DaySpringer:
I have finally admitted to myself that I am not very good at texting/chatting.

Especially with ladies. We barely have anything to talk about and after the mundane questions about school work, family etcetera, the conversation just dies out.

The only thing that revives the chat is a smiley face reply to my funny status updates.

Guys that have ladies loving up just from whatsapp messages & DMs, how do you do it?

Girls what keeps you interested in chatting with a guy?

Help a guy out here. I look forward to the mature and helpful comments.

Oyindidi:
Mtcheeeew

badadvice:



you no just get joy o.

DaySpringer:
I have finally admitted to myself that I am not very good at texting/chatting.

Especially with ladies. We barely have anything to talk about and after the mundane questions about school work, family etcetera, the conversation just dies out.

The only thing that revives the chat is a smiley face reply to my funny status updates.

Guys that have ladies loving up just from whatsapp messages & DMs, how do you do it?

Girls what keeps you interested in chatting with a guy?

Help a guy out here. I look forward to the mature and helpful comments.

PrimadonnaO:
Sometimes, it's not really about "knowing how to chat." You won't just connect with some persons.

Personally, if I'm making an effort to talk to you, I wouldn't reply with "one liners." If you ask how my day was, for instance, I'd state specifically what the day was like... rather than just saying "it was fine."

If you can't pick something from there to further the conversation...then you're on your own... or you don't give me responses that could strengthen a conversation, then of course the conversation trails off.


But with some persons even when you do all these, the conversation almost always reaches a dead end. This could be because y'all don't have enough common interests or one person is simply not vibing with the other.

DaySpringer:
I have finally admitted to myself that I am not very good at texting/chatting.

Especially with ladies. We barely have anything to talk about and after the mundane questions about school work, family etcetera, the conversation just dies out.

The only thing that revives the chat is a smiley face reply to my funny status updates.

Guys that have ladies loving up just from whatsapp messages & DMs, how do you do it?

Girls what keeps you interested in chatting with a guy?

Help a guy out here. I look forward to the mature and helpful comments.

Deepfeel:
Young girls are very difficult to chat with bro go for mature one's , young girls can't keep a conversation going for 10 minutes, mature minded ladies are more open to conversation

valdes00:

Nobody could av said it better... young girls are NO No when it comes to chat, its more like a question and answer... they will wait for you to ask the question and they will drop monosyllabic replies... when you get tired of asking the questions, the chat dies... I have a girl like that on my WhatsApp list... we hardly chat cos she can't even hold a proper conversation, she will always wait for u to ask and she will reply.... And I still av a matured lady, we can chat from morning till night without getting bored... instead of waiting for me to start another topic, she don start another topic herself... sometimes sef, na me dey use style dodge her hahahahah ...

PrimadonnaO:
Sometimes, it's not really about "knowing how to chat." You won't just connect with some persons.

Personally, if I'm making an effort to talk to you, I wouldn't reply with "one liners." If you ask how my day was, for instance, I'd state specifically what the day was like... rather than just saying "it was fine."

If you can't pick something from there to further the conversation...then you're on your own... or you don't give me responses that could strengthen a conversation, then of course the conversation trails off.


But with some persons even when you do all these, the conversation almost always reaches a dead end. This could be because y'all don't have enough common interests or one person is simply not vibing with the other.

DaySpringer:


You've made some valid points. You actually make an effort to keep the conversation going but many girls don't know how to, they just wait for you to do everything.

This lack of common interests is also a big factor as well. It leads to an end of topics that one can discuss about.

DaySpringer:


You've made some valid points. You actually make an effort to keep the conversation going but many girls don't know how to, they just wait for you to do everything.

This lack of common interests is also a big factor as well. It leads to an end of topics that one can discuss about.

PrimadonnaO:
Sometimes, it's not really about "knowing how to chat." You won't just connect with some persons.

Personally, if I'm making an effort to talk to you, I wouldn't reply with "one liners." If you ask how my day was, for instance, I'd state specifically what the day was like... rather than just saying "it was fine."

If you can't pick something from there to further the conversation...then you're on your own... or you don't give me responses that could strengthen a conversation, then of course the conversation trails off.


But with some persons even when you do all these, the conversation almost always reaches a dead end. This could be because y'all don't have enough common interests or one person is simply not vibing with the other.

iRepNaija1:
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This isn't the end to a conversation. It's the opportunity to learn more about each other, if you ask the right questions.

iRepNaija1:
OP, the reason you can't continue a conversation after the pleasantries is because you don't know how to expand the conversation from the information the other person has provided you. Here's an example:

A: So do you have any siblings?
B: Yes. I have two younger sisters and one older brother and sister.
A: Wow. Big family.
B: Yeah.

A lot of people at this point would just stop talking, not know what to say, or change the subject and ask person B if have they eaten and bathed for the evening. Please don't be one of those people, especially since person B has given you information that can lead to at least three to four different questions (under the subject of family). If you're smart, you will continue like so:

A: So were you the trouble-maker in your family, the goody-two shoes, the nerd or shy?
B: Lol. I was the troublemaker.
A: You? I don't believe it. You're always so put together and so professional at the office, I would've never guessed. [See how Person A dropped a nice compliment in the conversation?]
B: Yeah, lol. I know. Most people would not suspect.
A: You have to tell me a story, just one instance.
B: Hmm. Well, I use to fight a lot in secondary school. My youngest sibling was teased a lot by this one stupid boy, always flipping her skirt up in front of their classmates. So I told her to start wearing shorts underneath her skirt and to tell me when she has a run in with him again. Lo and behold, he was bothering her the very next day and she texted me. Omo, the way I rushed him. I shoved dirt in his mouth after I punched him. From that day, it became my signature, shoveling dirt in girls' and guys' mouth after a fight.
A:
B: Don't judge me too harshly lol
A: Can you be my older sibling?
B: Lol. Don't you have older siblings?
A: Me? Nope, just many younger siblings who ask me for school fees lol. But I'm serious o. Where were you when my classmates set books on my head because of my short stature? [Person A did two things here: used self-deprecating humor and revealed information about their own school life and family life. Person B can follow up with a question to get more information and reciprocate or the conversation can continue as is]
B: Lol.
A: You must be really close with your sister, right? [See how person A is using information already provided from the conversation to ask another, informed question? They're not changing the subject, they're not fumbling with what to say. They started off with a main question (do you have any siblings?) and went from there].

Other questions Person A could've asked: What do you and your family like to do for fun? Which sibling do you think you're closest to? What was it like growing up with your siblings? Were your parents strict or relaxed?

This technique can be applied to anything you're talking about with someone. It hasn't failed me yet. Again, 1) just pay attention to what the person is saying and 2) use the information they provide you from the initial question you ask 3) so you can ask more questions. Good luck, OP.

iRepNaija1:

B: Lol. I was the troublemaker.
A: You? I don't believe it. You're always so put together and so professional at the office, I would've never guessed. [See how Person A dropped a nice compliment in the conversation?]
B: Yeah, lol. I know. Most people would not suspect.
A: You have to tell me a story, just one instance.
B: Hmm. Well, I use to fight a lot in secondary school. My youngest sibling was teased a lot by this one stupid boy, always flipping her skirt up in front of their classmates. So I told her to start wearing shorts underneath her skirt and to tell me when she has a run in with him again. Lo and behold, he was bothering her the very next day and she texted me. Omo, the way I rushed him. I shoved dirt in his mouth after I punched him. From that day, it became my signature, shoveling dirt in girls' and guys' mouth after a fight.

DaySpringer:


I don't think B is a Nigerian Girl.



I follow what You have written here but in my case,
after B admits to being the troublemaker and I give A's Response here,
B replies "Yea, LOL" nothing else and then when I say tell me a story,

B replies, I don't have a story to tell or I don't know which story to tell and then things get awkward and die.