If your romantic relationship isn't a platform where you can strip yourself of your ego and be vulnerable to the deepest then it's not ideal. I mean, intimacy means divulging everything about you, the freedom and liberty to be open, sincere, and real in a relationship is priceless.

...You'd not have to fake nothing.
...You'd have the confidence to tell your girl that you have a flat bank account and totally broke.
...You'd have the boldness to tell her you haven't eaten since morning because things ain't fluffy. Now there's fulfilment in this kind of relationship.

I find it highly ridiculous that some guys, even ladies lie to keep up a huge perception of themselves before their lovers. If you can't be open to your lover, who else will you be able to loosen up for?
Why even date them?

A bloke I know cannot tell his girlfriend that he's broke, a lady I know cannot tell her boyfriend that she doesn't have money to get her pads, why? Because they feel it's weird and it'd bring down their worth...
Listen, your true worth to someone who truly loves you will be your inner essence, your very personality, your values, not the things you have, and not a flamboyant perception of you.

Sadly these folks empower their partners to love them for wrong reasons. If you always avoid telling your woman you are broke, therefore putting up a financially capable image, most likely she's loving an unreal you. She's loving someone you are pretending to be. Why not be real and discover if you're truly loved?

You cannot find real love or build a real and deep relationship if you ain't real. You don't need much from a partner, you need someone who'll be okay with your realness; that you have just a pair of trouser, sleep on a mat, don't know how to use cutlery, haven't flown a plane. I mean all you need is one person who will accept your ‘naked’ self.

...Yourself without high public perception, yourself without ego and anything to hide. This is the beauty of a relationship. Even with all these, they still treasure you like gold.
Done abortion?
Had a messy past?
Tell ‘em who say they love you, it'll help verify their love.

When you paint a perfect and all sweet picture about you, any love and acceptance you get is FAKE because you ain't being real either...
Open up, be vulnerable. True love will accept the entirety of you. It's difficult but you see true love isn't so common..

Summary, you don't need someone who you're gonna struggle being real with... You need someone who'll deal with the REAL you, leaving you with the comfort to be more real.

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u right,but truly i have given up on Nigerian girls,most sees relationship as one of the ways to pay their bills


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sanity12:
u right,but truly i have given up on Nigerian girls, most sees relationship as one of the ways to pay their bills

All is well

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Aptly put. But then to find that true love you're preaching, one will have to go through series of heartbreaks and disappointment before he can luckily find such. Naija girls no too send sincere guys even tho they say they need sincere guys (irony) and naija guys no too send ladies who will tell them they need little money for pad or little stuffs, if not they'll term them gold diggers, prostitute and lazy. So you see, it's not easy as you term it to be.

And how many nowadays naija girls can you tell you're broke and they won't start giving you attitude or looking to opt out of the relationship? Relatively few I would say.

Jodera:
Aptly put. But then to find that true love you're preaching, one will have to go through series of heartbreaks and disappointment before he can luckily find such. Naija girls no too send sincere guys even tho they say they need sincere guys (irony) and naija guys no too send ladies who will tell them they need little money for pad or little stuffs, if not they'll term them gold diggers, prostitute and lazy. So you see, it's not easy as you term it to be.

And how many nowadays naija girls can you tell you're broke and they won't start giving you attitude or looking to opt out of the relationship? Relatively few I would say.

True, so double your hustle

SteveOfu:
True, so double your hustle

Yeah. But we are not talking about doubling hustle here na .
We are talking about "unclothedness" to/with your partner. Actually, for me, I think for a relationship to work it have to be 97% truth and 3% fib. Not everyone can handle the truth. So it's better you leave some things unsaid than sorry

SteveOfu:
True, so double your hustle

You just went against the message you're passing across

hmmmmmmmmmm

Jodera:
Yeah. But we are not talking about doubling hustle here na .
We are talking about "unclothedness" to/with your partner. Actually, for me, I think for a relationship to work it have to be 97% truth and 3% fib. Not everyone can handle the truth. So it's better you leave some things unsaid than sorry

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