ways i cud not explain. I was able 2 really let go n forgive my bfriend wen i started praying again. I prefer 2 still call my new guy just my friend, i used d word double dating bc i want 2 be realistic since he has told me his intentions and i'm sure i have very strong feelings 4 him. as for my bfriend he still kips trying 2 tk me 2 bed anytm i'm wt him alone bt promised neva 2 force me again which i tink i believe him.

u and u alone has the answer to ur problem. if u know the religion thing wouldnt work then be faithful to the 1st guy. otherwise the 2nd is beta going by ur story