AmazonTopaz:
I never talked about inequality but mutuality.
All these things you mentioned goodness, love submission and what have you are human attributes or characteristics meaning such can be found in both genders.So why stereotyping saying only women got to do that and only men got to do this?

LordKO:



You can't talk about mutuality without having in mind - pronounced or otherwise - something more than one. An entity never forms mutuality. Also, you can't solve a need without identifying it - difference. So when you talk about man and woman "difference" should/will always come in mind, and not acknowledging its presence will always amount to self-denial which directly or indirectly breeds thought about equality or inequality or marginalization

The presence of difference automatically breeds thought about systematic means of application for solution in any sphere of life.

Fountainofyouth:



Smh!!!

LordKO:


Na wetin happen?

Fountainofyouth:



Not everyone agrees with the kind of submission you guys want.

LordKO:



You can't talk about mutuality without having in mind - pronounced or otherwise - something more than one. An entity never forms mutuality. Also, you can't solve a need without identifying it - difference. So when you talk about man and woman "difference" should/will always come in mind, and not acknowledging its presence will always amount to self-denial which directly or indirectly breeds thought about equality or inequality or marginalization

The presence of difference automatically breeds thought about systematic means of application for solution in any sphere of life.

LordKO:


If you don't want this kind of submission that is a product of goodness and variant of love - but only differs in nomenclature and application - which leads to understanding (for dating) and oneness (for marriage), which one do you want?

Fountainofyouth:



Must you call it submission though? Makes it sound like one is a "yes sir" to whatever the husband says, that is my point, all you mention can also happen when there is equality called "equality".

LordKO:


Don't be dreaded or disgusted by that word because it means no harm and it never breeds: "yes sir." It's servility that breads "yes sir." Equality can never negate differences - when talking about woman and man relationship.

Start to view it from its technical and informal meaning.

Biglittlelois:



Lol okay.

ebonyggurl:
All these guys saying women usually friendzone the guy who loves and cares for them....most times those caring guys are not attractive

ebonyggurl:
All these guys saying women usually friendzpone the guy who loves and cares for them....most times those caring guys are not attractive

ebonyggurl:
All these guys saying women usually friendzone the guy who loves and cares for them....most times those caring guys are not attractive

kalufelix:
you mean physical attraction ?? Me think the guy that truely loves and cares may not be much fun and romantic if he happens to be then he'd probably be broke.

You see why the guy is only good for cheating purposes

catwalq:

Its torture either way.

Can't we just love each other?

kalufelix:


Ma kinda girl..

Maybe this love something just has to be loopsided in order to work..one party must have to sacrifice more. If mutuality is achieved it comes off as an economic (business) partnership.

It's very bad being in a relationship thinking you are doing the other a favour...say what??

Also poverty make people go into relationships for the wrong reasons. So it's okay to take the torture for the economic gains and it goes both ways.

MJBOLT:

na dem

T3ndrils:
Well... what else can i say except the fact that i'm very glad that the hypothesis of guys like Harddon stands to be 100% correct. Women knows 0.000% of what they want... I continue to pity any man on the face of this earth that will believe the bullsh!t these girls are ranting here. Some even said they will learn to like/love the man with time(*scoffs*) ... what a big pile of bullsh!t.

NEVER should any guy here take the words of these girls here at face value, try it and regret, oppose and you 're in.

There was this girl in my unit with this 'high maintenance' mentality with two guys assl!cking her, well for me i'd negged he, ignore her, snub her, cared less, give less attention, say some harsh things to her, YET she'd always liked being around me and her habit of always touching me, even when one of her admirer was expressing his feelings, she would be touching me if i was even around tho. She once asked for my number but i didn't give. Her mood changes when i'm with other girls and her closest friends always give me this strange look.

You'd see other guys with experiences as mine above on other threads and i'm not surprised. Women atimes behave based on their subconscious views and hardly (if not at all) on their conscious view, they WILL come here and speak their MINDS(which is normal) and go out there and do their HEARTFELT and trust me these two things are never on the same lane and i'm very sure some of these girls here have loved, adored, cherised the one particular niqq that gave no hoot.

AmazonTopaz:
Love alone would not do it for me in a marriage or relationship.
I need the one that would understand me.I don't even know how to love so it is better the guy has the upperhand in that area(love or understanding)
To me understanding summarises love
Just understand me

AmazonTopaz:
Love alone would not do it for me in a marriage or relationship.
I need the one that would understand me.I don't even know how to love so it is better the guy has the upperhand in that area(love or understanding)
To me understanding summarises love
Just understand me

Fountainofyouth:



Wow you are really in love with her, that's why you've been ignoring my mentions cos you are scared to admit the obvious truth, lol I won't bite nah

DominusPrime:

typical example of what this thread talks about. me that I like you, you don't send but the one who ignores your post because he loves another is the one you are chasing...I think this settles it...lol...

Fountainofyouth:
Abeg it has to be balanced, equal love so that one will not be taken for granted.