Phenomenal16:
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He has probably read one of Joe Clef's books. Reduce your love if you want him back to his loving senses. Whoever invests more emotions in a relationship cries more.

carter009:
Wow so they only way is to block and delete his boyfriend, seriously your so mean and hardened and believe me, is not good for a lady.

Lol, so I should continue allowing someone to stress me out? Trust me, I'm far from being hardened & mean. In fact, I'm quite the opposite. I'm a very sensitive person & things like this hurt me so much. So when I've had enough of hurting, I do the needful, so I can have some semblance of normalcy back in my life.

Phenomenal16:
I met this young man sometime ago...OK we av been together for few months now.......
I recently noticed he doesn't call often or he will say he's busy only for him not to call later.....
I feel he doesn't value the relationship again like before.....though he was talking about marriage.
And this is a guy I av come to love with my whole heart, he don't av money and I don't demand even though am a student with out any means of income

I haven't experienced heart break..... I don't want to believe what am thinking.
This thing called love is really weird......u love with all ur heart ,is as if the person doesn't appreciate u enough.
And most ppl I don't love keeps on disturbing me.....
Should I keep on Calling him?... Or should I wait for him to call me .forgive my typo

I perceive an insecure young lady with trust issues, put yourself together play your own part and he will play his own part

catwalq:
No one is 'that busy'. Stop calling him too. If he notices, fine but if he doesn't, garb yourself with dignity and move on.

Its gonna sting a lil though,but you'll be fine. You is a beautiful chick,always know that.

You know nothing about love, so just because a guy stops calling you as often as he first did the only option is to cut off from the relationship, ? who knows the poor guy might be depressed or passing through some moody times, he just can't open up to his girlfriend cause he doesn't want to sound weak and hopeless
People pass through some mood swings time to time, find out what's really happening before cutting someone off completely

Phenomenal16:
....man of God.... That's what he do
He called me on Sunday afternoon
He called me on Monday....then he will promise ...he won't return.. Then he will say he's not around ......
I understand he's a kind of busy lately....
I think I shld give him space....what do u think?

Give him the gift of missing you.

If someone doesn't hear from you in 7 days, and the person is not worried, you got a problem.

Usually if they feel for you they will reach out on or by the 14th day, if they don't you aren't that important

If the person really loves you and he doesn't hear from you, by the 21st day, they will literally suspend everything and attempt to track you down, if they don't, you are in a relationship with yourself

If they do, set your terms to continue in the relationship, or walk out

my dear OP plenty men are ready to love you and do anything for you why have sleepless nite over one piece of dick ? he eventually not into you anymore hence the silent treatment .give other guys a chance and stop playing with your heart ,

jimyjames:


You know nothing about love, so just because a guy stops calling you as often as he first did the only option is to cut off from the relationship, ? who knows the poor guy might be depressed or passing through some moody times, he just can't open up to his girlfriend cause he doesn't want to sound weak and hopeless
People pass through some mood swings time to time, find out what's really happening before cutting someone off completely

You may be right that I know nothing about love,but I know people make time for what is important to them. I repeat, no one is that busy...

FEGEITOK:



Give him the gift of missing you.

If someone doesn't hear from you in 7 days, and the person is not worried, you got a problem.

Usually if they feel for you they will reach out on or by the 14th day, if they don't you aren't that important

If the person really loves you and he doesn't hear from you, by the 21st day, they will literally suspend everything and attempt to track you down, if they don't, you are in a relationship with yourself

If they do, set your terms to continue in the relationship, or walk out

...u r a Darling

catwalq:


You may be right that I know nothing about love,but I know people make time for what is important to them. I repeat, no one is that busy...

1)Not calling as often as he used to due to him being busy is understandable, (b) you can be too busy not to call as often as you used to

2) not calling at all cause his busy is unacceptable (b) you can't be too busy not to call at all

lol pele

jimyjames:


1)Not calling as often as he used to due to him being busy is understandable, (b) you can be too busy not to call as often as you used to

2) not calling at all cause his busy is unacceptable (b) you can't be too busy not to call at all

So he wasn't busy at first,then boom,uncle is now too busy to make or take calls

I don't know what love is but I'm sure communication and keeping in touch are involved

You know what to do now, so just do it.

catwalq:


So he wasn't busy at first,then boom,uncle is now too busy to make or take calls

I don't know what love is but I'm sure communication and keeping in touch are involved

He wasn't that busy at first, then boom, uncle is now too busy to call as often as he used to


Yes you don't know what love is, love is not a bed of Roses and no human is perfect you can't just cut off from someone and walk away cause the person no longer calls as often as he or she used to

jimyjames:



He wasn't that busy at first, then boom, uncle is now too busy to call as often as he used to


Yes you don't know what love is, love is not a bed of Roses and no human is perfect you can't just cut off from someone and walk away cause the person no longer calls as often as he or she used to

Life itself is not a bed of roses,that's public knowledge. But how can you claim to love someone and not be able to spare let's say ten minutes outta twenty fours evenly spread throughout the day keeping in touch?
Even a text can suffice and it doesn't even take that long.

Anywayz,different strokes for different folks. Like we both agreed earlier, I know nothing about love.

catwalq:


Life itself is not a bed of roses,that's public knowledge. But how can you claim to love someone and not be able to spare let's say ten minutes outta twenty fours evenly spread throughout the day keeping in touch?
Even a text can suffice and it doesn't even take that long.

Anywayz,different strokes for different folks. Like we both agreed earlier, I know nothing about love.

You don't have to call someone you love everyday or feel entitiled to be called back everyday, to prove you love that person, that's obsession, obsession leads to insecurity / trust issues ,

jimyjames:



You don't have to call someone you love everyday or feel entitiled to be called back everyday, to prove you love that person, that's obsession, obsession leads to insecurity / trust issues ,

Most times when we feel something is wrong,it usually is. Its been happening for awhile, even enough to cause her worry.

catwalq:


Most times when we feel something is wrong,it usually is. Its been happening for awhile, even enough to cause her worry.

Can I ask you a question? Are you 100% the same all the time? Do you do same thing over and over again everyday without doing it differently sometimes? Humans are not machines that are programed to repeatedly do things the same way over and over again,
Humans have feeling they got emotions,they have bad times, good times, sad moods happy moods, don't expect to date someone for months the person will behave 100% , I personally don't call or pick calls from anyone if am moody

jimyjames:


Can I ask you a question? Are you 100% the same all the time? Do you do same thing over and over again everyday without doing it differently sometimes? Humans are not machines that are programed to repeatedly do things the same way over and over again,
Humans have feeling they got emotions,they have bad times, good times, sad moods happy moods, don't expect to date someone for months the person will behave 100% , I personally don't call or pick calls from anyone if am moody

Yes,I like routine. Why change it if it works? He was calling her frequently at first,and stopped. Why start with frequent calls and drop it halfway?

Worthy of note however, is the fact that I'm talking based on my assessment of her side of the story. Surely I'm entitled to my opinion and way of life eh

catwalq:


Yes,I like routine. Why change it if it works? He was calling her frequently at first,and stopped. Why start with frequent calls and drop it halfway?

Worthy of note however, is the fact that I'm talking based on my assessment of her side of the story. Surely I'm entitled to my opinion and way of life eh

You like routine, fine the question is can you do it constantly without having a break down from time to time no, why cause you are human you are not 100% at all time , do you laugh when you are supposed to cry? Do you get excited with joy when you are supposed to be sad? Do you feel healthy when you are sick? Don't pretend to be happy calling someone you love everyday, when deep down you feel like not doing it everyday

jimyjames:


You like routine, fine the question is can you do it constantly without having a break down from time to time no, why cause you are human you are not 100% at all time , do you laugh when you are supposed to cry? Do you get excited with joy when you are supposed to be sad? Do you feel healthy when you are sick? Don't pretend to be happy calling someone you love everyday, when deep down you feel like not doing it everyday

Love is more than our mushy feelings, its a commitment that has to be fed regardless of how we feel. If they had started with infrequent calls and space that would have been understandable - well at least to me - because that would be the status quo.

People make time for what is important to them. Grill me all you want

catwalq:


Love is more than our mushy feelings, its a commitment that has to be fed regardless of how we feel. If they had started with infrequent calls and space that would have been understandable - well at least to me - because that would be the status quo.

People make time for what is important to them. Grill me all you want

Very well it's more than our mushy feelings, it has to pass through a lot of stages adjustments compatibility matches disagreement agreement bad times good times moody times happy times etc to shape it to one beautiful piece, every relationship pass through it

catwalq:


You may be right that I know nothing about love,but I know people make time for what is important to them. I repeat, no one is that busy...

Very Tru. wen sm1 stats say am busy, Just know d person hz lost interest in dt relationship. U can't be bizy all d tym to create tym for pple dear to u esp a budding loving relationship.

Na my ex usual language be dat ND I trusted her dt truly she was bizy not knowing dt she was dating sm1 else.

Wen u hear "I am bizy" brk out of dt deceit ND leave d relationship.

Very true

madone:
don't keep bon calling him dearest.face ur book and don't let some indecisive guy to distract ur mind .if. are not in a rush to get married. Pls I will even advice u not to be in any rush.just live ur life don't follow anyone u do t like becos u want to fill in the space . Also I do love u to know that heart break is not a death sentence if it comes u will definitely over come it. Need I also say to u that u are the kind of girl many of us guy at looking for so I won't even be surprised many guys are after u already keep a open mind there at so many great guys out there .you are just too precious to be running after a guy who forgets to call or too busy to call .it simply means u are not first on his list.

gerizzim:


Very Tru. wen sm1 stats say am busy, Just know d person hz lost interest in dt relationship. U can't be bizy all d tym to create tym for pple dear to u esp a budding loving relationship.

Na my ex usual language be dat ND I trusted her dt truly she was bizy not knowing dt she was dating sm1 else.

Wen u hear "I am bizy" brk out of dt deceit ND leave d relationship.

My sentiment exactly.

jimyjames:


Very well it's more than our mushy feelings, it has to pass through a lot of stages adjustments compatibility matches disagreement agreement bad times good times moody times happy times etc to shape it to one beautiful piece, every relationship pass through it

A common ground finally..
It was great engaging you.

blissgregory:
Very true

Happy birthday

Tank u so much

generationz:

Happy birthday

catwalq:


A common ground finally..
It was great engaging you.

Am glad you now realize the solution is not cutting off completely from the the relationship like you advised initially

Thank you

you are pretty

dapo456:
you are pretty

Pretty or petty?

dapo456:
you are pretty

...thanks dear

FEGEITOK:


Pretty or petty?

...I ain't petty.. Am actually a kind of thick