Ujujoan:

Ouch Aisha, you make it sound like I'm anti men! That's not true oh, I love men veeery much. I just dont suffer f00ls gladly . .

spikedcylinder:

Hmmn. . . . I asked that question earlier because of a certain real life scenario and it goes thus:

A man is married to a woman who's older brother is super frigging wealthy. The brother gives the man a job, him and his wife live in a guest house owned and maintained by the brother and he drives a car given to them by the brother as a wedding present. Dude's balls have been sold for real.
So when the man and his wife have arguments, he dares not talk back at his wife. So bad, sometimes when they argue, he attempts to storm out of the house and drive off to a quiet place. For where? The wife will come downstairs and ask her husband to give her the car keys, after all it is rightfully hers. She does this in front of several domestic and security staff and the story spreads. I mean, the best part of an argument is storming off or slamming doors ([size=1pt]sharap, if you're reading[/size] ) and he cannot even do that because he has no balls.
If I pull that kind of stunt with money and car and what nots, a certain man I know will leave my arse and tell me to eat my stuff. Men are ruled by their egos, their pride and I find it hard to believe there are some that really don't have any.
Bottom line is, it's not just money and stuff that makes a woman respect her man. The man's carriage, attitude, penchant for bringing you to your knees without even saying a word is the kind of thing that will make you not dare open your mouth to abuse or insult your husband. I know we like to say money this, money that but you'd be surprised to know that men with regular income still get emotionally and physically abused by their women.

Phew!

MKDON:

@ujujoan,

i dnt marry  in2 a rich family. my family's more organizd d my inlaws. we r wealthier n more com4table even though a member of dr family may hv done "job" n got som mony, he still borrows from me even if he has given som unsolicited gifts 2 us whc they know i cn afford. m conservativ by nature n realistic. in fact i got her d bank job tru a strong contact i hd som yrs bak.

she's stubborn naturally, i noticd bak in skool bt managd cos i tryd 2 groom her. bt she ws hardly rude 2 me cos i calld d shots then. i ws a hussler in skool despite my family cld mk me vry comfortable even provid me a car if i wanted.

m jst tryin 2 get a nanny dt cn tk kia of my kids, 1ce dt is done, shd wd hv 2 leave. we both get violent somtyms, n dnt wnt sch anymore b4 i wd b chgd 4 murder or manslaughter. let her stay on her own.

1 of her elder sista is always complainin 2 her pastor dt she's nt subsevient to me 4rm her observation n d sista feel m a good guy given wt she feels i posses as potentials includin physical appearance. in my reccess, i still contribute over 30% for hse upkeep, pd d rent n ova 60% of d chldrn's skool fees.my period of intense recess ws jst abt 70days.

i find it difficult 2 confide in her cos of her attitude. wn i travld 2 abj on official dty, i obtained d paper docs of a piece of land i bot in apo abj in 2008.i scand d doc n sent to her box b4 boardin a plane bak to lag, n told her i gt d land tru my broda,so shd d plane crash, she cd use d doc to pursue possession of d land.her rxn ws dt i bot it in my name so she gt nothg 2 do wt it. all docs i hv, she's d nxt of kin n she knows.

meeen she's gt 2 stay away 4rm me. my7 4tunes ain't completely bad. jst gt admitted 4 Msc in unilag, my bus on hire pchase is payin gradualy. i cut d family off 4rm inquiring plans i mk 2 run my hom, dey rnt doin beta dn me.

hv always told her, if u wnt a rat 4rm me, ask nicely wt luv n i cd provid u d head of an elephant  even wn i cnt afford it, u do not hv to b confrontational. a couple of times, hv bn tempted 2 go screw out, bt m nt in d mood n i cn afford it if i wnt to, i hv vry willin partys. she's nt finer dn me. ps advise her

MY MESSAGE 2 LADYS IN D HOUSE, PS DO NOT B CONFRONTATIONAL 2 U HUSBANDS N DNT ACT LIK U R EQUAL 2 WATEVA HE'S CAPABLE OF

Ujujoan:

@ Spykey

In that çase I blame the man. He sold his birthright for a pot of porridge and the women decided to capitalize on that!

Most men think their ticket out of poverty is by landing and marrying rich girls . . They end up selling their pride in the process. So sad!

OAM4J:

I will NEVER agree to marry under those circumstances in the 1st place and if challenges/fate puts me there, I'll rather live under the bridge than allow someone mortgage my voice, will and pride.

Of course. I no get money na.

spikedcylinder:

Of course. I no get money na.

OAM4J:

I know nao. that's why you are my babe , so each time i give you $$$$ to miscalculate without any stress you 'll continue to respect me and unable to abuse or insult me.

Just bring 14k first.

MRbrownJAY:

@spikey
what good is it for a man to gain wealth but lose his damn self-respect and be treated like a mop?!
you know that the man in your story has no guts because he would have left on foot if he really meant what he was saying rather than staying put as soon as the wifey snatched the car from him.

its their only ticket out alright. . . . . . . . . . .out of the frying pan and into the fire!

You are absolutely right.
Funny, the guy sees nothing wrong with the situation. As long as he gets to be called a 'big man', he's fine with it.

Ujujoan:

Well he should suck it up and pray for better times!

spikedcylinder:

Just bring 14k first.

Ujujoan:

@ OAM4J
Were you ever in doubt of my love for men?

chaircover:

OAM4ROMEO you are truly biting off more than you can chew. Hope you have as much action as you claim cos . . . . . . .

chaircover:


@poster women do not like weak men. I repeat do not like weak men.

Did I just say that? emmmmm ok let me rephrase. Women like men who treat then well, men in touch with their feelings, romantic men and all that but men have to be able to multitask from being all lovey dovey one minute to being firm and assertive as of when required whether or not the woman is feeding the man and his dog. He is still the man.

@poster you have to re-establish your authority.

Stop eating her food, refuse to touch her and spend as much time outside of the house. Do not get into petty arguments with her and do NOT drive that car. Sir please do not have an affair o! mi o ran e de ibe yen o! respond to her in mono syllables or very short sentences. Initially she will shout and try and cause trouble but just ignore her. After a while she will begin to calm down and try to make peace. At that point tell her as it is without mincing your words.

Wumine:

Sorry bro! But you know for a change ,

OAM4J:

Relax! As soon as you say 'I do' or if my doctor confirms you are pregnant (whichever comes first), you will have full access to my treasury and free to spend/miscalculate as much as you want 

I have done since na. Wetin remain again? See your head like Baba No regret own.

chaircover:

@poster women do not like weak men. I repeat do not like weak men.

Did I just say that? emmmmm ok let me rephrase. Women like men who treat then well, men in touch with their feelings, romantic men and all that but men have to be able to multitask from being all lovey dovey one minute to being firm and assertive as of when required whether or not the woman is feeding the man and his dog. He is still the man.

@poster you have to re-establish your authority.

Stop eating her food, refuse to touch her and spend as much time outside of the house. Do not get into petty arguments with her and do NOT drive that car. Sir please do not have an affair o! mi o ran e de ibe yen o! respond to her in mono syllables or very short sentences. Initially she will shout and try and cause trouble but just ignore her. After a while she will begin to calm down and try to make peace. At that point tell her as it is without mincing your words.

I agree 100% with the first part of your post.
The second part however, can backfire. You have not met some ogbologbo kainwain women. They will scream the roof down. Women that have the energy of a thousand demons. The kind of man that is the OP will eventually be the one begging her by the time she has started with her tantrums. You never jam.

Odunnu:

Ths your siggy na die Oga Kadman

OAM4J:


Somehow yes. I guess it was d  impression I got of you when I newly join NL, then you, ebony and I think Toniaslim were always hard on guys posts/comments. Also, I think I have read some posts in which you've been accused of being a feminist and a misandrist. But I got it now; you are only less tolerant of weak and poor men but have high regards for hard and rich men like me. 

chaircover:

OAM4ROMEO you are truly biting off more than you can chew. Hope you have as much action as you claim cos . . . . . . .

anyway back to the topic;

@poster women do not like weak men. I repeat do not like weak men.

Did I just say that? emmmmm ok let me rephrase. Women like men who treat then well, men in touch with their feelings, romantic men and all that but men have to be able to multitask from being all lovey dovey one minute to being firm and assertive as of when required whether or not the woman is feeding the man and his dog. He is still the man.

@poster you have to re-establish your authority.

Stop eating her food, refuse to touch her and spend as much time outside of the house. Do not get into petty arguments with her and do NOT drive that car. Sir please do not have an affair o! mi o ran e de ibe yen o! respond to her in mono syllables or very short sentences. Initially she will shout and try and cause trouble but just ignore her. After a while she will begin to calm down and try to make peace. At that point tell her as it is without mincing your words.

spikedcylinder:

I agree 100% with the first part of your post.
The second part however, can backfire. You have not met some ogbologbo kainwain women. They will scream the roof down. Women that have the energy of a thousand demons. The kind of man that is the OP will eventually be the one begging her by the time she has started with her tantrums. You never jam.

chaircover:

Back to topic jare. You are right, there are some correct omo alata women who will give the man a run for his money and for each night he refuses to touch them she tears one of his TM Shirts and for each time he refuses her food she scratches him with an oyo tribal mark on his face.

The TV gets thrown off the balcony of the first floor and the AC is torn from the wall and thrown on top of the *&*^%^$$$ car! 

But thank God that these types of women are an endangered specie like the giant panda so not many of them are walking around. Hopefully the poster isnt married to one and with a battle of wits he will win this one.

spikedcylinder:

I have done since na. Wetin remain again? See your head like Baba No regret own.

chaircover:

@Spikey you and OAM4ROMEO sef. na lof wantin tin. oga o. I am jealous especially as a whole 14k to miscalculate is involved.

Let me see, $14k is £8k, hmmm that can pay for a holiday in Dubai, buy a Fiat Punto to go to market with, buy a few designer handbags and so on. And see me here drooling and fainting over a certain mr Vicker when OAM4MONEYMISSROAD has 14k to throw about

chaircover:

@Spikey you and OAM4ROMEO sef. na lof wantin tin. oga o. I am jealous especially as a whole 14k to miscalculate is involved.

Let me see, $14k is £8k, hmmm that can pay for a holiday in Dubai, buy a Fiat Punto to go to market with, buy a few designer handbags and so on. And see me here drooling and fainting over a certain mr Vicker when OAM4MONEYMISSROAD has 14k to throw about

Back to topic jare. You are right, there are some correct omo alata women who will give the man a run for his money and for each night he refuses to touch them she tears one of his TM Shirts and for each time he refuses her food she scratches him with an oyo tribal mark on his face.

The TV gets thrown off the balcony of the first floor and the AC is torn from the wall and thrown on top of the *&*^%^$$$ car! 

But thank God that these types of women are an endangered specie like the giant panda so not many of them are walking around. Hopefully the poster isnt married to one and with a battle of wits he will win this one.

Lol!!!! You're not serious. Don't be jealous my friend!

You think those kind of women are a rare phenomenon eh? Lol. You are naive o. That is all I shall say.

netotse:

because y'all are women y'all tend to believe y'all are the ultimate. . .there are also ogbologbo kainwain men too, make she scream the roof down or manifest whatever type of spirits she wants to manifest, the guy wont be moved. . .make she hold your shirt, you'll remove it and walk calmly away. . .when you know all she wants you to do is lose your temper why do you have to give her what she wants? two can play any game
and there are also men that can watch her do all that and not move a muscle and you know something? they aren't as endangered a species as the alata women. All it takes is a man that realizes that she wants a reaction and is determined not to give her one, he might be crying inside but what the heck? we're used to bottling our emotions(heck if there was a drink called he-motions it'd trump coca cola hands down )

that said, the shirt-tearing thing scares me, do you actually know someone like that? IMO it's more scary than the tribal mark or TV thingy, those are peaks. . .but tearing a shirt every night he refuses to touch her? that's the kind of woman nightmares are mad of.

OAM4J:

Where and When? abeg show me the Certificate asap, else you'll have to say it again ending with 'till death do us part' and all NLders will be our witnesses and we can engage CC to supply all the wedding stuffs.


The World health Organisation - WHO has warned that Jealousness is not good for one's health

anyways thanks for the recommendations on how my babe can properly miscalculate my money, Spikey pls take note.

Oya, bring in an officiating priest and I shall, I do and I will.

spikedcylinder:

Oya, bring in an officiating priest and I shall, I do and I will.

spikedcylinder:

Where the priest na? Make sure he has a bible in one hand and $14k in the other o.

Ujujoan:

Did I hear $14k

jennykadry:

LOL So if a gurl says she wants a very comfortable man, she has become a gold digger eh kwa?

Please, i wasnt born to suffer. Thanks but no thanks