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Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Kingarthur21: 3:54pm On May 11, 2020 |
crackkhaus:women always hold on to beliefs about men-especially negative ones(cheating,sexual predators etc)but when men tell them the truth about themselves, they will foam at their mouths 4 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackkhaus: 3:58pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kingarthur21:Not just men, women too...as you can see from the antagonism towards Bukatyne. If animals could speak, they would become enemies too. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Miarose: 4:35pm On May 11, 2020 |
I actually quoted you directly. The two lines I lifted are right there in my post. bukatyne: 9 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 4:41pm On May 11, 2020 |
Miarose: You quoted me directly out of context: Women are not told to ignore their purpose in favor of a job; they are told to ignore their families hence that line. These are still from the same OP: Now, there is something called 'calling or purpose'. This is the reason why you were created on earth. People's purpose range from pulling drugged kids off the street, inventing something to make our lives easier to writing lyrics that touch the soul. It can as well be spiritual as per pastors, evangelists, teachers, etc. etc. Every body has the duty to discover their purpose and fulfill it. In summary, work is just work: a means to an end of living a better life and fulfilling your purpose/assignment in earth. The summary is the hence of the thread. It is not about work vs. family. It is about fulfilling your purpose. 1 Like |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by fuzzywuzzy: 5:09pm On May 11, 2020 |
So the sweet whatever got banned Hahaha her fake badassery ended in tears, Lwkmd 11 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by liberalchick(f): 5:23pm On May 11, 2020 |
Bukatyne, you’re not a victim. I think it’s very unfortunate that you’ve decided to hide behind a wall of fake victimhood, rather than address the questions about the incoherent premise (which was on purpose) in your OP posted on a public forum. I see, hear and read a lot of ladies been advised to 'face their career (which is actually work sef) and think of marriage later'. You purposely redefined the popular phrase above so you can create a loophole in your OP. It’s actually pretty devious. When people disagree with what you actually mean, then you can always point out the “work” in your OP. So basically you invented a new meaning of a popular phrase that is easier to argue against. There is a word for that. The phrase has always been about getting your career on track before you get married, if you so desire. It has never been about work. This was a sloppy OP. 22 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 5:28pm On May 11, 2020 |
liberalchick: Did I claim to be a victim? or what are you on about? I have a life outside NL to feel 'victimized' by people I don't know. I created a thread and not answerable to anyone about my premise. Like they say 'I am responsible for what I type, everyone is responsible for what they understand.' I am taking marriage vs. career and spent half of the OP talking about purpose and calling? Please you came late to the party. Thank you. 2 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by KanwuliaBaby: 5:48pm On May 11, 2020 |
bukatyne: Here you go again. You start a proxy-thread “pretending” you want to discuss “whatever”, then your main focus is soon exposed to all when you finally land on what you really want to express. Do you think NL is full of preschoolers? Why the deception? Just open a topic in the “Dear Diaries” section and continue your fallacies of circumlocutIon from paragraph to paragraph as you wish. . . . undisturbed. You know? What we write online gives a true pictograph of our states of mind offline. What marriage means to me? I could write VOLUMES! I am an EXPERT on the topic. No need for me to be opening threads UPANDAN to discuss it. A VERRRRRY BORRRRRRING TOPIC TO ME. Guuuuuuuuurrrrlllll!!!!! You can NEVER grasp or comprehend this “marriage of a concept” in a million years. I am living it. Are you? After 20 years +++ of marriage, you wanno ask me? I was married before I joined NL in 2008. . . . and still married TO THE SAME MAN o! Na KPOMO? ? ? You do not sound like you live a life of content. We ALL lack fulfillment in one area or another in our lives, with the hopes we accomplish some measure of satisfaction at the end of our toils and endeavors. You are a looooooong way from understanding the essence of life and living. You do not come across as a content being EVEN WITH ALL THE GRACE you claim your God has blessed you with. You appear to have a soul of eternal yearning and you remain mostly spiritually and “physically” unsatisfied. I hope you you find “your way to peace”. . . . . . Sooooooon. Children of “God” don’t have to be THIS miserable. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Miarose: 5:52pm On May 11, 2020 |
They are your quotes however. Work is a means to secure your basic needs and absolutely necessary for every living full-bodied human being, unless someone else is providing for you. I agree that we should all find our purpose or calling. If you have found yours, pray for those that are yet to find theirs. However, note that not everyone makes a living out of their purpose. It could be a sacrificial calling and nothing comes out of it, financially. In spite of that, you still need to feed, provide the basic things of life. Physiological needs(food , water, warmth,safety,security) rank lower than emotional needs, not to talk of self actualization. In fact, self actualization is at the very top of maslow's hierarchy of needs. [img][/img] Like someone else said, purpose changes as we go through life and it is a reflection of the needs in our current state. bukatyne: 8 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 5:57pm On May 11, 2020 |
Miarose: I am trying to understand this post because the summary was stated in the OP. |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by bukatyne(f): 6:00pm On May 11, 2020 |
bukatyne: @Miarose, This is my post to someone else on this thread earlier. |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by KanwuliaBaby: 6:23pm On May 11, 2020 |
Plead: 94 banned ones and 50 active ones. I think “Pyguguru” aka “spambottucks”, a moderator, is in love with me. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by janettee(f): 6:31pm On May 11, 2020 |
fieryy: Give me Kourtney's money abeg, who marriage help . 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackkhaus: 6:32pm On May 11, 2020 |
bukatyne:You never claimed you were, but those sensible among us who witnessed what played out, know that you're definitely the victim. The only way anyone would think otherwise is because they're part of the gang, not the mediator/pacifier they're pretending to be. Don't let anyone guilt-trip you for feeling attacked. You posted what you posted. Don't like it? Ignore or try to counter it with superior argument, not ad hominems. Apart from the first few comments which seemed like they were trying to engage you in a conversation, most others only came in to talk about your personality, your marriage, your past threads, etc... That my friend, is called gang-banging, ghetto style. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by ednut1(m): 6:33pm On May 11, 2020 |
This op needs to be banned. Too many crap she writes. Being in a marriage with no source of income or career even pant he will have to pay is a disease. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by KanwuliaBaby: 6:35pm On May 11, 2020 |
Kaamisha: Expert analysis! :clap: :clap: :clap: 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by fuzzywuzzy: 6:39pm On May 11, 2020 |
ednut1: 2 Likes |
Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by Biglittlelois(f): 7:02pm On May 11, 2020 |
KanwuliaBaby: You will soon be called a hater, anyone that has a different opinion from Op hates her or is attacking her as a person or the moniker as the case may be, they said it is as a result of grudge or bias, so therefore, it is assumed we do not understand the Op, meaning if we understand the Op and where she is coming from and what she types, we would always say "yes yes ride on, you are right, your topics are spot on, so much wisdom, you must have fallen down from the sky to be so full of wifely wisdom" that is the definition of not being bukky's hater. I'll only say this once, this is a faceless forum, I will comment on threads as I see fit, whether positively or negatively, with this my moniker obviously cos I have no other, I do not care about anyone's personality because all monikers are exactly what it is; a moniker, anyone that feels like gloating on my person should do that to their hearts content, and then when they are done, they will go back to their reality, and las las everyone will be alright. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
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