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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by ursullalinda(f): 9:59pm On Jun 08, 2020
Your mum has to get involved .........
at least you need an insider who is also an elder ...........to direct you on who and who to meet.......It's not a small battle oh.......but God will see you through.......May God save us from greedy family members.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by OLDESTWARRIBOY: 9:59pm On Jun 08, 2020
Bros be careful o those your uncles ways no pure o
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by KingRabota: 10:01pm On Jun 08, 2020
You have one hell of a battle ahead.

1. First question , How old are you ? If the opposition sees you as being too young they may feel that you are incapable of handling you father's estate

China man say , a man going on a revenge murder mission must first dig 2 graves.
Are you prepared for years of enmity, hatred and rancour that will surely emanate once you start your " action "

2. Now About your Fathers shop,
are you aware if your uncle and his brother ( your dad ) have any business arrangements ? For instance Regarding the financing and management of the business. Because if yes then uncle may have more property rights over the business than even you.

3. I don't know where you are from. But in my place we have what we call the " Umu Nna " even though If your place has this or something similar, then I'll expect your that uncles will be part of such. Take your complaint to them Because at least you may have a better chance of victory if you can get them to your side

4. What is your financial status. Because if your uncle's will be financially responsible then you can be sure they'll wanna be in charge of everything

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Nobody: 10:02pm On Jun 08, 2020
I suspect someone have a hand in his death and want to play a fast one so he don't retaliate... i have seen good advices here, so heed to them. Luck the shop with another key and go to the mutuary let them know u are the first son, nobody should touch his cops without u. Meanwhile, get the cops tally with u.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by LaIabobo: 10:02pm On Jun 08, 2020
Leave them alone!!!

Attend the burial with your mum and siblings, and leave immediately afterwards.
You are too young to drag issues with your dad's family.

Trust me, it never ends well.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Nobody: 10:03pm On Jun 08, 2020
They are jealous of your destiny.. grin
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by sageer1706(m): 10:03pm On Jun 08, 2020
Sorry for your lose... Bro the best advice I can give is for u to let ur uncle be, its better to be alive and healthy than fighting over burial arrangements that might cost u ur life (God forbide). Ur said uncle don't have regard for u and ur family

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by idonhammer: 10:04pm On Jun 08, 2020
Op, is your mum still alive?if yes, then she needs to call umunna asap. You also need to fortified yourself spiritually because our people say that if a child insists on knowing what killed his Father, what killed his Father will kill him.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Chikpat(m): 10:04pm On Jun 08, 2020
Sorry for the loss. Take heart and be a man
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by LexngtonSteele: 10:05pm On Jun 08, 2020
No tribalism. But likely Igbo.

Carchoice's advice is the very best.

"Success is the best revenge".... use it as an inspiration to expand your horizons and shame them.

IF you fight from a position of weakness, you might be easily defeated ( forgotten which of the 48 Laws of Power)

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by 12345baba(m): 10:05pm On Jun 08, 2020
Sorry for ur loss, are u married? If ur not u no
get mouth for the matter
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Omoluabi16(m): 10:05pm On Jun 08, 2020
Why are some siblings so wicked to their own flesh and blood. If they really loved their brother they should be mourning, and thinking on how to make this O.P and his siblings fulfill his potentials rather than scheming for properties. This is 2020 and people still do this!!

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by neonly: 10:06pm On Jun 08, 2020
Your life or your father property na parable I talk oooo
Burial things just flow with them cause it seems you are young or you don't have bar
May God be with you

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by callmeRichie(m): 10:06pm On Jun 08, 2020
[quote author=Aizen123 post=90328655]

Please bro, you've gat to take it easy now!

This is Nigeria o! Forget the fact he's your uncle! He's a potential killer abeg!

Those people don't care when it comes to properties after death! They can kill for it.

He has bad intentions against you or anyone that wanna query or block him in d way.


Come to think of it, who in his/her right senses buries someone else's father when his sons/daughters are not even aware

It's glaring he doesn't have u in his plans.

My advice: If you can talk to him softly about it, you can do. Tell him this man his your father and your responsibility that he should allow you to front it! See his reply afterwards

if there are elderly ones you can summon to talk to him, please do too

or better still, just play along and save your head!!!


May his soul RIP!!
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jun 08, 2020
Talk to your mom she should give you some idea and suggestions on what to do or how to approach your village elders on the issue

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Starz825(m): 10:06pm On Jun 08, 2020
One of your uncles is here on Nairaland as we speak
As your Matter don reach fp, he go reach them too for village meetings grin...

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Chikpat(m): 10:07pm On Jun 08, 2020
There are many things you can do irrespective of your age and means
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by egworlordor(m): 10:09pm On Jun 08, 2020
Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

You didn't specify where you're from.. how will someone advise you? But for the sake of your own life, don't argue with your uncles

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by stanisbaratheon: 10:09pm On Jun 08, 2020
Go get a court order and stop them. No need to fight.
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Chikpat(m): 10:09pm On Jun 08, 2020
There are many things you can do irrespective of your age and means.
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Blackmann001: 10:10pm On Jun 08, 2020
U us all your siblings and your mom should not attend the burial.....

That's the simplest way to make a silent statement without a fight....

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Ibime(m): 10:11pm On Jun 08, 2020
Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

Only listen to this guy if the properties hold little value and cannot be sold.

If the properties are valuable, go to the funeral with Police Escort, and after the funeral, take physical possession of what your dad worked for to pass to his sons.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by lastclaire4(f): 10:11pm On Jun 08, 2020
Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

My God! You are asking us like u dont know what to do? The greatest mistake you will ever make is to raise your hand and fight in any form.

That mistake is what they waiting for to strike. Please dont allow any of those things get to you. During burials you will see alot of characters. My advice is hold yourself. Dont allow anyone push you to fight back. Apart from your siblings dont express your displeasure in front of any relative.

Be calm. It will soon be over.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by masterP042(m): 10:11pm On Jun 08, 2020
Starz825:
One of your uncles is here on Nairaland as we speak
As your Matter don reach fp, he go reach them too for village meetings grin...

Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by don4real18(m): 10:12pm On Jun 08, 2020
It's obvious that they will later tell you that they used the money from the shop to do the burial ceremony.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Blackmann001: 10:12pm On Jun 08, 2020
LaIabobo:
Leave them alone!!!

Attend the burial with your mum and siblings, and leave immediately afterwards.
You are too young to drag issues with your dad's family.

Trust me, it never ends well.

A naive so body spotted
Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by Unigrad: 10:13pm On Jun 08, 2020
Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.
Op, all advices are wonderful but this is the best I will advice you follow. If possible, leave all the properties to them if they want to take it. Don't shun your father's burial.
As a lesson to all, ensure you will any of your property to who you want why still alive because it will save alot of troubles.

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by obonujoker(m): 10:13pm On Jun 08, 2020
My advice for you.

If you act or you don't act, they'd still kill you if they want....

Meet a pastor. Meet the elders. Infact you need a pastor if possible to go with you to the village.

Probably they want to do some ritualistic rites to bury along with you dad, so that when they start dealing with you, his spirit won't come and fight them.... Then they will subdue you and make you a slave, and what you are running for, will finally come for you.

Go with a deliverance pastor. Ask for the culture of burial rites in your village...being the first son, you are the one who has the legal rite to bury your dad, not one foolish theiving uncle.

It happened to me. I went with great men of God. I buried my Dad amongst all these. Secured 4 plots of land, and the rites belonging to a first son, when an uncle even told me I should bury my Dad in a room. I was taken to elders, and I asked what was the culture, and it was if the first son of the man...and I was able to speak up and choose where I wanted. Meanwhile the night, was vigil all through....

God be with you bro. Talk to other uncles. Explain this situation to a pastor

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by RPG2020(m): 10:13pm On Jun 08, 2020
Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.


If you like take my advice if you like don't take
Don't act any grama
Call your uncle let him know about the news don't raise your voice on phone try to be gentle for God sake
If your uncle comfirm the news then let him know you and your siblings are coming to the village for the burial arrangement so that your dad will rest in peace
Your assignment is not finish yet through out the burial don't let your dad down finish the gentle man your dad raise then after the burial say goodbye to everyone in peace go and live your life you are more than what you think don't waste your precious time with some taut

Finally Rest in peace to your dad the Lord is your strength

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by mastermaestro(m): 10:14pm On Jun 08, 2020
Aizen123:
thanks but still i can't let someone else take my father's sweat... Will surely follow them with wisdom and probably involve village elders if need arises even the youths have told me that they are behind me if it turns out they are planning something evil

Make sure you have a watertight relationship with GOD before you embark on this spiritual battle that deceptively looks physical. If you don't, just forget about everything. Don't be fooled by those mouthy youths who are actually escorting you to your own grave, I am sorry to say.
Evil lurks! They have perfected their plans. Don't fall into it. Watch and pray!

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Re: My Uncles Fixed My Late Father's Burial Without Informing Me, His First Son by letitrainnow(m): 10:14pm On Jun 08, 2020
Confront wisely.

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