Why did you tell the guy your past? Did he tell you about his own past? He gave you two crazy options to choose from. Why should you trust him? A friend today can turn an enemy in future? Don't be surprised his past is as bad as yours. Tell him that you will go for confession in another church. Confess to a good pastor who does not know you or ur family, so that the pastor prays for you. If he refuses to accept, pls quit.

Just tell her that her ailment no get cure presently.. that scientists are working on a solution to her problems... She is simply nothing but a black market

PrimadonnaO:
Wow. I guess we all need special grace not to judge...

so as it comes to ladies now, we all need grace bah, Weldone. please sha don't allow your own reach that figure op mention

LilMissFavvy:
Why did you tell the guy your past? Did he tell you about his own past? He gave you two crazy options to choose from. Why should you trust him? A friend today can turn an enemy in future? Don't be surprised his past is as bad as yours. Tell him that you will go for confession in another church. Confess to a good pastor who does not know you or ur family, so that the pastor prays for you. If he refuses to accept, pls quit.

your first two lines make me to ask you have you been in love before

greatnaija01:




I do not care if this is about u or a friend but am here to help

THE PAST BITES AND HUNTS when its not totally cut off.

ONE MAJOR MISTAKE is BODY COUNT... It is totally WRONG to tell anyone your BODY COUNT or specifics of your DIRTY PAST... because the person who truly LOVES YOU won't care about it.... yes and let me shock you.... NO HUMAN MAN WILL WANT TO CONTINUE WITH YOU IF YOU GO THAT DEEP INTO CONFESSION.... Only GOD can handle such detail.


EVEN if he marries you... YOU WILL BE A SUSPECT FOR LIFE and your children will suffer the same suspicion from him ONCE they start having friends.

SO here is the solution.... TELL THE REVEREND SISTER... but listen DO NOT GO INTO BODY COUNT and RAW DETAILS. Just tell her you were addicted to sex and you want God to help you and restore you. tell her you have suffered silently for so long because you didn't want people to see you the wrong way... LET HER KNOW YOU ARE READY TO FOLLOW GOD'S PATH.

If she is real, she will keep it confidential and help you through it.... ELSE if she tells your family then THE STIGMA will be for life.

THE FORGIVENESS AND NEW LIFE THAT JESUS CHRIST OFFERS is actually without the details of your PAST.

All these people on your thread who are mocking u or expecting you to be shamed and loose your relationship with that guy ARE simply like the accuser of the woman caught in adultery in the BIBLE.... Jesus says... LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE...

I salute you (or your friend) for being able to talk out... but UNDERSTAND HUMANS O.... Human being hardly forgives or forgets what GOD has forgiven and cleansed. So if you must deal then thread carefully.

In marriage I believe in transparency... BUT to know details of the past is what I KNOW IS VERY VERY WRONG... because it can ruin the relationship before it starts. I counsel couples to be plain as possible by saying.... I LIVED A VERY ROUGH LIFE OF SIN IN THE PAST BUT WHEN I GOT BORN AGAIN... I began to change slowly. Anyone asking for details is asking for BOMB that may kill them too... so save them the trouble.

ALSO.... I SUSPECT THAT, IF THIS GUY LEAVES YOU..... you will go back to SIN as a last resort or revenge and become more hardened.... SO it may not be worth it. IF YOUR CHANGE DOES NOT COME FROM GOD or PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.... Then it won't last.

You need something deeper or stronger than just the guy to totally claim you have changed.

You are simply intelligent, and of a good heart.

Op, this is the advise your friend needs. I pray she remains steadfast in her change.

JoeMaddog:
Why should I advise you on how to tie a bro down Once a hòe is always a hòe. You've slept with more than 30 men . The only advice I have for you is to join the pòrn industry. Put your talent to use.

porn industry

JoeMaddog:
Why should I advise you on how to tie a bro down Once a hòe is always a hòe. You've slept with more than 30 men . The only advice I have for you is to join the pòrn industry. Put your talent to use.

your name just dey follow u.... nkita ara

Oma307:

so as it comes to ladies now, we all need grace bah, Weldone. please sha don't allow your own reach that figure op mention

More like, I'm shocked...and the first things that came to my mind to type were actually very judgmental. I had to suck it up...and try to see her in another light...as a repentant person.

lonikit:
A friend just narrated her ordeal to me. She is seriously in need of advice. Let me personalise the story for proper understanding. This is her words:


I have lived a wayward life in the past, I was so sexually promiscuous. Infact, I had slept with almost 30 men.(it was that bad. I can't really resist sex advances.) I continued like that till last year when I slept with a guy but fortunately for me he discovered my weakness and he determined not to take it as advantage to himself but saw the need to change me.

In the process, I fell in love with him and we started dating. In the bid to change me, he queried my past and initially, I used to lie about it and he would discovered the truth and get angry with me and said I was lying bcus I was stil not ready to change. But all I know is dat since he came to my life, he has changed a lot of things and I love the life I am living now. (I have not slept with another man in the last 7months, infact, I detest promiscuity now)
So we continued like that till I was able to soberly tell him everything about my past(I mean all). He was pained for lying to him in the past about everytin. So, he gave me two conditions that I should pick one bfr he can forgive me.
(1.) I should inform atleast one person amongst my family members about my past life and ask the person to forgive for being a reproach to the family.


(2.) That I should speak to a religious person (a Rev. Sister) about my past.

The two conditions are so hard bcus 1, my father is a moralist and my family members trust me so much. Some of this pple I av slept with are well known to them. They include our family doctor, clargy man etc.

2. The condition two, the religion person he mentioned know most of them too and one of her family member is even among.

Please, help me. I dont want to loose him bcus he has helped me to change my ways overtime. His conditions are hard as well. Please advise me. Bashing is allowed please but advise me.

If you are truly determined to change, those are not hard conditions. He wants to make it very difficult for you to relapse back to your former life.

I support his antics. It is for your own good!

PrimadonnaO:


More like, I'm shocked...and the first things that came to my mind to type were actually very judgmental. I had to suck it up...and try to see her in another light...as a repentant person.

you have said it all, but I pity for body because I really know that the number of men she slept with are more than 30. no wahala
but I have send you a message

Nonsense " Can you advise your brother to continue if you are the one Even My Dog died as a V " 30men even your Woli yepa

Ahmed0336:
Let her just leave him and focus on her life jare.
What sort of useless conditions is that? If he cannot live with it abeg make him shift give people chance jare.

Him for even tell her to confess to her state Governor self. Mstewwwww nonsense!!!!

Some of those casting stones here are worst sinners.
Howbeit, your confession is only to God.
He alone have the power to forgive you.
Sincerely, the chances of that guy marrying you is very very slim.
I have met a girl like that in the past. Body count slightly higher than yours, but never was I going to settle with her. My responsibility was to change her.i never had sex with her even before knowing her past.she was just a young teen (19). Her case was a bad parenting, no guardians. Coupled with the fact that her parents lived separately.
I hope the guy in question has never had sex with you, and yet gives you this condition?
She is still single now while I have already been married foralmost 10yrs.
Mend your ways with God.

greatnaija01:

Nice one!

Confessing one sin to me is a stupid thing, sorry if I hurt any doctrine.

Those you confess to, what happened to their sins?

It is only God that forgive such.
And as you have turned a newleaf, try not to go back to such lifestyle.

If God has covered your sins, why go about publicizing afterwards?

Publicizing what God has covered of your past is another sin.

Why not keep your past and look to your future.

If he can't marry with your past, he should forget it, another will be pleased with it.


No matter whom you are, what you are destined to get, you will get it.

The person that told the op or friend to confess on a condition should be educated.

lonikit:
A friend just narrated her
(1.) I should inform atleast one person amongst my family members about my past life and ask the person to forgive for being a reproach to the family.


(2.) That I should speak to a religious person (a Rev. Sister) about my past.

The two conditions are so hard bcus 1, my father is a moralist and my family members trust me so much. Some of this pple I av slept with are well known to them. They include our family doctor, clargy man etc.

2. The condition two, the religion person he mentioned know most of them too and one of her family member is even among.
.

My dear OP
I feel that this post is about you but nevermind, I will tell you the truth as a man of God. I hope you'll learn

1. This man seem to want the best of you. The reason he wants you to confess to these class of people is that he feels you will be healed permanently after your confessions.
2. His choice of people you are to confess to is also blessed. These are two groups of people who though may be hurt by your confessions BUT will forgive you and see that you are healed and helped.
3. He didn't ask you to tell his family BN members: he is considerate.

Please honour the love and respect he has for you or you will permanently loose him.

NOW AS Gods Servant:
1. Go for deliverance you need it else your chain remains on you. Where ever you go, make sure they don't collect money to do deliverance.
2. You need to be born again: it means recieving the MATRICULATION NUMBER of Heaven
3. Fornication is a sin. He who breaks the hedge, the serpent will bite. If you are old enough to marry, do it on time.

Shalom

what is hard there?...if you have truly repented....is there something you are not telling us.?...next!!

What happens between your legs is your business, there's nothing wrong with protected sex with numerous partners as long as you protect yourself.

My body count is my body count and I don't have to disclose it anyone. In fact, if a guy asks then I lose interest in him because his priorities aren't straight.

Guest007:
What happens between your legs is your business, there's nothing wrong with protected sex with numerous partners as long as you protect yourself.

My body count is my body count and I don't have to disclose it anyone. In fact, if a guy asks then I lose interest in him because his priorities aren't straight.

she's a h0e and the guy is wise

Ishilove:
Ahhhh... if men were God...

This man has a God complex and is very unwise.

will you allow your brother to marry that kind of woman? nonsense

Guest007:
What happens between your legs is your business, there's nothing wrong with protected sex with numerous partners as long as you protect yourself.

My body count is my body count and I don't have to disclose it anyone. In fact, if a guy asks then I lose interest in him because his priorities aren't straight.

a bltch is a bltch, since I read this your comment, any woman I want to marry must be a Virgin

Charelsz:
she's a h0e and the guy is wise

That's fine, she should own her hoesh past and keep it moving instead of begging another human for salvation

Dickhead02:
a bltch is a bltch, since I read this your comment, any woman I want to marry must be a Virgin

Lol! Good luck like your virgin won't taste better dick after you

Guest007:


Lol! Good luck like your virgin won't taste better dick after you

The day she fvcks around,she's out of my house

Then I will search for another virgin lady to marry

Dickhead02:
The day she fvcks around,she's out of my house

Then I will search for another virgin lady to marry

Guest007:

Are you khiaa?

Guest007:


That's fine, she should own her hoesh past and keep it moving instead of begging another human for salvation

lonikit:
A friend just narrated her ordeal to me. She is seriously in need of advice. Let me personalise the story for proper understanding. This is her words:


I have lived a wayward life in the past, I was so sexually promiscuous. Infact, I had slept with almost 30 men.(it was that bad. I can't really resist sex advances.) I continued like that till last year when I slept with a guy but fortunately for me he discovered my weakness and he determined not to take it as advantage to himself but saw the need to change me.

In the process, I fell in love with him and we started dating. In the bid to change me, he queried my past and initially, I used to lie about it and he would discovered the truth and get angry with me and said I was lying bcus I was stil not ready to change. But all I know is dat since he came to my life, he has changed a lot of things and I love the life I am living now. (I have not slept with another man in the last 7months, infact, I detest promiscuity now)
So we continued like that till I was able to soberly tell him everything about my past(I mean all). He was pained for lying to him in the past about everytin. So, he gave me two conditions that I should pick one bfr he can forgive me.
(1.) I should inform atleast one person amongst my family members about my past life and ask the person to forgive for being a reproach to the family.


(2.) That I should speak to a religious person (a Rev. Sister) about my past.

The two conditions are so hard bcus 1, my father is a moralist and my family members trust me so much. Some of this pple I av slept with are well known to them. They include our family doctor, clargy man etc.

2. The condition two, the religion person he mentioned know most of them too and one of her family member is even among.

Please, help me. I dont want to loose him bcus he has helped me to change my ways overtime. His conditions are hard as well. Please advise me. Bashing is allowed please but advise me.

Go to another Church where you are not known

Thank u all for ur contributions. I am grateful

Ur advice are highly appreciated

Is 30 men too many

This is a serious matter @Op.
Option one is the most difficult. It is easier to tell God and ask for forgiveness but to men it's not. If I were in her shoes, I would feel the same. I will urge the lady in question to pray for strength and ask God to touch the heart of whoever she wishes to confess her story to.
We are all bound to make mistakes in life. Whether you are religious or not, it can happen to anybody. We learn lessons from our past. It is well.