George_D:

aca,
you haven't told poster the way out. your thesis on 'trust' is not going to undo what has already been done.

aca77:

Sufficient opinions have already been offered, and I have no doubt that the ONLY wise option is to kick her out and start a new life - after ascertaining the paternity of 'your' children.

badesco:

I hv bn suspecting my wife of haviing an affair for somethme now and my suspicious became reality when i decided to hack into her phone lately. Alas what i discovered was shoking & revealing. I mean d texts sent to her by her boss confirmed dat dey hv bn dating more dan 3yrs plus. One of d text read, i wish i hv a taste of pudding everyday because u r sweeter dan my wife. Pls do ensure u get rid of d pregnancy so he does not suspect and many more absurd text msgs. I am presently confused and down casted. Can somebody in d house help me out of dis mess. Your honest views wil b appreciated.

MY QUESTION TO YOU IS THIS - WHO IS MORE FINANCIALLY SECURE , U OR YOUR WIFE'S BOSS?

ie PUT ANOTHER WAY WHO DO U THINK HAS MORE MONEY U OR YOUR WIFE's BOSS,

THE REASON I ASK THIS QUESTION IS TO MAKE SURE THAT SHE IS NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM
FOR FINANCIAL GAIN,

IF SHE IS NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM FOR THE OBVIOUS REASON OF MONEY THEN WE CAN LOOK
AT THE ISSUE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE,

shewun001:

@poster, divorce may not be the best course of action to take right now, let me ask u a few questions.
1 do u make enough money to take care of your family's needs/
2 do u share this your money well or u hoard it?
3 how many children do u have together?
4 do u make her feel alive in bed?
5 do u still love her?
why did u go thru her fone?, suspicion? Ignorance they say is bliss.
My candid advice is that u confront her and take it from there, if u guys can work at it fine and if u cant , walk away .

May the good Lord give u wisdom to handle this right.

n.oxide:

@badesco. . . Let her know what you've found out. Just be calm, if therre be need for a divorce let her be the one to push for it. You are a man now and these are some of the things you have to contend with in life. . . remember she's your wife for better, for worse. .  .

Please overlook it, keep her as a wife especially if you got kids.

oludashmi:

How do you expect the victim to push for a divorce or dont you know it is too shameful for her? She will simply deny it at first and scatter the whole house but if he shows her the evidence, she will then go on her knees. You said "for better for worse". . .you should ask her if she forgot it is 'for better for worse' not preaching for the guy. Did she forget she has got kids?

You these NL teenagers sha. . .dont worry you will soon understand.

oludashmi:

How do you expect the victim to push for a divorce or dont you know it is too shameful for her? She will simply deny it at first and scatter the whole house but if he shows her the evidence, she will then go on her knees. You said "for better for worse". . .you should ask her if she forgot it is 'for better for worse' not preaching for the guy. Did she forget she has got kids?

You these NL teenagers sha. . .dont worry you will soon understand.

George_D:

these sort of sentiments is what many women latch on to commit all sorts of attrocities in marriage. they think 'well since i'm married for better for worse no matter what i do he cannot divorce me'!

pro01:

Absolutely true. And it is totally ridiculous if you ask me. I would invariable accept a wife's million other 'for worse(s)' including (God forbid) unforseen disability, terminal illness, personal afflictions and sorrows, career/business setbacks, diminished beauty/attractiveness, etc. - as a conscientious husband I wouldn't divorce or reject her on account of any of these; would accept it all as my cross as it were. That's the REAL essence of 'for better for worse'.

But the idea of one's very own lawfully wedded wife forkking and sucking an alien he-goat and even getting pregnant for him? (pukes). Even God wouldn't forgive that were he a mere man. Only a wimp and a deluded fool of a man would forgive that. The 'for worse' clause in the marriage contract certainly does not include or envisage such abominable acts of treachery.

harakiri:

Wetin be the point of marrying sef?

George_D:

these sort of sentiments is what many women latch on to commit all sorts of attrocities in marriage. they think 'well since i'm married for better for worse no matter what i do he cannot divorce me'!

George_D:

these sort of sentiments is what many women latch on to commit all sorts of attrocities in marriage. they think 'well since i'm married for better for worse no matter what i do he cannot divorce me'!

adaphik:

lol, u're absolutely right. This equally applies to the men too.