Also, if she told u she wasn't interested in any relationship wit u BEFORE u told her about your lack of job, then suddenly wanting to see u is scary. Definitely. Or has she suddenly 'recovered?' . . . On de other hand, if she told u AFTER, then she didn't dig u (in de sense dat job/no job, if she loved u she would hav stayed/at least cald occasionally till she got over her past hurt) OR she might not hav seen u as a 'responsible'/'serious' guy, hence an imaginary story 4 a quick get away. Just my 2 cents. Lol.

SA Lady:

@OP Money always changes the situation unfortunately. Something you need to know is that there is never the right person only the right time and please write that down.

The next girl you are going to meet, with all the money you'll be making will be going around telling people how lucky she is to have found a man that is well and made or rather on his way to making it good. So now how does that make your current girl any different from the one you are yet to meet?

I say forget this relationship, there's already some resentments around it which I am sure you will never get over. Open another door and see what's in store for you.

Good luck!!!

You probably dont need to hear this, but please allow me to say it regardless, There's a lot of women who chose to be with men that had nothing, but as soon as the man started making a bit of money he dissapeared. You only have yourself to blame about this, sotheing tells me you started showing off and playing tricks now look where it got you.

Why did you love the woman in the first place Maybe the answer to this question might help you move forward.

Gbam!!

@OP Money always changes the situation unfortunately. Something you need to know is that there is never the right person only the right time and please write that down.

The next girl you are going to meet, with all the money you'll be making will be going around telling people how lucky she is to have found a man that is well and made or rather on his way to making it good. So now how does that make your current girl any different from the one you are yet to meet?

I say forget this relationship, there's already some resentments around it which I am sure you will never get over. Open another door and see what's in store for you.

Good luck!!!

You probably dont need to hear this, but please allow me to say it regardless, There's a lot of women who chose to be with men that had nothing, but as soon as the man started making a bit of money he dissapeared. You only have yourself to blame about this, sotheing tells me you started showing off and playing tricks now look where it got you.

Why did you love the woman in the first place Maybe the answer to this question might help you move forward.

@OP Money always changes the situation unfortunately. Something you need to know is that there is never the right person only the right time and please write that down.

The next girl you are going to meet, with all the money you'll be making will be going around telling people how lucky she is to have found a man that is well and made or rather on his way to making it good. So now how does that make your current girl any different from the one you are yet to meet?

I say forget this relationship, there's already some resentments around it which I am sure you will never get over. Open another door and see what's in store for you.

Good luck!!!

chiteny:

This is completely not the situation. You are out of track here. i remained me to her ever since till she told me she does not want to go into any relationship. And note that i had not started the job till after about month since she told me that.

To every on, ….and now the jist of what happened yesterday………. Get set.

chiteny:

I waited for the damsel who said she would be visiting me after work. It got late (about 7:20pm) so I decided to send a text to know if she would still be coming or not as her place was quite close to my place. Then almost immediately I got a reply. In the reply she said its not like she does not want to come but that there is so much traffic from her side and she was waiting thinking it would die off, but it didn’t. So she said she will come today and hope I won’t get mad at her. For me I see no reason to get mad. Why should i?

Let me wait and see how today plays out when she comes. You guys have to be patient. Na she cause am.

….please stay tuned.

Ujujoan:

You have issues young man!!! This woman gave you a reason why she didn't want to date you . . .  You would rather belive something else and yet you still look forward to welcoming her in your house?   

Do you think you were the only one she turned down while she was still healing from her broken relationship? Did you expect her to jump at you just because you send her r/cards and take her to cinemas? Why is it so hard for men to understand that sometimes, women just do not need the strains of a relationship at a particular point in their life?

I understand how you could easily think she wants you back because you got a good job but is it not possible that maybe she's now ready to date again? 

Men sef . . .  Keep living in your new-found glory oh, remember that this life is veeery unpredictable!   

ther u go, advise from a gold digger

Mr~Cork:

and guess wot, she Nigerian

pinky lady:

wats your problem with nigerian women? 

Mr~Cork:

ther u go, advise from a gold digger

pinky lady:

^

didnt answer ma qweshion 

Ujujoan:

Someone is desperately seeking attention . . . I'm sorry but I only notice humans!

But at 1st stage man, you really want to create a Love that the establishment is not certain, it is cleared dat dis chick don't love you but you forcing your self on.

(1) Why deed she prospone you relationship?
(2) what actually was her excuse for not staying with you, wen u gat no job?
(3) Even if she's just a gel friend, why should she gave an excuse dat "Trafic".(definitely she's not really to take a risk because of you den)?
(4) Most you call her before she xplain what delays her coming?
(5) How many times as she tex you on how she want you guys to build up your relationship or she missed u?
(6) How are you sure she was not delayed by another guy?
(7) she most have dated some1 b4(if not till date), as she really explain what broke their relationship?

Sorry to say, [b]Never use your and to manliness you grave! [/b]Or you love her because of her beauty?

Ujujoan:

Someone is desperately seeking attention  . . .  I'm sorry but I only notice humans! 

Nairaland, :

If u think she is comin 2u cuz of d job,tel her u hv lost d job again and see wat happens.