though i have my own fiancee, i met this lady recently (as usual) and i got to know shes been a crazy girl. on xmas night to be precise. i talked to her and she kinda liked me. i took her home later that night and she spent the night. ever since shes been extremely nice to me. intially she agreed to the fact that i had a gf and she was willing to continue but suddenly she started reacting to the same fact and started saying all sorts of rubbish. she always says she'll quit the relationship if i dont drop my gf for her & every time i tell her thats never possible. the irony is that even when i advise that we put an end to it she alway comes back saying "im the best thing that has happeed to her and that she cant let me go for anything". i feel very bad cos i see her efforts everyday to make me comfortable and happy but i just cant imagine leaving my fiancee. she even threatens that she'll go back to her crazy lifestyle if i eventualy leave her and that she'll remain miserable for a very long time. i cant afford to see her hurt or do something nasty to herself cos shes got a really soft heart and shes kind to a fault. now my major problem is that she always wants me to have sex with her without condoms and therefore she wont let me in again after the 1st experience. we'veboth starved and craved to tear each other again cos th 1st experience was really crazy but she wont let me without the cd and i wont do it without it.
pls fellows, i need reasonable comments as this has been an issue in my life 4 about 3weeks now and its indeed my true story

I think u re one miserable young man, wit a very miserabl thinking pattern and life. You have a fiancee that's probably serious about u, & beating her chest to everyone dat cares to listen dat she's engaged. . . And here is her so-called husband-to-be insulting himself, her & their future family by sleeping around wit a small girl. . .a girl that's busy manipulating him to do whatever she likes, a girl wit no self respect. If she likes, she can do whatever she wants wit herself-she's pathetic. Young man u re a disgrace. I almost neva replied u cos ur thread is cow's shi.t. I only pity ur so-called fiancee. What a laughable relationship.

You are cheating on your girlfriend, and the other woman wants you to dump your girlfriend. And now she insists that you have sex with her without a condom. . . . and you have no idea what you should do?

The woman is clearly trying to get pregnant, so that you can dump your current girlfriend and are forced to stay with her. What you need to do is if you want to stay with your girlfriend, drop the side girl. Then you need to tell your girlfriend what you are doing so that she can decide what she wants to do.

I'm sorry, but I can't seem to understand who's feelings you care about more here, yours, or the side girl? Because you obviously have no regard for your girlfriend if you are coming here to ask what to do to keep your side girl happy. . . and would even consider sleeping with her without a condom. Do you have any idea what kinds of diseases are out there? Do you know if that girl is completely clean? How would you feel if you passed anything to your girlfriend?

@Wislet, must u be abusive in your critisism? poo happens and it cld be any1,  i came here cos im confused and need advice not to be nailed to the cross. my girl has never had reason to complain about me so y hating on her behalf and th fact that i call her my fiancee doesnt mean we've been officially engaged (although we're engaged in our minds).

pappy4real:

@Wislet, must u be abusive in your critisism? poo happens and it cld be any1, i came here cos im confused and need advice not to be nailed to the cross. my girl has never had reason to complain about me so y hating on her behalf

Young man, if u check my posts, i'm almost never abusive in my replies. So if i am, then something must hav resulted to dat. If only u could read ur post by yourself, u'd realize it makes no sense. . Yes, i agree wit u, poo happens. Definitely. But de difference is in how u handle that poo. In ur own case, u are not lookin 4 any good advice, but one dat wil help u cheat more on ur fiancee, and play to de gallery of a so-called lover. . . Pls 4 ur info, am not hating on anyone's behalf. She probably isn't complaining cos she doesn't know who u really are. I'v got no time to waste advising sb dat wants de easiest way to destruction. Ur life is yours, and ur girl's hers. So be our guest.

^thanks, im grateful. i know u wont understand

@OP. IMOHO your act suggest you are a silly billy goat. you have a fiancee and you are having sexual relations with someone else? Na wa for you. That is called cheating and you are not even sorry about it in the first place. rather you are concerned about her not letting you have sex without condom. The next thing you write would be that "i have impregnated someone i dont want to marry. what do i do? do we commit abortion?"

My advice to you would be to end this relationship and focus on your fiancee. The girl in question will not do any of those things she said she will do. Its just a gimick to make u stay with her.

Look dear, it's better to decide now which of them you want to date. Her not being ur fiancee officially does not mean u can take her 4 a ride-she's already ur girlfriend. So u either give her dat respect by getting rid of de other distraction, cos her mere presence wil keep being a temptation to u, or u quit wit ur girl 4 her. Dont two-time and don't pay any mind to her 'i'll die if u leave me' talk. Dat's manipulation. U got to talk to her frankly cos wat u two re doing is not wise. U re adults, and need to think like one. She shouldn't waste her time chasing a lost cause. And hey! U gotta start thinking wit ur head and not wit ur privates. In dis time & age u need no soothsayer to tel u dat sex wit a random persn & no protection is dangerous. And for her to allow u do dat, her thinkin faculty is questionable! Dont regret a whole good life ahead of u over a moment's excitement. Choose one & let the other go.

ok, thanks

Plz bone her side.She has dangerous intentions in her dirty mind.Either u get her preg or she gonna infect u wiv H.I.V(i dnt knw if she as ooo), Just my piece of advise bro.Take kia

no need advicing one who shows no remorse for a crime he's committed.