Good evening NairaLanders....
I need y'all opinion on the best thing I can do.
So there's this girl am looking at tying the knot with very soon.
I met her around November last year through a friend and we started dating days after and prior to that she suffered heartbreak with a dude and it was a little bit complex cos she attempted to take her life when it happened and that resulted into her being hospitalized for days.
Considering the fact that I knew how nice she was to the ex boyfriend and how badly the dude treated her, I felt like showing her loads of love and care will result into me being pampered with so much care by her.
So here's the issue,
All her friends are the bitchy type, like girls who kinda depend on guys for everything and live above their means tho I feel like I can transform her as she once told me she can cut off every sort of ties with them if I want but I shrugged that off.
Am super nice to her but she gets to take advantage of that and take me for granted.
She lies so much like she once told me she's coming out from a mall whereas she was leaving a guy's house and when she later confessed she said she escorted a female friend there..
I don't see her to be someone who is trustworthy and I don't even trust her one bit
Her birthday was March and I got her gifts worth a lot of money but even with all that she still told me a guy who once asked her out months ago wanted to take her out for her birthday and she wanna request for permission tho I declined and she apologized for not even refusing the guy's offer.
And she once texted her ex without my knowledge and the dude said he can't wait for them to have romantic moment together and she smiled via an emoji, and even collected money from the dude secretly but she later blocked him off when I requested her to.
Quite a lot of bad things about her but I've never for once commit a crime or did something bad so far so good.
Am always the one telling her this is bad and stuffs like that and no one tells me to do the right thing before I do.
Worse of it all was her ex is the kinda guy that treats lady anyhow and to the best of my knowledge she can't dare to try this with him...
I don't know why me who is the nice and caring guy is going through all this.
And what's bothering me is I'll soon be going to Germany for my masters and I don't even trust her one bit cos she's done a lotta bad stuffs when we're still kinda in the same vicinity.
She's a finalist in a school in Ogun but based in Lagos and I stay in Lagos as well so it's some sort of long distance relationship.
Please NairaLanders just help me out in anyway you can on what to do cos I've not been myself lately and am so bothered about this issue.
Please kindly ignore the punctuation errors and grammars just typing with my phone

if love is blind, then marriage is an eye-opener.

The girl is called belle-face. She ain't got no brains no home training. Free her if you love peace of mind.

SUPERPACK:
if love is blind, then marriage is an eye-opener.

This girl can board an okada and end up in the okada man's bed that same moment. Lies is the worst of all. It wont stop...

Bro, you never meet the right woman for you...

Chuks9000:

This girl can board an okada and end up in the okada man's bed that same moment. Lies is the worst of all. It wont stop...

have u ever found out what made the former boyfriend to leave her? . Do nt marry her out of pity.

They truth is most girls don't like good and caring guys the prefer bad boys that will use them, break there heart and dump them, there's this program I watched on YouTube,, they guy was asking girls which guy do they prefer, good guy or bad boy,,
I was shocked that out 18 random girls he asked only 4 prefer good guys, the remaining 14 said bad boys.

kelvinboj:
Good evening NairaLanders....
I need y'all opinion on the best thing I can do.
So there's this girl am looking at tying the knot with very soon.
I met her around November last year through a friend and we started dating days after and prior to that she suffered heartbreak with a dude and it was a little bit complex cos she attempted to take her life when it happened and that resulted into her being hospitalized for days.
Considering the fact that I knew how nice she was to the ex boyfriend and how badly the dude treated her, I felt like showing her loads of love and care will result into me being pampered with so much care by her.
So here's the issue,
All her friends are the bitchy type, like girls who kinda depend on guys for everything and live above their means tho I feel like I can transform her as she once told me she can cut off every sort of ties with them if I want but I shrugged that off.
Am super nice to her but she gets to take advantage of that and take me for granted.
She lies so much like she once told me she's coming out from a mall whereas she was leaving a guy's house and when she later confessed she said she escorted a female friend there..
I don't see her to be someone who is trustworthy and I don't even trust her one bit
Her birthday was March and I got her gifts worth a lot of money but even with all that she still told me a guy who once asked her out months ago wanted to take her out for her birthday and she wanna request for permission tho I declined and she apologized for not even refusing the guy's offer.
And she once texted her ex without my knowledge and the dude said he can't wait for them to have romantic moment together and she smiled via an emoji, and even collected money from the dude secretly but she later blocked him off when I requested her to.
Quite a lot of bad things about her but I've never for once commit a crime or did something bad so far so good.
Am always the one telling her this is bad and stuffs like that and no one tells me to do the right thing before I do.
Worse of it all was her ex is the kinda guy that treats lady anyhow and to the best of my knowledge she can't dare to try this with him...
I don't know why me who is the nice and caring guy is going through all this.
And what's bothering me is I'll soon be going to Germany for my masters and I don't even trust her one bit cos she's done a lotta bad stuffs when we're still kinda in the same vicinity.
She's a finalist in a school in Ogun but based in Lagos and I stay in Lagos as well so it's some sort of long distance relationship.
Please NairaLanders just help me out in anyway you can on what to do cos I've not been myself lately and am so bothered about this issue.
Please kindly ignore the punctuation errors and grammars just typing with my phone

That ex part where she was hospitalized. It's emotional blackmail. She acted that way to magarized you. She is magarizing you emotionally, financially, mumuingly, lieingstically, ex-bangingly. My brother, the baggages are just too much. My brother, you will be surprised that she is still in touch with her ex that treated her badly. That tells you that, women are one of the confused beings on earth. Don't let them use their confusion to confuse your life and put your life at a standstill just like you are now. Please, have this mindset that your peace of mind isn't negotiated. If you can emblem this mindset strongly in your mind. Within two days, you will know what to do with her. You see, some women are meant for those Agberos, thugs, Nurtw ticketers, heavy smokers. Sadly, your girl belongs to one of them. If only you can change your lifestyle to that of a thug just like her ex, then you can handle her, otherwise, japaa!

Chuks9000:
The girl is called belle-face. She ain't got no brains no home training. Free her if you love peace of mind.

Bro you think I can't change her?

go pay her bride price and marry her legally before u travel, since u don't know how to discard a hood rat

carter009:
They truth is most girls don't like good and caring guys the prefer bad boys that will use them, break there heart and dump them, there's this program I watched on YouTube,, they guy was asking girls which guy do they prefer, good guy or bad boy,,
I was shocked that out 18 random girls he asked only 4 prefer good guys, the remaining 14 said bad boys.

What will I do to become bad then?
I just love her

SUPERPACK:
have u ever found out what made the former boyfriend to leave her? . Do nt marry her out of pity.

Dude just started cheating all of a sudden
and I think it's all happening outta pity cos o won't want her to hurt herself and stuffs like that.

kelvinboj:

What will I do to become bad then?
I just love her

Forget love and use your brain. Brain and love goes hand in hand. If you love without using your brain. You will be in trouble likewise if you use your brain to love which is magarizing the other person just like your girl is doing to you and not love the other person wholeheartedly, the other person is in trouble just like how you are in trouble now.

Kendumazy:


Forget love and use your brain. Brain and love goes hand in hand. If you love without using your brain. You will be in trouble likewise if you use your brain to love which is magarizing the other person just like your girl is doing to you and not love the other person wholeheartedly, the other person is in trouble just like how you are in trouble now.

I feel you bro
so am in trouble now lol.
thanks bro

Follow this moniker and read his threads.
https://www.nairaland.com/ubunja
Read this thread as well.
https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only

She will accept that ex when he comes back. Plus she didn’t attempt any fucking suicide. It’s a trap.

kelvinboj:

Bro you think I can't change her?

Probably why the ex left her. Are you Jesus? If she wanted to change, she would have done so.

P.s it's her type that will reconnect with their ex when married. Be wise.

FROGMAN101:
She will accept that ex when he comes back. Plus she didn’t attempt any fucking suicide. It’s a trap.

The op is simply a rebound.

kelvinboj:

Dude just started cheating all of a sudden
and I think it's all happening outta pity cos o won't want her to hurt herself and stuffs like that.

Simply threaten to break up with her, perhaps she'll change. Or you take it to God in prayers

Kendumazy:
Follow this moniker and read his threads.

https://www.nairaland.com/ubunja

Read this thread as well.

https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only

Noted Bro

FROGMAN101:
She will accept that ex when he comes back. Plus she didn’t attempt any fucking suicide. It’s a trap.

Actually bro she did drink poison or sth back then..
I got pissed off when I found out about the chats cos I was like this dude won't be texting you if you're dead.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Simply threaten to break up with her, perhaps she'll change. Or you take it to God in prayers

As regards this break up stuff...
anytime she makes a gross mistake we'll be close to break up and she'll promise to change
then commit another different offence then close to breaking up it's just a frustrating cycle
Tho we now have some sorta agreement if she messes up again am done....
just don't know if I should wait for that or if I should just break up now.

kelvinboj:
Good evening NairaLanders....
I need y'all opinion on the best thing I can do.
So there's this girl am looking at tying the knot with very soon.
I met her around November last year through a friend and we started dating days after and prior to that she suffered heartbreak with a dude and it was a little bit complex cos she attempted to take her life when it happened and that resulted into her being hospitalized for days.
Considering the fact that I knew how nice she was to the ex boyfriend and how badly the dude treated her, I felt like showing her loads of love and care will result into me being pampered with so much care by her.
So here's the issue,
All her friends are the bitchy type, like girls who kinda depend on guys for everything and live above their means tho I feel like I can transform her as she once told me she can cut off every sort of ties with them if I want but I shrugged that off.
Am super nice to her but she gets to take advantage of that and take me for granted.
She lies so much like she once told me she's coming out from a mall whereas she was leaving a guy's house and when she later confessed she said she escorted a female friend there..
I don't see her to be someone who is trustworthy and I don't even trust her one bit
Her birthday was March and I got her gifts worth a lot of money but even with all that she still told me a guy who once asked her out months ago wanted to take her out for her birthday and she wanna request for permission tho I declined and she apologized for not even refusing the guy's offer.
And she once texted her ex without my knowledge and the dude said he can't wait for them to have romantic moment together and she smiled via an emoji, and even collected money from the dude secretly but she later blocked him off when I requested her to.
Quite a lot of bad things about her but I've never for once commit a crime or did something bad so far so good.
Am always the one telling her this is bad and stuffs like that and no one tells me to do the right thing before I do.
Worse of it all was her ex is the kinda guy that treats lady anyhow and to the best of my knowledge she can't dare to try this with him...
I don't know why me who is the nice and caring guy is going through all this.
And what's bothering me is I'll soon be going to Germany for my masters and I don't even trust her one bit cos she's done a lotta bad stuffs when we're still kinda in the same vicinity.
She's a finalist in a school in Ogun but based in Lagos and I stay in Lagos as well so it's some sort of long distance relationship.
Please NairaLanders just help me out in anyway you can on what to do cos I've not been myself lately and am so bothered about this issue.
Please kindly ignore the punctuation errors and grammars just typing with my phone

What advice are you looking for? You want to enslave yourself with your two eyes wide open, and you are asking us to tell you how to do it or what. She doesn't give you peace of mind now where do you think it will come from if you marry her?

kelvinboj:

As regards this break up stuff...
anytime she makes a gross mistake we'll be close to break up and she'll promise to change
then commit another different offence then close to breaking up it's just a frustrating cycle
Tho we now have some sorta agreement if she messes up again am done....
just don't know if I should wait for that or if I should just break up now.

God is your strength.

kelvinboj:

Bro you think I can't change her?

Imagine trying to change Ozil to play like Messi.
What you are now is the effect of practiced values over 20 years. Same with her.
She has the worst traits of a human. No self control and a liar.
I think you are a very stoopeed person too to believe her when she says yes and her action says no.
Please marry her and endure whatever comes out of it abeg.

AwkaetitiBabe:
The op is simply a rebound.

Yuppp

carter009:
They truth is most girls don't like good and caring guys the prefer bad boys that will use them, break there heart and dump them, there's this program I watched on YouTube,, they guy was asking girls which guy do they prefer, good guy or bad boy,,
I was shocked that out 18 random girls he asked only 4 prefer good guys, the remaining 14 said bad boys.

eh mogbe na when girls go get sense ni tori olorun

kelvinboj:
What will I do to become bad then? I just love her

wetin mek you love her sey na her cheating lifestyle. cos I no understand you..

kelvinboj:

As regards this break up stuff...
anytime she makes a gross mistake we'll be close to break up and she'll promise to change
then commit another different offence then close to breaking up it's just a frustrating cycle
Tho we now have some sorta agreement if she messes up again am done....
just don't know if I should wait for that or if I should just break up now.

break up now or else the same story will be happening all the time...

kelvinboj:

As regards this break up stuff...
anytime she makes a gross mistake we'll be close to break up and she'll promise to change
then commit another different offence then close to breaking up it's just a frustrating cycle
Tho we now have some sorta agreement if she messes up again am done....
just don't know if I should wait for that or if I should just break up now.

Find your way out before you contact HIV.

Leave that olosho and face your future. You'll meet more beautiful, well read, organized, decent and responsible girls out there.

Why settle for less when you can have the best?


Use your brain.

I'd bitch slap you if you were my brother.....
And then beg you to leave the dunderhead alone!
You're way better off without her lying,scheming as$