Please I need advice. I have a fiancee who I met about three years ago. She is an undergraduate schooling in Eastern Nigeria, while I am working in western Nigeria. We have been planning our formal marriage to take place this year end. Before we met, she had a boyfriend though she said the guy has not proposed marriage to her. I proposed marriage and she accepted and quit the other guy who graduated from her school.
After a year, we had a serious disagreement after which i learnt from her that she invited her ex to appologise for dumping him, that she equally slept with him though she had no sex with him. I accepted her and we reconciled and continued. This year, recently, she informed me one night that she is ill and cannot sleep alone in her rented appartment, that she is sleeping with a post graduate student friend of hers(man). I became very furious and warned her not to call me again that the relationship is over.
She called my line severally but i maintained my ground. Please can anybody advise me.

You are what i cannot call you,simply because the girl slept with another man .is that why you said the relationship is over,i cant believe an human being can say that,its not that am yelling at you,but you should think about it yourself, things are not done that way what has the girl done to you before this time? you should have told her to go before this coincident ,well, its your life , do it the way you want ,the only advice i will give you is that ,go and apologise to the girl and if you feel you cannot do that,then do whatever pleases you.i said this because you asked for an advice.

oreofemi you have spoken well i think its left for him to decide

_{A word is enough a the wise}!

@topic

Cute-Ass where re you now,Someone is in trouble oh!

niceuzor:



Cute-Ass where re you now,Someone is in trouble oh!

My sweetie is busy

Omo Eko how Busy is she? cant u see someone is in trouble here!

BTW:

Omo is its true that u will soon be getting married?

abeg make u invite me make i come chop rice oh.

we wey no fit come, we go dey collect our rice through express mail.

O girl which one come bi u own 4 inside na

i was only refering to Omo-eko not you, Or bi u don dey like my style

e no bad sha u re alway welcome,

please spammers, beware, advice is seriously needed here not compliments.

Instigator i guess

instigating who and who?

@kedkngo
please look wello cos gals nowadays dey fuunyoo most of them are "kiss and tell"

@Omo-Eko
What's up with you and cutebutt (ass)?? I hope this ain't one of them lesbian type $#!T !

never that sweetT
i keep it wet.

@ kedkngo

Well i would have blamed you sha but i'll pass, why?? one thing does lead to another. Obviously you love this girl very much but some circumstances are making you doubt her trust, you're human so its perfectly understandable. You were acting out on the account of what had happened earlier that you hadn't tackled.

Her case of sleeping with a friend isn't such a thing unheard of, it might result to something else, but there are friends that could pass for your siblings, i admire the fact that she told you about it too before hand, what you could or should have done instead of enforcing an ultimatum was ask her not to stay over at a guy's place, not because you don't trust her, but hormones can be pretty decieving. You make your partner see reasons with you, offer a solution if you find one fit. Don't just tell her off

One thing that called my attention though was the "ex" thingy, did she tell you why she did what she did?? Why did it have to be when you guys had a misunderstanding?? I know girls can be dubious when they're vulnerable, just quarrelled with their boyfriends, i know i have, but does she have another motive behind it??

You guys have to talk . . sit her down and request her uttmost sincereity, look her in the eyes and remind her that "marriage" isn't a one year's contract, it should be for life. So both parties should be sure of what they want, is she really really in love with you, want to marry you and no one else?? Is she with you beacuse her "ex" didn't propose?? After she apologised to him, why did he sleep over?? Does she still have some known or unknown feelings?? Is she 100% happy where she is (in your arms)?? The grounds on which you're breaking up, is not yet solid.

Read out the truth from what she has to say, maybe she just wanted to make up with her past and give it a final and amicable closure, maybe she was just being a girl or maybe something yet to be read is written all over it - - - you got to find out what it is, anyone who's dating someone that has had an "ex", is countable for that kind of "wondering"  - - - - it could have been you in her shoes Cut her a slack, I do think she loves you, does she love you enough?? Find out dear!!! Nairalanders can only help you to an extent, but you have to walk the mile . . its love.

Omo Eko:

My sweetie is busy

I know i can always count on you, thats as sure as the sun shall shine

Dear Cut-ass,
you are a blessing to nairaland. am highly educated by your advice. I can tell you she loves me. but the "ex" stuff is putting an impedement to my trust for her.
once again, thanks a million.

I can see why they beconed on you for your candid interventin. You are the Queen of the house(nairaland) cheers.

@cute-ass

ur advice is round peg in a round hole. kudos

please i need more.

wow i said it i said she is a bomb

check out the pleasant advice she just delivered

Cute-ass you are bless! More Kudos.

niceuzor:

Omo Eko how Busy is she? can't u see someone is in trouble here!

BTW:

Omo is its true that u will soon be getting married?

abeg make u invite me make i come chop rice oh.

No my brother oh but 2yrs from now sha. May God be with us both since then.

OLE ;Dfor food only

@topic, CUTE ASS has said it all!GOODLUCK

Sweet T:

@Omo-Eko
What's up with you and cutebutt (ass)?? I hope this ain't one of them lesbian type $#!T !

Lesbo for where abeg oh,but cute-ass happens to be a very good friend of mine she's my sweetie

@Omo-eko
She is your sweetie?? Yeah right, that's how it start !

LOL you people are very funny sha can't i have a close friend who happens to be a FEMALE , btw she's always gonna be my sweetie

huh huh !

It start from my sweetie to my close friend, next it will be my partner !

oh plz

its obvious you met her dating someone, but still decided to ask her hand in marriage. so don't complain if she is leaving you or cheating on you. KARMA.

udo u eve trust ur girl? becos if after 3 yrs u still dnt know wat she can do, then its not worth been in. just pick her calls and hear her out u can neve tell

Oreofemi pleeeeaaasseee! The guy said they agreed to get married. Therefore only a fool will be blind to read the clear hand writing on the wall. Bros you are a man. ONE GOOD SLEEP DESERVES ANOTHER. If she goes about sleeping with poeple when you have already told her your intention to marry her, just quit. She will not change.

All this y'all posting is wot you think. Wait till it happens to you. . .  

ozoneflake:

Oreofemi pleeeeaaasseee! The guy said they agreed to get married. Therefore only a fool will be blind to read the clear hand writing on the wall. Bros you are a man. ONE GOOD SLEEP DESERVES ANOTHER. If she goes about sleeping with poeple when you have already told her your intention to marry her, just quit. She will not change.

, Good advice.

You have gotten the best advise