sparog:
Be a man and take a stand, stop thinking to do something, do it outrightly. Save yourself the trouble now or one day you'll end up regretting it.

The society has turned most of our men to sissies these days.

African men of old would not condone such

crackkhaus:

For a woman to have the guts to be branding knives in front of her husband, it must mean she sees him as being incapable of anything.

Too bad.

Graxie:
My problem is that your father in-law seems to be irresponsible, I am sure your wife is also taking weed. Pray for her, God hates divorce. Continue petting her, shower her with gifts. A good man builds his home. No perfect marriage anywhere. Meanwhile, let's hear her version too, a wife can not just start carrying knife just like that that. Lest I forget, midnight prayers does wonders. Please answer some of these questions, where did you meet your wife? Didn't you notice her anger issues ? How are you sure the next woman will be better? Some of our parents endured more or are you cheating already? Please be patient with your wife, women are babies. Thanks.

buknija:


We only met just 2 weeks after she got pregnant, 1 month later we were forced into marriage.

Belafonte:


Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable being around, let alone sleeping beside, someone who brandishes knives at the slightest marital conflict.

The fact that Buknija still lives with her remains inconceivable to my mind. Like someone threatened to stab you, not once, not twice but six times and you dey snore like he-goat beside am? I cannot.

buknija:


All in all, he was calm, begged and asked me to forgive her, laid rules and promised she will never do such again, my mother too alligned and that was the end. From then till now, no issue of weapon though we still have numerous issues. Not until some days ago when something came up, i gave her the silent treatment since i figured she was raging, in order to get me to talk, she used my ailment to make gest of me, i got angry and pulled her clothe to tell her that, no matter what, you dont use peoples ailment to form abusive attack or to attract cheap attention, she was with a biro, and was pointing that biro towards me like she was going to pluck out my eye, that gave me a resounding reminder that, one day something heated might just make this woman end my life one day, am thinking of fleeing away when my kids are about the age I can feel comfortable doing that,since them no want make i divorce am. Am still sort of living in the fear of the unknown, maybe one day she'll just end me.

buknija:
Hi guys, this episode am about to drop happened 3 and the half years ago. It might a bit of a long write up, its just for the sake of deeper understanding of my plight here. My wife and I went to a restaurant where I normally go during lunch hours at work, I am pretty known there by the employees. On getting there, it was only madam that wanted to eat, so as were about to pay for the take away food, the lady at the cash point said, sir are you not eating? My wife exploded in a loud tone which sent tremble down the spine of most customers in the restaurant, she said how is that your business? Can he not eat from what I bought? The lady was like no sorry mah, hes our regular customer, i was surprised he isnt eating, the tension was in the air for about some minutes, I was mute though cos I didnt expect the outburst from my wife,although I was a bit embarassed.

On getting into the car, she started with me, its ur fault, i said how, she said if its not for the fact that the lady is tripping for you, she ought not to have asked you if you wanted to eat or not, i was like wow, my fault? how in the hell would u define that as my fault? That im the one in the position to express disappointment in your public outburst. We got home oo, next thing...am taking the kids out in a raging voice, i was like to where, she was like i dont know, then I replied saying u know the rules, u cant take kids out without me having knowledge of where you guys are going, next thing is i am sure you have something to do with the girl, since you are not in support of my ourburst, saying she will make sure she does something in return to make me feel bad,i was now like that is an olosho attitude, you cant pay evil without concrete reason. Next thing, she had gone to the kitchen to get a knife, threatning to stab me, which initially was like the 5th time she would threaten me with a knife in a time frame of 3 years. Immediately, I informed my mum about the incident and told her I want to hold a meeting with the father with her attendance, am ending the marriage, I cannot die because I married.

Its a long story though, so i will need to cut it short, during the period when the meeting was called for, she had hinted her father of the ongoing issue, no father wants a divorce, so i overheard she and her sister saying she and her dad already planned to pin something on me so as to overturn the allegation i have against her. I just waited to know what it was until the day the meeting was held. The man came and I explained myself and why I want the marriage dissolved, next thing the man would say to her daughter is, do you have anything to say, she said well the reason why she has been misbehaving is because she saw weed in the glove compertment of the car. I was stunned to know that that was their initial plan, next thing the man just stood up, if you are truly smoking weed, then aiye e ma baje ni, meaning your life go spoil, I was moved to tell him to get out of my house, then my mum winked at me to chill, next thing he sat and started rambling then out of his anger started hitting my 74 year old mother on her shoulder, then I was about to stand up and probably just do the unknown, my mum winked again, I was so angry that I could not do anything, the tension now dampened, nxt thing my 3 years plus son came out from the room and said, grandpa dont say that, with his finger placed on his lips, showing a keep shut sign, that is in approach to the fact that he laid curse on me, it was basically based on what i have thought them, the man responded, am sorry..the initial moment when shame caught up with him that a 3 year old came to caution you.

All in all, he was calm, begged and asked me to forgive her, laid rules and promised she will never do such again, my mother too alligned and that was the end. From then till now, no issue of weapon though we still have numerous issues. Not until some days ago when something came up, i gave her the silent treatment since i figured she was raging, in order to get me to talk, she used my ailment to make gest of me, i got angry and pulled her clothe to tell her that, no matter what, you dont use peoples ailment to form abusive attack or to attract cheap attention, she was with a biro, and was pointing that biro towards me like she was going to pluck out my eye, that gave me a resounding reminder that, one day something heated might just make this woman end my life one day, am thinking of fleeing away when my kids are about the age I can feel comfortable doing that,since them no want make i divorce am. Am still sort of living in the fear of the unknown, maybe one day she'll just end me.