My dear NLders. Please your advice and guidance is needed once again. I lost a dear friend and colleague last Dec. He was involved in an accident with his wife (see previous link)https://www.nairaland.com/4914859/how-one-plan-funeral-close#74038218. Six months after the burial his family has refused to release the only child from the union to the young widow. All efforts to settle the matter within the family amounted to an exercise in futility. We have contacted the Min of women affairs in Benin but they haven't done anything yet. The lady who is yet to fully recover (bedridden) from the accident is really saddened by this development. Right now she has run out of ideas on where to seek help. Her current state of health isn't helping matters. Anyone with info on how to reunite mother and child kindly give your suggestions here.

PS. The child is only 2.

She's emotionally not stable with her thoughts and emotions.its a hard one seizing a child from the mother...it's devastating.

She should just focus on her healing process first...as na person wey dey alive de fight for pikin.i wonder why the child was taken away from her in the first place.

Get well soonest.

Thanks for the advice. I have been monitoring her recovery and her condition is stable now. Just her broken bones is what is left for her to heal which is why she can't move now only been assisted by family members. She has been patient since Jan and has run out of it now.

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OP let your friend focus on healing fully first before requesting for the child, you should take into consideration the fact that her husbands family too are also mourning and their only succour right now is that child with them..... So let them keep her for now please!!





And are both couples Edo?

Her health first, how will she take care of her child while battling with health issues even after 6 months of the accident,or else the family of the deceased aren't taking good care of that child, thats when there maybe cause for alarm, if not, be careful before they start suspecting you of trying to befriend your late friend wife.

Ksi.

Hope they are not holding her in any way responsible for the accident? Just as those above said, the best thing is for her to recover fully first then she can fight for her child. What of her family members?

The woman is bedridden and probably traumatized from the accident and somehow you want her to get custody of the child and carter for him or her?? The little child will only become a full time caretaker for the mom; he or she may have to drop out of school, bathe the mom, cook for her, wash her clothes, and provide wound care. The child will get burnt out and overwhelmed sooner or later. Let the child remain in the custody of the relatives until the mom's health improves.

Consult a law practitioner

First let her recover fully.
Then she can approach the presidency office of wife of the president..
Thereafter, she can approach the National Assembly to review laws on child custody..
And she can approach the Nigeria Police Force to help
Remember things are very hard under Buhari's useless APC government

I will be blunt.
How will a woman who can't take care of herself be demanding for child custody?
The best approach is through discussion and arrangement.

Don't waste your money yet on lawyers until she has fully recovered and doesn't require
assistance for her daily activities because no judge will award a child to an incapacitated mother.

The best she can get now is ask that the child be brought to her for a visit with the promise that
she won't try to snatch him/her on such visit.

ahnie:
She's emotionally not stable with her thoughts and emotions.its a hard one seizing a child from the mother...it's devastating.

She should just focus on her healing process first...as na person wey dey alive de fight for pikin.i wonder why the child was taken away from her in the first place.

Get well soonest.

Having that child with her will fasten her healing process.

She should get well first....

That is wickedness .
Mother and child need each other at this tough moment .

AS IT IS NOW, GOING TO COURT SEEMS D BEST SOLUTION...COS DAT WOMAN NEEDS HER CHILD TO FASTEN HER HEALING PROCESS!

Emergency!!! Sense is need here

Why share the pics

That's harsh

Is just like torturing her

Speedy recovery is all I wish her

She should please concentrate on her healing...when she is perfectly fine...everything will fall into place...and her baby will be reunited with her...

Why don't they (the family members) want to release the kid? if it's because of the mother's health status, then...



May God heal the her.

UjuJoan2:


Having that child with her will fasten her healing process.

Who will take care of the child?

The child belongs to the woman.They no dey debate that one. First she has to fully recover. If by any case the child is being maltreated or abused, Then it should. e reported the the child be moved away ASAP.


I wish her full recovery.

I think she should be more concern about walking...let her put her mind to rest as this shouldnt be an issue when shes up and doing...if alternative dispute resolution tactics failed then she can sue them and she sure will be awarded the kids custody but first let her heal..

This is really sad

AxxeMan:
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OP let your friend focus on healing fully first before requesting for the child, you should take into consideration the fact that her husbands family too are also mourning and their only succour right now is that child with them..... So let them keep her for now please!!





And are both couples Edo?

YES

Hmm... Is she bedridden at home or at the hospital?
The first step to healing is the mindset. Taking her child from her will make her suffer emotionally thereby delaying her healing process.
Involve the police and they will release her child to her but I hope she has made plans to take care of her child since she still needs someone to take care of her cos of her health.