I am confused. I used to take love as a feeling but heartbreak don scatter that line of thought.

I see it more as a choice. There are 3 girls, dunno which is best for me. They all want a serious relationship to marriage. First thing first, they all great women!

A - I love her personality, perfect, can sacrifice anything for me, but we have a background clash, and her values will be misaligned with mine in the future when I pursue some life goals of mine. Doesn't really like children. Also she is so nice & open, she is unaware when people play mind games with her. My life style attracts enemies. I fear they will use her to get to me.

B - she behaves exactly like the kind of woman I want to be in a romantic relationship, but sometimes I don't know how much of it is genuine, plus tho she is smart, she sees beauty as her selling point. Na brainy I like �I've not really seen her willing to sacrifice personally, maybe with time. I have one funny feeling she will like her children more than me �. Maybe I am Mr securing the bag (future)

C - perfect person you would want to manage your home, your kids, responsible, not materialistic, young though, strong character. Just seems too young for me, age gap, I get bored talking to her but I admire her a lot. She is not top of the class (intelligence is not everything in life, not even 10%) but again detracts from conversations.

I want advice from elders so I use my head + heart together. Help me pick who you think is most compatible. I'm not perfect, they are not.

I thought of simply picking the girl I just couldn't bear losing, not telling to again. Is that a bad idea? what are your thoughts, any ideas?

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Keep the 3 if you can maintain them.

The girl in this your story

https://www.nairaland.com/5238984/how-know-womans-true-character

Is Girl 1, 2, 3


Or 4?

Your way is not the right way but if you must walk dow that lane. if you must make a choice this way, No. 2 is it.

Newguyhere:
go for girl c bro
The first two are just ticking time bombs,
That 'love' you have for them will definitely turn to hate once you marry.

She is not compatible with him. That is where the issue will start with time. He will want another woman later and she may fall for another due to his neglect

test their love for you, I mean how much they love you or to what extent they love you,

from what you have posted so far so good, you might just be a manipulated guy in the hands of the modern day women,

they are smart and they play hard to get

noe you don't need to spend money on a girl if she truly loves you

what you just need to do test their love, that is all!!!!!

don't pick a woman that you love, pick the one that loves you

talking to ladies now: you asked where did I get this idea from?

well let me answer you

someone like you broke my heart seven years ago that is why I will always continue to lambast your lives on nairaland have a nice day!!!!

and guys please don't die because of one stupid girl, oh!!!! because I'd you died on top her, she will push away, spit on it and invite another guy to come fvck her and when they finish they will use your mouth to wipe their asses and butt holes

bro, if you are dating 3 babes and claim you dont know which is best for you, then it is obvious that NONE of them is...

Keep them three and keep dafuk quiet.

This is SUPER STORY

hm op only u na baba for d gehls.not an easy feat maintaining three fully grown women for dis buhari regime

ok

pocohantas:
The girl in this your story

https://www.nairaland.com/5238984/how-know-womans-true-character

Is Girl 1, 2, 3


Or 4?

This is 2

Hope you ain't the "money flaunting" type?..... Cos it might be very hard for you..... I gat my reasons for asking.....

Number 3 seems like the kinda lady you can still help mould into the kinda woman you want[with proper guidance]....

Choose between B and C. When I am done, you will know which between the two.

A

I ruled her out because of different values. In marriage your values must align. Also, she is too open with other, this is really bad for some occupation like becoming a politician.

Does not like children, she is out! Except you don't like kids too.

B

She still loves her ex and will never love you the way she loved before. She had become too experienced, that is what consecutive heartbreaks can cause. That is why she is withholding herself intentionally. You have to make her loosen up. She loves you but but will hold back to protect herself.

Let us say, she is playing safe and waiting for when she will say "I was right not to give my all". Do not ever go through her phone because the skeletons there are numerous.

If you want her, you need to discus the past, tell her to stop acting because that babe is pretending big time.

You need to assure her that you really care in words and actions. But tell her that, you also know she still look out there and what is she looking for? It is important you let her know you know what she is doing.

Something you need to know, you are right. She is still shopping for the best guy and very open to jump ship. But the good thing is, you can become that best guy by being all she wants.

You will always have a weird feeling about her like something is wrong, and yes it it but she herself does not know because she is still hung up to her pasts. It will take long but as long as her heart hurts.



C

Do you know that intelligence can rub off? If you are very intelligent, she will pick up to. Though she may not solve physics but she will become very smart in life just by associating with so her not being intelligent is now an issue.

The issue with her is that, she is young and thus inexperienced. Every woman needs to see life and realize on her own that their is nothing else out there.

Has she been heartbroken once before? If no, along the line in the future after the kids she will always feel like you caged her and someday demand that freedom in actions or in words.

She seems easy now but will become the hardest due to emotional issues she will cause you. She is yet to discover herself fully.

If you are the controlling type, stay clear of her. Her calmness now is because she has not fully realized herself and with increasing intelligence, you will become an ideal specimen for her emotional experiments.

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Make your choice, no one is perfect. They all come with baggages but stick with the person you can carry their baggages easily.

Stick with the one that loves u the most. Don't ever make a mistake of sticking with the one you love most but the one who loves you the most.

lukui:
test their love for you, I mean how much they love you or to what extent they love you,

from what you have posted so far so good, you might just be a manipulated guy in the hands of the modern day women,

they are smart and they play hard to get

noe you don't need to spend money on a girl if she truly loves you

what you just need to do test their love, that is all!!!!!

don't pick a woman that you love, pick the one that loves you

talking to ladies now: you asked where did I get this idea from?

well let me answer you

someone like you broke my heart seven years ago that is why I will always continue to lambast your lives on nairaland have a nice day!!!!

and guys please don't die because of one stupid girl, oh!!!! because I'd you died on top her, she will push away, spit on it and invite another guy to come fvck her and when they finish they will use your mouth to wipe their asses and butt holes

Please are you a male or female? Because I'm totally confused with your write-up. At first, you made alota sense when you ask him to test their love and the last two paragraphs were off Ayam not understanding NL again oh

johnrix:
I am confused. I used to take love as a feeling but heartbreak don scatter that line of thought.

I see it more as a choice. There are 3 girls, dunno which is best for me. They all want a serious relationship to marriage. First thing first, they all great women!

Bro post this on www.Manymen.men you will get the appropriate answers

thesicilian:
Keep the 3 if you can maintain them.

I can maintain them, but I want to be serious and settle down

Eze2000:
Your way is not the right way but if you must walk dow that lane. if you must make a choice this way, No. 2 is it.

I'm interested in why you say 2

MrBrownJay1:
bro, if you are dating 3 babes and claim you dont know which is best for you, then it is obvious that NONE of them is...

You know this thought ran through my mind, but I think I am just been picky since they are all great. Isn't it better to make it a choice and make it work?

I am very adaptable guy, so I can handle most reasonable women. Because I can handle most, seems I can date quite a variety of girls without issues.

lefulefu:
hm op only u na baba for d gehls.not an easy feat maintaining three fully grown women for dis buhari regime

Funny enough, none bother me for money, only no 2, and even that, most times I clear her I am investing my funds.

Onyenna:
Hope you ain't the "money flaunting" type?..... Cos it might be very hard for you..... I gat my reasons for asking.....

Number 3 seems like the kinda lady you can still help mould into the kinda woman you want[with proper guidance]....

No I don't flaunt, but in all humility, I think it is obvious I am doing relatively well. 1 and 3, I feel don't care about money, but you know women, if future is secure, they won't fret. 2 sometimes wants me to spend on her, though I often clear her. I feel because other guys always spend on her. (she is pretty)

From your write up, it seems you prefer both B and C more than A, and because of that I think A is the best choice for you.

Prec1ous:
Choose between B and C. When I am done, you will know which between the two.

A

I ruled her out because of different values. In marriage your values must align. Also, she is too open with other, this is really bad for some occupation like becoming a politician.

Does not like children, she is out! Except you don't like kids too.

B

She still loves her ex and will never love you the way she loved before. She had become too experienced, that is what consecutive heartbreaks can cause. That is why she is withholding herself intentionally. You have to make her loosen up. She loves you but but will hold back to protect herself.

Let us say, she is playing safe and waiting for when she will say "I was right not to give my all". Do not ever go through her phone because the skeletons there are numerous.

If you want her, you need to discus the past, tell her to stop acting because that babe is pretending big time.

You need to assure her that you really care in words and actions. But tell her that, you also know she still look out there and what is she looking for? It is important you let her know you know what she is doing.

Something you need to know, you are right. She is still shopping for the best guy and very open to jump ship. But the good thing is, you can become that best guy by being all she wants.

You will always have a weird feeling about her like something is wrong, and yes it it but she herself does not know because she is still hung up to her pasts. It will take long but as long as her heart hurts.



C

Do you know that intelligence can rub off? If you are very intelligent, she will pick up to. Though she may not solve physics but she will become very smart in life just by associating with so her not being intelligent is now an issue.

The issue with her is that, she is young and thus inexperienced. Every woman needs to see life and realize on her own that their is nothing else out there.

Has she been heartbroken once before? If no, along the line in the future after the kids she will always feel like you caged her and someday demand that freedom in actions or in words.

She seems easy now but will become the hardest due to emotional issues she will cause you. She is yet to discover herself fully.

If you are the controlling type, stay clear of her. Her calmness now is because she has not fully realized herself and with increasing intelligence, you will become an ideal specimen for her emotional experiments.

---

Make your choice, no one is perfect. They all come with baggages but stick with the person you can carry their baggages easily.

Men, you are a great guy, some info and some thoughts I didn't put in the initial write up, but you have intelligently deduced these insights.

I think i know what to do, it's just going to be difficult and hurtful. Guess getting advice from others will let me know if I am doing the right thing.

Thanks.