here's the thing, there is this guy dats a frend of mine, and he is sooo good to me, one of the nicest guys i know but i am not attracted to him physically, at all, and i am not willing to settle for less, but he likes me and tells me all the time. i usually just ignore him when he says it and change the topic, but its really begining to strain our frendship. but he is a dear frend and i dnt want to lose our frendship over a silly schoolboy crush he has on me, so how do i let him down gently and still have him as a frend?

@becool89
Introduce him to one of your female friends and tell him to try his luck with her. Trust me, he will get the picture and leave you the hell alone!

And five year down the line you will find out it was a very dumb decision.

Its better to love a friend than a stranger, he is still a friend even when the love is gone.

@poster: i fe ur pain cos av bin in a similar situation. one advice i got from that situation was not to look @ every lady as a potential date or else i mite loose the chance of having them as great friends. pple come into our lives for different reasons and purposes and this is revealed in time, if this guy is meant to be your friend, trust me he will be the best u eva had but if u switch that for a relationship, it will be the worst time of both ur lives, u struggling to love and accept him as a boyfriend and the guy constantly dejected that u don't feel d same way.

let him know u appreciate him and all that he is to you but you guys will not connect perfectly like u do as friends if u go into a relatonship with him. all da best

@becool89. To be candid with you, I really can't dig you. I just hope is not that you've been encouraging the poor guy and telling him no at the same time. I've been in that guy's situation before, though I wasn't desperate about it.
@ topic. If you are in love with someone already, I'll say just don't take it too deep with him, you know, you can kiss, hug, smooch and get splocthy with him, but DON'T "fire" him! I f you ain't in love with nobody you can do everything plus "firing" him. Afterall he deserve to be compesated for being a stupid nice-nice guy whe he can see the handwriting on the wall.

You as a lady do want attention & you must somehow enjoy his persistence _{but he does it too much}

Don't stop doing the things that got him attracted to you but let him know you are best as friends but you'll let him meet your friends!

Let him meet them & its up to him! If still can't get any of your friends to at least be another friend, then he is not man enough & only wants to take advantage of your friendship!

Be careful though some people are friendly cos they hope to get u as lovers. If he is a true friend he'll understand when you tell him the truth. 'The truth shall set you free'

@poster
aint nothing like honesty, it hurts, but if he respects u as a person, then he'll know ur entilted to ur feelings and opinions, he'll hurt for a while, so try not to flaunt/discuss ur love life in front of him. but it's as easy as

LOOK, I APPRECIATE YOUR FRIENDSHIP, BUT I REALLY THINK U NEED TO KNOW THAT ALTHOUGH THEY SAY NEVER SAY NEVER, I DO NOT FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE AND I CAN'T DATE YOU. i'm going to be here for u if u should need me, but just so u know, that is how i feel. we've been skirting around it for sometime and don't try to think u can persuade me, cos my mind is made up!

The poor boy is stuck in the "friend zone" . No man wants to be in that zone.I doubt the friendship will survive.It will collapse although they can rebuild later in the future if she "lets him down gently"

@topic
Just follow Luxoire's advice

LOOK, I APPRECIATE YOUR FRIENDSHIP, BUT I REALLY THINK You NEED TO KNOW THAT ALTHOUGH THEY SAY NEVER SAY NEVER, I DO NOT FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE AND I CAN'T DATE YOU. i'm going to be here for u if u should need me, but just so u know, that is how i feel. we've been skirting around it for sometime and don't try to think u can persuade me, because my mind is made up!

don't say that, especially the part that's uncapitalized.
just tell him you're seeing someone else. if he keeps coming on then tell him, if he values your friendship he'll back off.

@fekuti
ohh yes, if they are THAT close, he'll know she aint seeing someone else, and heaven forbid he is the persistent type, just be straight up!, might sound like a bitch (but its only to his ego temporarily)

@fekuti
ohh yes, if they are THAT close, he'll know she aint seeing someone else, and heaven forbid he is the persistent type, just be straight up!, might sound like a bitch (but its only to his ego temporarily)

nah, you never f.uck with a guy's ego, all you'll do is create another playa/toto-fucker/woman-deceiver.
doesn't really matter how close they are, they can't be that close, he can't know eerthang that's going on with her. i still say don't do it. she might not suffer the consequence but another girl probably will.

well it depends anyway, it atkes a girl with guts to put it that way, and if she does, then i doubt she thinks about who else is gonna suffer for it.

although if truth be told, if he's hurt now, he will still shy away from having female 'freinds' that are close, and keep them at bay just in case

either way, the dude hurts

luxoire:

@poster
aint nothing like honesty, it hurts, but if he respects u as a person, then he'll know your entilted to your feelings and opinions, he'll hurt for a while, so try not to flaunt/discuss your love life in front of him. but it's as easy as

LOOK, I APPRECIATE YOUR FRIENDSHIP, BUT I REALLY THINK You NEED TO KNOW THAT ALTHOUGH THEY SAY NEVER SAY NEVER, I DO NOT FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE AND I CAN'T DATE YOU. i'm going to be here for u if u should need me, but just so u know, that is how i feel. we've been skirting around it for sometime and don't try to think u can persuade me, because my mind is made up!

Sweet trouble, I fear you ooo, lol

@haywhy
habaaaaaaa, y go go fia me now?, shebi na lie i yarn there?

No vex jare but I still fear una oooo! _{U be Ibo?}

@haywhy
vex ke?, i dey hardly vex

hahah does my tribe matter?, or r u wishing i am ibo because u sef be ibo?

I fear u once again oooo! See as you twist am! U be FBI? U be Ibo? _{but i feel you oo}

@haywhy
d way u don dey fear me, be like say make i dey fear myself ohh, lol, but u feel me abi?

give me 5 good reasons why my tribe matters, and i will tell u

U r an Igbo gurl! U know I'm right

@hay
hahaha i'm too old in da game, da REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY thing, aint gonna work on me!

i shall not disclose my tribe, think of me as human being, better still a LADY

U be Sigmund Freud?, lol
But the thingy is I've seen some1 who knows you & you are Igbo,

U've SEEN some1, who knows me?, hmmm i doubt the validity and credibility of that statement, if u've dreamt it, then sha believe anyone u please, what makes u so sure im iibo and not yoruba?, let alone hausa?

LUXOIRE IS IGBOOOOOOOOOOO _{Sigmund freud, I aint joking, some1 who knows you told me!}

I'm feeling sleepy now! So I'll catch ya later & don't 4get that I now know u r Igbo!

night night, hay

and i actually happen to be a fan of Freud! , sleep tight