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Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Countersam(m): 1:27pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: Leave all the long grammar...simply put she is a "Keziah". By the way, why do you still call her your fiancee? Save what's left of your reputation bro. We don't do brain transplant in Nairaland if that's what you are looking for!
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Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by livebyday(m): 1:31pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: Sorry for coming late 1. about her being soft , she will never change not because there's something wrong with her but because people can't change ...and no one can change anyone. She has always been easy to guys and if you try to really.change this it will cause issues 2 well.about marrying her .. you can't change people or expect them to change that's unfair. If you can live and accept them as they are then that's fine , if not move on. Be sure you can accept what the future holds 3..theres no guarantee, but there is also a law that states you can't make ladies with a certain past a house wife..there is a reason such advise exists 3 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Pafoma: 1:31pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Jola58: Thank you |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by taf4u4me(m): 1:33pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma:she's a LovePeddler... Run for your life...never afraid starting afresh..stop being a pessimist...getting another partner could be a blessing trust me |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Tboy1419: 1:36pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:. Sorry oo, madam, who broke your heart like this, your anger is terrible. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by livebyday(m): 1:36pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
[s] Vyolet:[/s] Do not speak for men again. I know two men who married retired sex workers And both marriages ended badly!!! There is a reason it is said never make such ladies a house wife If you don't know enough about something don't speak about it 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 1:37pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Vyolet: That girl is not his woman... She is not a woman sef talkless of op's woman.. Why should a guy be encouraged to cope with bad qualities all the time?? Men deserves peace of mind and respect... The lady should be the one bending to Op's wish and not the other way round.. Op, is that the woman whom you want to pay her bride price, that every member of your family will ask for her hand?? I don't think so!!! You want to marry big trouble. . Leave that girl for rugged guys who can handle her likes.. You no fit.. Go for something better. Don't waste your money and love!!! |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by livebyday(m): 1:40pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Women like you give me hope that some Nigerian women indeed think normally Your beauty radiates from your mind Your comment is the best here What we have is a case of a very low self esteem man who is unfit for marriage and an addict to self.hurt .. about to marry an easy flavor of the week lady and this gives us a recipe for disaster Leave them and enjoy your peace |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by TemmyT002(m): 1:40pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
tojahh: But almost every man should be thinking the same way since not every man will meet his wife as a virgin. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by sowilli: 1:42pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica:sex is small.... very small. Sex cannot be compared to money. Sex is important, money is important but they do not solve the same purpose. See relationship struggles are not what sex can solve. Will you start bothering about who and who your partner has slept with. See as long as you didn’t marry a Virgin, don’t make this your business. A woman who has slept with 5 men in her life time and these men are your friends and a woman who has slept with 500 men, which would you choose? See we are in the other person’s life to make them better. As log as the individual is remorseful and ready to grow, don’t bother about it. Would you be happy having sex with a nagging wife or girl friend, for me it’s a No. you see why I said sex is a small part. Ask couples who are not happy in their relationship if sex is a major reason. 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by TemmyT002(m): 1:42pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
The fact that you are asking for advice here means you have deep reservations. If you truly love her, go ahead and make effort not to think about her past life. If you still have reservations and are still always thinking about her past, it is better you tell her and part amicably. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by nedzuby: 1:44pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls: Haba! Not nice na, cheer the guy up and not kill his spirit ..,��� |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 1:45pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
great664:You soound like a virtous wife.. Your fiancee is the bad nigga here!! Continue nursing her unfaithfulness.... And, you will pay bride price on top OP, how old are you..?? I am sure you are not 40... Why are you so desperate?? |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by livebyday(m): 1:46pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
[s] Pafoma:[/s] Like the other lady said, you are extremely classless and suffer from chronic low self esteem, because there is no reason you would have dated seriously a lady who was passed around . You sound mentally unstable and broken like a man-boy. you don't know what love is not should you be trusted to lead a home in marriage as you are too immature to make serious decisions. She is also a very low level easy flavor of the week girl hence a gutter trout on the same level as you.. Unfortunately it's a recipe for disaster.. your marriage won't last it would crash , I would boldly say 6 months in. you are so immature it's sickening. It's your type that married retired sex workers thinking they can turn them into nuns with marriage .. Cheers |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by tojahh(m): 1:46pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
TemmyT002: Its a different thing if you don't know those she'd slept with, not when I and my friend will be discussing next thing you hear Oboy that your wife breezZzz no be here o. That day as I dey fayam use one hand dey press the breezz na so she dey whine waist, small thing make I cum for her mouth. The above self will not only cause low libido but insanity and depression. Best thing is to let the girl go! 2 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by TemmyT002(m): 1:48pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
tojahh: Hahahaha I get your point. But na love be the koko sha |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by MNDY(m): 1:49pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: In my uni days, this coursemate girl liked me and got close and we became friends. I would want to marry her because she is doing very well for herself now and can even make me excel with her connects and all but NO. She stays abroad now and we both would want to settle but again NO. I won't let that happen. Why? We like each other a lot. She likes me very well (I was/am actually a hot cake), I like her because she is fun to be with too. But she is soft on guys, keeps many male friends (they'll say they like male friends more). Despite the fact that she is a Feminist which I don't like and can be very annoying at times, I still like her a lot and wished we could marry. But let me even take you back to my uni days again when we rolled. A dude (also a hot cake too) formed familiarity with me and forced friendship. The guy enjoys showing off that he is a ladies' man and this girl was getting familiar with him too much to annoy me and make me struggle to get her somewhat. I did not let it bother me. Many girls even better than her wanted to get close to me but she blocked them when I was not even officially dating her. But I was p.issed with my guy and almost terminated our friendship not necessarily because he wants to snatch my girl whatsoever but because of his general stupid attitude of always wanting to show that he is a ladies' man which people complained a lot about too. Dude even had to tell me to my face one day that he is so hot that my girl was coming to him. Women are easily manipulated and you are never guaranteed that a human has or can change(d) (talkless of a woman). Only a naturally default good woman can you bet on, some people (women) are naturally created not to do some things or do some things. Some can change later o, some with very very tight conditions before they can bend and some others have it innate and so established in their nature that they can't compromise no matter what. She stays abroad there now. We were so close people thought we were dating but we were not and not even all her achievements can make me want to marry her. Why? I love peace of mind a lot. I can go any lenght to get peace of mind. She is soft on guys and people like your girl and no be ordinary word of mouth can make me believe she has changed. Like me, continue searching for a default naturally good woman, there are good women out there. Nobody is perfect but there are some flaws one can tolerate and others one can't tolerate. Don't toy with this particular flaw related with promiscuity in marriage, I can categorically say that it is nearly impossible to work on it. Miracles happen and even prostitutes can become clean but such miracles are rare and you can never be too careful bearing in mind that sex is very powerful. 6 Likes |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by ishmaelistic: 1:50pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
If you are so disturbed in your spirit about her past, you better stop the relationship. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. You can just be her friend but marrying her when your state of mind is still not at rest is the worst decision to be taken. I am advising you as a marriage man. Thank you brother. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by fabienjoe: 1:57pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: My God! How on Earth is this an advice? |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by MNDY(m): 1:57pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Yinibixema: Some people say the Law is flawed. What do you think? I know it concerns banging an ex and all. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Davesaves(m): 2:03pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
mysticgal:my dear, okafor's law is very valid.. i'm a witness.. that law has helped me a lot. so don't say what u don't know |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 2:05pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Lothlorien:Op should pay for this advice... It is priceless tho |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 2:06pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma:This is a serious matter. Why joke about it? Anyway, down to some serious advice: 1. Seriously consider not inviting any of these guys to the wedding, as they may want to show themselves. It might be better that they are disappointed you and your bride didn't invite them than that they come and show themselves and embarrass you two. I do think know 2. If it isn't possible not to invite them, let your bride not wear cleavage baring wedding gown on that day. Reason being that your friends have probably not changed and may use the bride and groom dance session to spray money up your bride's ch**t and stylishly touch her there 'for the last time'. The one that happened a few years ago, it was DJ that stopped the music just in time before the whole thing popped out... Finally, I suspect you love her, so I won't say don't marry her. What I would say is, if you decide to go ahead, prepare to move to a new city to start afresh if your friends don't change. Hope this helps. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by babyfaceafrica: 2:07pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
sowilli:A woman who has slept with 5 men in her life time and these men are your friends and a woman who has slept with 500 men, which would you choose? I am sorry,I can't marry a lady that has slept with my friend..thanks |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by babyfaceafrica: 2:10pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
MNDY:t here is an exception to eat every law does not make the law invalid |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by alphaNomega: 2:11pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma: You should pay attention to crackhaus. I am even in a similar situation as we speak. We had a thing, the guy knew about it and still went ahead to marry the chick. Let's just say he is not having the best of married life as far as peace of mind goes. And you know why my situation is bad? If the man provokes his wife and she feels like having revenge séx, guess whose number is on speed dial Welcome to your future 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 2:14pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
BraniacX:You are lucky.. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Femeto: 2:14pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Run. |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by folks4luv(f): 2:17pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
You don't have rest in your spirit... that is the biggest sign you need. 1 Like |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 2:17pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pafoma:How old are you OP...? . Are you 40 years old?? So, why do you seem desperate?? Leave that girl alone!! |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by malkomchris: 2:18pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
My brother, this people hardly changes, most traits that destroy marriages are seen during courtship but overlooked in the name of feelings and love, think twice before you become divorcée, that's if you survive the heartbreak, I don't know but can u drive that spirit away all by yourself |
Re: Indecisive About My Fiancée That Dated People I Know by Nobody: 2:19pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Yinibixema:Send him the Pdf version |
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