NotAZombie:

But I have chatted with people I don't know but got their number from someone and they don't behave like this. What is rude is rude,no other definition for that.

Well your approach was probably different.

Beside, Is it an obligation to be nice to everyone?
Are you nice to every stranger you come across?
Do you demand for a reply when you greet someone?

P.S these are rhetorical questions.

She was rude, she should have at least replied the greeting First. Maybe she was in a bad mood...

On your own part, you could have just introduced yourself after the "who is this'' instead of telling her how rude she was.

Generally, I think it's best to follow your greetings immediately with why you are texting the person. Some people don't have the patience for one by one messages.

I can see one mumu viewing this thread, next thing is for him to post about how difficult it is to train girls. Ode

No be today

SBL28:
She was rude, she should have at least replied the greeting First. Maybe she was in a bad mood...

On your own part, you could have just introduced yourself after the "who is this'' instead of telling her how rude she was.

Generally, I think it's best to follow your greetings immediately with why you are texting the person. Some people don't have the patience for one by one messages.

she wasn't rude, at least not until he started being all condescending. She politely asked who it was, and he started schooling her like he was her grandfather.

The most important thing for him that moment was that she returns his greeting. The most important thing for her was that she gets to know who's chatting her up, as it could have been anyone. He could easily have introduced himself then raise the issue about her not returning greetings. Yet he chose to be bitchy about it.

He is one of those people that believe girls should be on their knees for him simply because he is a guy and he's showing interest in them. She has other things to worry about as her life doesn't revolve around that conversation.

To worsen it all, OP uses one example to prove that ALL Nigerian girls are rude.

It tells you the quality of education obtained.

Na initial gra gra she wan do.......she wan form hard to get

I won't support the guy in this case.

She was extremely rude, and when I mean rude. I don't mean her reply, but for her to go to the extent of showing family members the chat is rudeness of the highest level, not forgetting childishness.

Well, most of u people are saying he should have introduced himself after saying hello, it's either you jokin, not a lot Nigerian or haven't come in contact with Naija ladies.. I can guarantee with my left ballz that after all the long story of introduction, she would have replied with 'k'.. lmao

No be naija galz again? Rude Muddafakaz

Everyone is right in his own mentality.

egorov, honestly you were rude. Actually you initiated the rudeness. You said hi and she replied with that. Then you went ahead to correct her for asking a simple who is this? Do you know how annoying it is for someone who doesn’t have your number saying hi? Maybe she assumed you wouldn’t call immediately, just maybe

I don't blame her. I blame you.



I no longer have time chat anybody up.

amaniro:
You too were rude


you should not have said that. Courtesy also demand that you introduce yourself formally to her, tell her where and how you got her contact. Simple.


BTW Nigerian girls are extremely rude. True.

some people no just get sense.



In what part of this planet do you just vomit words without the proper greeting.


What sane human being replies a greeting with who is this? What's wrong with replying 1st then ask who the person is?

Xaos:
I think you're rather impatient. Scammers have made a mockery of good meaning Nigerians so as a stranger, you're supposed to introduce yourself. That at least will make her comfortable to reply to whatever...

there's no excuse for bad manners.


There are scammers everywhere, even the ones we meet one on one. Let's say I met you by the road and greeted you hello or good afternoon, will you say because there are scammers and kidnappers the 1st thing you'll also me is who am I? The classy thing is to return the greetings and then wait for the person to introduce him or herself

theSpark:
Sorry sir,

Some people can be rude unnecessarily. Although you for just let it slide without trying to much to correct her. Maybe subsequently bring it up when you're well acquainted.

But the girl is rude. And such attitude stinks.

what's the point of bringing it up later? Clearly she's I'll mannered. Who in his right mind would want to put up with that

Gerrard59:
To worsen it all, OP uses one example to prove that ALL Nigerian girls are rude.

It tells you the quality of education obtained.

It is really disappointing and sad. From the responses of a lot of ladies here, it shows they are rude and would do the same thing.

That kind of aggressive response has become a norm for them that it has become a standard and not seen as rude anymore.

I would still respond to the greeting first and hear him out first.

Viicfuntop:
egorov, honestly you were rude. Actually you initiated the rudeness. You said hi and she replied with that. Then you went ahead to correct her for asking a simple who is this? Do you know how annoying it is for someone who doesn’t have your number saying hi? Maybe she assumed you wouldn’t call immediately, just maybe

and what is it about getting a hi message from someone you dont have his or her number saved on your phone , i only get curios and i dont think that will change if i were to be a lady . people just like feeling unnecessarily important . just read on another thread about ngolo kante

odogwunaija:
The guy is not rude to her in any way. What happens to "good afternoon, may I know u pls". The girl is just manner less and I guess she's either a teenager or in her early 20s, such attitude is more common among this age group

Thanks for this. As in I'm amazed some people are still justifying her actions.

Viicfuntop:
egorov, honestly you were rude. Actually you initiated the rudeness. You said hi and she replied with that. Then you went ahead to correct her for asking a simple who is this? Do you know how annoying it is for someone who doesn’t have your number saying hi? Maybe she assumed you wouldn’t call immediately, just maybe

I don't understand, what's annoying in receiving a message from a strange number. Moreover this one was expected

[quote author=xtervaganza post=71303068]what's the point of bringing it up later? Clearly she's I'll mannered. Who in his right mind would want to put up with that [/quote

I can't just withstand bitter people.

ImaIma1:


It is really disappointing and sad. From the responses of a lot of ladies here, it shows they are rude and would do the same thing.

That kind of aggressive response has become a norm for them that it has become a standard and not seen as rude anymore.

I would still respond to the greeting first and hear him out first.

You're just so different

Well, we were all brought up in different ways and manners. Some aren't as privileged as others.

Viicfuntop:
egorov, honestly you were rude. Actually you initiated the rudeness. You said hi and she replied with that. Then you went ahead to correct her for asking a simple who is this? Do you know how annoying it is for someone who doesn’t have your number saying hi? Maybe she assumed you wouldn’t call immediately, just maybe

And if u really went through the chat, you will see what I sent to her. I didn't send 'hi'

mikebabs101:
and what is it about getting a hi message from someone you dont have his or her number saved on your phone , i only get curios and i dont think that will change if i were to be a lady . people just like feeling unnecessarily important . just read on another thread about ngolo kante

The guy is extremely humble. Given his status. I doubt if most of our naija celebs can do that

Truth is everyone approaches situations differently, and some times first impression really does not matter am not a fan of that phrase. Cos sometimes individuals can jst be in a very bad shape of mind."like i said ppl handle tinz differently. U're wrong, and she'z also wrong....nothing stops u from atleast greeting her and introducing urself too. And nothing also stops her from reciprocating ur greetings.(sometimes some persons dont even interact with unknown numbers, while some other person dont even care....seems u were out there trying to teach her manners not to talk.

tunize:
Truth is everyone approaches situations differently, and some times first impression really does not matter am not a fan of that phrase. Cos sometimes individuals can jst be in a very bad shape of mind."like i said ppl handle tinz differently. U're wrong, and she'z also wrong....nothing stops u from atleast greeting her and introducing urself too. And nothing also stops her from reciprocating ur greetings.(sometimes some persons dont even interact with unknown numbers, while some other person dont even care....seems u were out there trying to teach her manners not to talk.

I think it is also bad upbringing when people act up for others because they are in a mood.

My husband and I visited a friend and her family on Sunday and her son who is about 5yrs old didn't greet us or talk to us all the while we were there. He was carrying a long face around and crumbling.

Even when my husband and I talked to him, he didn't respond. His mother said that he was in a bad mood. If he were my relative or my son, i would have cleared his doubt but i just behaved myself.

That is how he will grow up and be aggressive and rude towards people because he is not in the mood. The girl in question lacks courtesy. If she didn't, she would have responded to the greeting first before anything especially as she knew someone was going to chat her.

egorov:

Okay thanks. Yea, maybe I should have been a bit patient. Just that I can't let things go that way. I rather trash it now than pile it up for later

u can't let things go that way? u seem too righteous and full of urself, u think ur moral is perfect, I read all ur replies and I see u as a rude person (no offence intended). I once had such a message and that was also my reply (not saying it suppose to b so) and d next thing he said was "its dat boy selling akara at ur junction". we laughed over it b4 he later introduced himself, today we are close friends. not saying she is right but u also took d wrong action and going as far as calling her 'rude'

Bahddo:
she wasn't rude, at least not until he started being all condescending. She politely asked who it was, and he started schooling her like he was her grandfather.

The most important thing for him that moment was that she returns his greeting. The most important thing for her was that she gets to know who's chatting her up, as it could have been anyone. He could easily have introduced himself then raise the issue about her not returning greetings. Yet he chose to be bitchy about it.

He is one of those people that believe girls should be on their knees for him simply because he is a guy and he's showing interest in them. She has other things to worry about as her life doesn't revolve around that conversation.

thanks dear, u spoke my mind.

mikebabs101:
There is really no point acting like the weight of the world is on ones shoulder , a simple greeting should be reciprocated no matter what , it has done you no harm , you should be smart enough to figure out scammers and time wasters which can easily be blocked or ignored , there is no justification for acting like a wounded tiger all in the name of bad mood . Life is not that hard we make it harder for ourselves

she was wrong but not rude, on his part, trying to school someone u haven't met on the etiquettes of greeting, now that's rude!

egorov:
the only thing courtesy demanded was that I greet first. Which I did.

How was I supposed to initiate the chat please.

Greet and introduce urself immediately. The introduction can even come with the greeting.. You were rude too.

ImaIma1:


I think it is also bad upbringing when people act up for others because they are in a mood.

My husband and I visited a friend and her family on Sunday and her son who is about 5yrs old didn't greet us or talk to us all the while we were there. He was carrying a long face around and crumbling.

Even when my husband and I talked to him, he didn't respond. His mother said that he was in a bad mood. If he were my relative or my son, i would have cleared his doubt but i just behaved myself.

That is how he will grow up and be aggressive and rude towards people because he is not in the mood. The girl in question lacks courtesy. If she didn't, she would have responded to the greeting first before anything especially as she knew someone was going to chat her.

Atleast u are woman..majority of women have dis kind of crazy character what she did was bad, like i said ppl differs and ppl handle situations differently ranging from anger management or mood control per sey..that is not a criteria to jst jump and conclude that she lacks training. Or u too still support first impression matters?.

tunize:

Atleast u are woman..majority of women have dis kind of crazy character what she did was bad, like i said ppl differs and ppl handle situations differently ranging from anger management or mood control per sey..that is not a criteria to jst jump and conclude that she lacks training. Or u too still support first impression matters?.

I support courtesy...responding to greeting and being polite.

A person without courtesy is like a tyre without air.

egorov:

I don't understand, what's annoying in receiving a message from a strange number. Moreover this one was expected

You didn’t introduced yourself properly. What if your number wasn’t the only one she gave permission to call? She didn’t know who you were and she asked that you introduced yourself again and you showed a bit of arrogance. I would also be mad if someone talk to me like this.